Hello everyone, I need to vent about my mil and her disgusting behavior towards me. I don’t even know where to start, I’ll begin by saying that I’m supported by my girlfriend, she works and I’m looking for a job, and her mother lives with us far from our hometown. My mil has a husband, but she takes advantage of living with her daughter to work. Initially, I thought it could work, but then I noticed some strange behaviors… I’ll tell you directly about the last argument, or this post would become too long. A few days ago, she used one of my pans to make an omelette and didn’t wash it, so it was completely encrusted and I had to put in a lot of effort to save the pan… In a very calm and peaceful way, I pointed out to her that this type of pan needs to be washed immediately after use, otherwise it could get ruined like all the other pots. Do you want to know how she responded? She yelled “You can’t tell me what to do about your pan, I won’t use it anymore, it’s a cheap pan and you don’t spend a euro in this house” which is not true, because even though I’m not working, I contribute to the household expenses, at least for food and other things… She knows how much I’m struggling to find a job and she has the nerve to say that I don’t buy anything. She also always stares at me when I cook, what I cook or clean, when I come home with food… I really don’t understand, it seems like she’s studying me to attack me when we have discussions. Another thing, when my girlfriend and I are on the couch watching a series/movie and she’s also there next to her daughter, she always holds her hand… And I’ve noticed that she does it also when she sees that my girlfriend is cuddling me, she stares at us. I’m really sad about this situation and I feel misunderstood by my girlfriend and her family in general, because everyone tolerates her behavior while I see how badly she treats me. Everyone uses the excuse “she’s just like that” and it’s really getting old. And I hate that she has to live with us when my girlfriend and I are a couple… She doesn’t want to accept her limits.
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