Basically title. We’ve together for awhile and she wants me to move closer to her.
Initially I thought she wanted me to move closer to her area was because of school district which it is, somewhat.
But I found out the real reason which is because she finally feels rooted in the area. She’s not from the country and she’s moved around. She feels that if we move closer to my work place, she loses out on all the friends she has in the area.
I don’t have any friends in the area. So when I heard this, I felt like I truly understand it means a lot to her. So I felt like I can do it. If other people at work can do longer (at least 4 of coworkers do 40+ and one 60 miles+ each way), why can’t I?
But I feel this sense of doubt and second guessing. Overall, my time won’t change much from what it is currently anyways. My current time is roughly 1:20 ish. And the new area will be roughly 1:40 ish best time. My current commute is 19 miles. The new commute is 42 miles. But this is also with no traffic (ie leaving before 6:00 am. In the morning and leaving the office around 3 pm.
Idk what to do. We’ve talked about it 4 times already and i thought of every option.
There is a train station but I need to transfer. I don’t exactly want to leave my job and there are no government jobs in her area. Plus everything is unstable.
But tbh, I don’t think I would be able to afford a nice house without her either so.
What should I do?
TLDR; gf wants me to move closer to her. We talked it out, it’s because she wants to be closer her friends and the community she’s finally rooted herself in. I don’t have any friends in the area so I don’t care as much. But commute will effectively double in length. Time will remain the same. We have talked about it 4 times already. I’m not sure what to do.