For a while I’ve been feeling like I show my partner (26M) love more than he shows me. I went back to our messages for the month of August and I’ve realised that in total he has said unprompted I love you’s a total of 7 times in the entire month (i.e without me saying it first, or telling him i dont feel loved). Is this normal? I’ve counted my unprompted i love you’s – and I said them a total of 26 times. We both work very difficult jobs with long hours. So it took me too long to realise it as I dont usually go back and reflect on chats this way – i just felt like I needed some sort of evidence to back up how ive been feeling.
We hang out twice to thrice a week on average depending on how our schedule looks like. In real life its about the same with me being the one who predominantly shows more affection.
We have been together a little less than 2 years.
Am I overthinking this?
TL:DR, my boyfriend says rarely ever says i love you first – should I be worried?
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You are missing the point. Maths don’t really matter here.
Whay matters is what you feel about each-other and how honest that feeling is.
When I was less wise, I used to think that you could give a woman your kidney and she’d still complain that you don’t say “I love you” enough.
Basically, actions speak louder than words. Is he slacking? Is he majoring the majors? Does he show love in other ways? Saying “I love you” is important but actions should always tell you what you need to hear/know.
There are people that have perfected the act of majoring the minors and minoring the majors. Watch out for those.