If the parents suck then moving out is understandable. But once one turns 18 in today’s time, living on one’s own is like walking into a rock concert expecting an orchestra. Frontal lobe ain’t fully developed until age 25; so young adults will still make bad decisions without fully thinking it through.
Staying with the parents means cheaper rent (or no rent), delicious home cooked meals, and the ability to practice being an adult for longer with the support of said parents. And lower rent/no rent means it’s easier to eventually save up for one’s own place down the line. It also means no needing to travel back and forth for holidays.
Choosing to stay and live with parents isn’t being lazy or weird; it’s giving more time to prepare for adulthood and time to save up for one’s own place. It also means more time with family; more memories, more love, and more support when times get tough.
Edit: making this as I’m just tired of all the social media posts going on and on about how “living with parents is a nightmare” (because gasp! they have to do chores – you’d have to do it anyways living on your own) or how “so and so is staying with their parents – how lazy”. Smh
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I don’t think anyone is denying that it’s beneficial, it’s that a lot of people think you should be able to stand on your own at that point.
It’s less about living with your parents being useless and more about it being embarrassing that you can’t support yourself at that age.
In my country it was very common that few families (parents, and their 2-3 kids with their families) lived in 1 house, and those had 3-4 storey houses. Than it was popular to move out at 18-20. I guess now economical situation will force people to stay with parents for longer, but our houses are no more adjusted to host so many people :/
the only time this is ever unpopular is when the adult kid fails to move out after a very lengthy stay and they dont try to get a job or become independent once theyre able to stable. all they do is suck their parents momey dry and keep their fridge empty. im talking like theyre 40 and wont move out due to their own laziness of not wanting to and not due to caring for their parents or another valid reason. in this economy, its more and more accepted to do this. in non western places, this is normal.
I think that with the wealth gap is going, it will become standard to stay at home
I moved out at 19 to go to university and it was a real time of growing up for me. Suddenly I could do what I want, when I want, I was fully in charge of myself with all the responsibilities that entailed. Did I always make good decisions? Of course not. But I learned so much.
At 27 I moved back in with my parents, to save up money. I’m really grateful to them for that because it helped me save up a lot of money and I own my own place now. But it was hard, it’s harder to be an adult when you are with your parents because they just can’t quite see you as one. Even though I had lived independently for years, they still see you as their child, there is still the nagging, the questioning, and a lack of independence.
So yes it’s very beneficial financially, but I don’t think it’s good for growth. You talk about delicious home cooked meals but it’s a lesson to learn to be reliant on yourself for food.
My relationship with my parents greatly improved once I moved out
I moved out of my mom’s place asap because she wasn’t really down with me having girls spend the night.
Are you serious? Your parents deserve to live without an oversized child they have to still take care of, with all the work and expense that comes with, and not able to enjoy having raised their children already and taking it easy for once. And what about dating? You’re going to bring someone back to your childhood bedroom? As it stands, rents are so high in the US that people are unable to move out, but that’s generally viewed as a bad thing, not a life goal. Congrats, it’s a truly unpopular opinion.
Yes and no, of course you’re not developed at 18 yet but moving out earlier DOES for a lot of people force them TO develop faster. IF they get it right, then at age 25 they are FARRR more experienced, developed and adjusted to real life then somebody that has their training wheels on till 25.
Im saying this as somebody that moved out at 19, and decided to buy a house together with his parents 35 so me and my wife can take care of them and they can help us take care of our children.
US? This whole “frontal lobe” talk and people being children forever is something I mostly hear from there. Not saying the brain doesn’t develop anymore, but you can function, as an adult, far before 25. This whole eternal infantalization seems really weird.
Also, as a parent I won’t be kicking my kids out of the house once they reach adulthood, but I will sure see that they get on to a path enabling them to move out and live their own life. They deserve an own life, and so do my wife and I.
And once they have a job, I do expect them to at least cover their costs (groceries, electricity etc.) in form of a rent.
No its not.
The only time its acceptable to live at home with your parents as an adult, is if you can’t afford to move out and you have no other choice, its either with your parents or on the street.
But if you can live on your own as an adult, you should live on your own.
Now you don’t have to move out the moment you turn 18, but you should be out on your own by the time you are 25, that is if you can afford it.
But maybe that is a culturally thing, in my country most people move out on their own by the time they are 21.
Beneficial to who?