My (32F) husband (32M) have been together for years now with 3 young children. It feels more like a roommate situation more than a relationship. No cuddling, kissing, hugging, touching of any kind really. Sex only if I ask for it which I can only summon the courage to do about once a month since it feels so forced. I don’t feel desired or attractive. I am an objectively attractive person as I am looked at/told im pretty often. One of his friends actually just tried to have sex with me (he was very drunk) and although I of course rebuffed him it felt nice to feel desired.
I’m just not sure what to do, my sex drive is high and his is not which is fine but I need some sort of attention. He drinks a lot and I’m sure that’s not helping his libido/testosterone but he refuses to talk about his drinking.
Im just lonely. Should I leave? In every other way he’s wonderful, I’m just not sure I can spend the rest of my life feeling like this.
TL;DR lonely in marriage, should I leave.
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Have you tried counseling? Individual for him and couple for the both of you
If he’s drinking quite a bit it could be some mental health issue/addiction going on.
Marriage is work but it’s up to you to determine whether or not if you up to doing it.
Start with a conversation. Ask him how you can lighten his load or if anything is on his mind. Suggest counseling
Friday plans, “I’ll take the 100, thank you very much.”