This letter had a profound effect on me. I would wake up thinking about it, and go to sleep doing the same. My ex husband has a narcissistic personality disorder, I think she did as well. I never hated anyone until this letter, and I did not understand what it meant to forgive until this letter. Curious what others think about it. After my divorce, this letter was delivered to me from my mother in law. (*** is in place of names)
July 9, 2018
The Big “D” day
I have kept my mouth shut a lot of years. I remember when *** (FIL) died, you told me I should speak up and share my wisdom, that I was the matriarch of the family. That was also after you told me (in regards to funeral, etc.) I had no rights to say anything because **(FIL) and I were divorced, and what I thought didn’t matter (never mind we were married thirty three years). I also remember you called me, when I lived in the villa, telling me you wanted a divorce because *(ex) was too much like his dad. I have sat back and listened to your hateful mouth for years and kept quiet. I watched *(FIL) take all your smart mouth for years. When I asked him “why”? He would always say “she’s mental”. If we say anything it only makes *(ex) life miserable. *(FIL) also told me “I told you from the first time I met her she’s an opportunistic bitch!”, and was he ever right!! My first opinion of you was an intelligent young woman who could be an asset to my son. Was I ever wrong!! You have never helped him in any way. He could have had children with any woman with a uterus. You have sat on your skinny, ugly ass smoking and drinking while reaping the rewards of all of *(ex) hard work. You are an amoeba, and a leach, never contributing anything. He allowed it because he loved *(child) and *(child) so much. He wanted to keep the family together for them. He should have listened to your family counselor long ago when he suggested the divorce. You have, and continue to do irreparable damage to *(child) and *(child) I pray for them daily. Surely God will watch over them because you certainly do not have any parental instincts.
Looking back over the years, my son sure has paid a heavy price for hooking up with you. You lived together quite a while, and it wasn’t until he was about to leave California that you get pregnant. A Royal Trapping! That is the only way he would be with you. Of all the young women he dated, and was even engaged to, you were the least. No education, no nothing! Nothing to offer, just a California Cunt!
You know, I think of your mom. God did her a favor having her die young. She would be so disappointed in you. She realized early on when you were pregnant and hooked on painkillers that you would be trouble. Remember when you had the black nanny? Your mom took a leave of absence to come help *(ex) and she told him then that she would testify against you. She knew. However, I’m still thankful she doesn’t have to see it. No mother should have to see it. You are a very sick, evil, demon possessed person. Anyone who sets out to destroy another person will pay for it in the end. Someday God’s righteousness will prevail over all your lying, cheating, and whoring around. The girls will grow older into mature, discerning adults and know you for who you are, and what you did to their dad.
In the meantime, you can take **(ex) for his money, but you will still have no class! You’re a “nuthin muffin”. Always have been, always will be. You can sit in bars, and buy yourself men and attention.
You know, you can take my son’s money that he has worked so hard for, but you can’t take his personality, his love for God, and for what’s right, his work ethic, nor his business acumen. He’ll do just fine without you. You can’t survive on your own. You still depend on him to care for you. You can’t even get out and get a job or function in this world, although you’re only in your 40’s. I would like to see how much of the $3000.00 a month each girl is to receive, will actually go to them. I wish nothing but life’s worse circumstances for you. You’re a loser.
I am so thankful to say you are no longer my daughter-in-law. I wish you couldn’t keep the family name. You’re a true disgrace.
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Lol. And she says YOU are the one without class. That letter is one of the trashiest things I’ve read in awhile.
I know you are really, really, really, REALLY glad she’s now an EX mother in law. She seems like quite the asshole. Don’t know how you managed to tolerate this witch without snapping, and wouldn’t blame you if you did.
Hon, honestly, I’d have a hard time not obsessing over this twit, either. It’s maddening, insulting, degrading behavior and it’s awful that they continue to get away with this shit without people in their lives calling them on it. Karma will come. Sometimes it comes much much later than it should, but it eventually arrives.
