About a month ago my girlfriend came home from work on my birthday and told me shes moving back in with her mom across the country. We’ve been together for 3 years. It was a family emergency type of situation and we swore to figure something out. I was/ and am down but she accidentally left her email signed in on my computer. Ofcourse wanting to get my feelings hurt, I snooped. Come to find out, the day she moved she got on FB dating, started changing all of her passwords etc. I found out she has been talking to some dudes she met on xbox for hours on the phone (even when we lived together still) Everything was deleted and when I asked her about it she lied and denied everything even with screenshots. She swears up and down its nothing but shes been caught in so many lies, I dont know what to do. My heart and soul wants to believe her, but the sneakiness etc makes my stomach say no. Am I trippin, theres a good reason she deleted everything and changed all PWs right? Its a lot deeper than what shes leading on?
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Trust your instincts AND the facts you have seen with your own eyes and end it. You’ll be a lot happier in the long run.
Hey buddy, I hate to say it but you seem to be thinking straight. What you found is indisputable.
It sounds like she doesn’t have a clue what she wants. You need to go over this again, and just flat out tell her: I know you’ve been talking to multiple guys & you’re signed up for fb dating. I need you to admit it to me, are you in denial of what you did?
If she can’t accept and say to you that she feels what she did was really wrong and totally understands how you were hurt by her.. You have no choice but to leave.
Look up the meaning of the word ‘gaslighting’
She dumped you without you knowing. Just ghost her now and give her what she wants. It doesn’t matter what she says, you found the truth out anyway.