Hello. F 43 looking for men’s perspective.
My husband and I have been together for 4 years. We both come from ‘colorful’ pasts. Long story short, he keeps meeting females and trying to get them jobs: lunch, dinner drinks, etc. Which I’d be fine with if he told me about it. But he doesn’t. He lies, withholds the truth and deletes their messages. I have asked him several times to just keep me in the loop, but he doesn’t. Am I crazy for wanting a divorce over it?
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Personally, I believe that married men can’t have female friends unless wives are also friends to them and vice versa.
That being said it doesn’t even have to involve meeting females. If he is truly what you say, how can anyone trust him?
Why stay with someone if you can’t trust them?
You’re not crazy but your husband sounds like he doesn’t manage his relationships very well and maybe might have a lot of shame in general.