Let me start by saying we have known each other for 7 years now. We weren’t ever close but we’d speak to each other at the gym we were going to. One day, he asked me to go out with him because he had always had a crush on me so I agreed. During the first date , things went great , we went to a mexican spot and got drinks and food. I noticed that he wouldn’t open my car door which is important to me ( just my standard) and so we went on three more dates and on the third , he said something that made me upset. I wasn’t going to wear a bra to the bar we were going because I never really wear them anyways. He literally refused to let us leave and go without me putting on one and then when I told him to never do that again because I won’t tolerate it , his response was “ fine, just let your chest show through your shirt then. all i said was for you to put a bra on in just protective” and so i let it go. then later on, i asked if he would mind to also open my car doors and his response was “ not like i don’t open the doors at the restaurants but okay. forget everything the man does. “ he also constantly makes lustful statements about wanting to eat me and i barely know him like that.
so we went on another date, at this point i’m kinda annoyed with him but wanted a final date for me to give him some closure. on this date , we laughed and had fun. but whenever women would come in, he would look them up and down and state how he found them super attractive and i got to the point where i would agree with him because i am bisexual and he did it so often. he started making me feel bad about being bisexual saying that it’s gross and he didn’t wanna hear about me finding women attractive. then he went on a drunk tangent how he hates how much money i make at my bartending job and that the only reason my online businesses are successful so because “ im hot and guys will pay”. keep in mind i was trying to describe to him how much work my business required and that was his response. when he dropped me off , i have just been ghosting him. he says how much he really adores me and has alot of feelings but i don’t feel the same. i grow more disgusted with him.
TDLR: went on some dates with a long term friend who ended up being the unexpected. how should i tell him that i am not interested in him?
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“Hey I don’t think we’re a good match. Thanks for the time together, and good luck.”
Don’t justify yourself. You don’t need an essay with MLA sources on how he isn’t fit to be your boyfriend.
Why do you even want to be friends with a douche?
Next time he asks to go out with you, just say, “No thanks.”
You had a few dates, but he’s not your boyfriend. You don’t have to break up with him because you were never together. Don’t get snowed into giving him more “closure”, you don’t owe him anything and whatever feelings he has he can deal with them on his own.