Literally- how do you ask for what you want. How do you ACTUALLY phrase it?

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When it comes to being with someone- how do you actually ask for the things you would really love. Like handholding or them making you a cup of tea in the morning. It’s not demanding- it’s just explaining how much those things mean.

I know this sounds ridiculous but I’m so terrified that the answer will be no, that I end up becoming a mute and never asking.

So word for word- how do you guys actually ask for what you want?