TDLR: Boyfriend and I are new to long distance (5 months now) and I’m having trouble understanding if this is just normal or if he’s just not that into me.
My boyfriend and I have been dating a year and a half and are both active duty Marines. We were the same MOS but then he reenlisted and LAT moved into a field MOS. Which I’m so happy for him, as he’s wanted this a long time. However, we went from seeing each other everyday, to him moving 3 1/2 hrs away, seeing each other every two weeks and more recently once a month. We don’t FaceTime frequently and mostly text and do one phone call a day and at minimum say goodnight over the phone. He doesn’t really plan things with me, because he can’t promise something won’t pop up. I’m currently at his duty station for four days because I’m on a course, 10 mins up the road from him, and he comes over but doesn’t seem that interested while he’s here.But says he’s ignoring things he’s gotta get done and his friends to hang with me. I also just learned I’ll have the weekend off, and he could come visit, but he wants to see his other friends instead, when we both realized we won’t see each other for another month and he could see his friends next weekend or during the week. He’s coming over as I type this, but I can’t help feel this isn’t normal for someone who’s in a long distance relationship. I wouldn’t think he would want to take advantage of my random weekend off, but maybe it’s more normal he doesn’t want to.
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Its understandable to feel hurt and confused long distance is hard especially when effort feels onesided His priorities right now friends over spending extra time with you could be normal for some people but its also okay to expect effort and planning from a partner Try having an honest conversation about how you feel and what you need to feel valued in the relationship even with the challenges of military life