Likely Last Post – Moving forward with separation, and JNMIL wants to move into the marital home. Fat chance!

Hey, I’m the one with the husband who said I should have brought back gifts for my homeless-by-choice drug addict MIL from my work trip, and I dropped the d-bomb (divorce) late last week. It’s been a hellish week, and MIL is seeing this as an opportunity. Quick recap below before more details.

Recap: I had an equally important (hint: very) and stressful (hint: very) work trip that I was preparing for while hosting my MIL for a week. I have one rule about all overnight visitors: you only get 7 days and nights, and I need 7 full days and nights to recharge. Basically one week on, one week off, rinse and repeat. MIL circumvented this one rule by asking my husband to let her stay a second and third consecutive week the night before I needed to catch a 3am flight, and he conceded under the belief that because I would be gone for a week, my rule wasn’t technically being broken. This lead to an explosive fight hours before I had to go; she stayed about halfway through the second week, and husband and I had another massive fight when I came home because he views my rules as the issue, not his mom. And yes, he did use the fact that I brought him gifts back from my trip, and not gifts for her too, as some proof that I am some bigoted witch who hates drug addicts/the mentally ill/the “less educated”. I decided at that point that our relationship has MIL shaped “irreconcilable differences”, and said that we should get divorced.

As I said, it’s been a hellish week…

As many of you kind souls predicted, husband folded on “his” convictions that I am actually secretly the devil incarnate as soon as I told him that I will be getting a lawyer (I already placed some calls) and suggested he get one as well. That my decision to divorce is “coming out of nowhere” despite years and years of swallowing her shit, and communicating both verbal and written rules to husband due to MILs behavior. Hell, he even initiated the conversations about how to handle her! He has cried, begged for forgiveness, and has attempted all forms of physical affection that I usually would do anything for, but I am too sad and broken to care. He will never have me or my love again; I can’t keep being hurt like this over and over and over again. And yes, we spoke at length (a 23+ hour conversation spanning over multiple days) about this, he knows that we are over even if he cannot accept it yet. I can’t either, in some ways.

I am planning on staying in the home that husband and I share as we purchased it together, but of course… MIL is already trying to move-in to “support” her son through the divorce. Like, damn bitch. You couldn’t wait for the corpse of our marital bed to become cold before trying to slither into my home? Fuck off.

She did this when her other son went through his divorce a few years ago. She said she was moving in to offer support, pay part of the mortgage (with what income? who knows! it’s a fun game of wondering what disease you’ll catch every time she shows up with a wet wad of cash!), and generally help, but it’s been 3 years and she hasn’t even attempted to move out. It’s hurting BIL’s dating prospects immensely, too, and I refuse to give her another free vacation home.

Long story short: fuck that bitch, I’m out of here.