That’s not a letter. That’s a manifesto written by someone rotting from the inside out. It screams “I lost control, so now I’ll vomit venom.” Honestly, she wrote more about herself than you. Let her rot in her own bile.
This is honestly one of the most horrible things I’ve read. Thank God she’s not in your life anymore.
That letter is absolutely horrid. Really vile, like an abscess of a person leaked their pus onto paper. Gross. I hope you’re able to burn it- it shouldn’t lurk in your home.
Thank goodness she’s not in your life anymore. But keeping that letter in your surroundings feels like bad juju.
It’s understandable that you are still dwelling on it seven years later. Burn sage after you’ve burnt it!
Well I see the Apple does NOT fall far from the tree
I hope exMIL has no contact with your children. If she does, need to go to court to prevent it in the future. I suspect exMIL always did not like you.
My take for your future: forget about exMIL unless you need to go to court. If you have to document everything and save all communications, past and in the future. If exMIL causes problems, talk to your lawyer immediately. It might actually be beneficial to show this to your lawyer.
Record every communication with exhusband, whether it is in person, or over the phone. use text for all communications. establish a record of what may be happening in the future. make sure they are not aware you are doing this. use your phone
Sorry you have been going thru all of this. The important thing to remember is who wrote this letter and how she should mean nothing to you going forward. I know it may be hard.
Also, if exhusband falls behind in support , go to court. Don’t let him off the hook. Also, don’t get into any kind of discussion/communication with exMIL – people like just strive on it.
Finally, exMIL does not deserve any forgiveness – what she deserves is for you to do your best to forget about her.
I hope you can rebuild your life and be able to enjoy your children.
It’s atrocious. Demeaning and horrifying.
But “California Cunt” made me giggle. I would own that. Make a button or a shirt.
Is any of it true? I mean, where the hell is she coming up with all this shit?
Isn’t she special. I seriously doubt anything supposedly said to her by others, about you. And I feel bad for her husband having had to put up with her.
Child support is supposed to SUPPORT the child. Food, rent, clothing, water, heating etc… She seems to think each daughter will be handed a stack of $100’s each month.
Don’t put up with her abuse. Notify your lawyer of the harassment and erase her from your life.
I’m sorry you are going through this.
There is a lot of ‘yous’ and zero self awareness. I am sorry your eyes and heart were subjected to such vile text. I can only imagine what it was like dealing with this woman in person over the years. She must truly be drowning in insecurities and jealousy to write such hurtful things about a human being. A decent person wouldn’t say a third of that to their worst enemy, even and especially if any of it was true.
Her letter is so awful it’s actually laughable, for someone who thinks so little of you she is still in desperate need of your attention. You intimidate her and drive her mad just by living your life. All that letter shows is how empty she is inside (and unsuitable to be anyone’s role model especially the girls she mentioned). This is what self hate looks like, it’s just very sad.
I would be torn between wanting to frame it and wiping my *ss with it.
She really represents the kindness and altruism that Jesus asked of his followers eh? 🤪🤢
I would be hating too. I hope you have been able to get past it and forget about it, an ex mil doesn’t get to talk to you. The best revenge is to live well
I see this letter is from 7 years ago. How are you and your children doing? Have you managed to keep MIL out of their lives?
Ironic you divorced her son for the exact same reasons she left his father. Some serious projection on her side. I’m glad you’re free from her.
Lolllll you gotta laugh how she thought and wrote all this down. The energy and effort. She called you every name under the sun. She’s so hate filled and that truly effects someone physically. She should have learnt to let go.
She seemed fixated on money and how you pointed out (rightfully) that she had no say in her ex husband’s funeral.
She is really pissed about the child support.
I would have stored the letter with instructions for the suspect list if I was murdered. (Ha). This does not warrant a response.
Do you have sole custody? I would fight for it based on the threat of parental alienation in this letter. She clearly is going to poison your kids against you.
I wish I could say this was not real, but sadly I think it’s in the realm of possibilities. I would love for her pastor to receive a copy of this and call her to repent.
Can we have your context and your side please?