Saw a post recently that touched on vasectomies on Reddit being viewed very positively, but what about those who have no kids and have gotten it done? Did you struggle with the decision? Is there a part of you that still wishes to be a father? My SO doesn’t want kids and I am somewhat indifferent (or perhaps more accurately, amicable to either).
Thoughts?
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If you go to a good doctor they can make it reversible.Edit: The keyboard doctors below are well versed in this subject.
At you’re age and childless i would never do it. Never. Having said that I’m snipped but I’ve raised a son and I’ve been there. It could affect your life more than you think in 10 years. Let her do her thing if she doesn’t want kids. I wish I could’ve had more kids. Its a real sore spot for me now
My wife and I didn’t want kids and she wanted to get off birth control. Got snipped, 5 years later, still don’t want kids and have no worries about pregnancy at all. No struggle, no part of me that wants to be a father, all in all a great decision.
Do it.
25-29 year old you may feel way differently about this than 35-39 year old you. Impossible to say. Lots of people didn’t regret it. Many people didn’t. Also, late failure rate of vasectomy is about 1 in 1000 so you aren’t sterile. Failure rate of OCP with perfect use is 3 in 1000.
“somewhat indifferent” isn’t where you want to be to get the snip at your age with no kids.
I got mine done at 25, and zero regrets, but I had two kids, and my wife and I were a definite “no” to more kids.
Go for it. The whole “you might change your mind” logic is pretty bullshit after 25.
I’m childless and had one done a few months ago. No regrets but I’m quite a bit older than you. Like another poster said, wait a while longer. The fact that you’re asking here makes me think you aren’t ready.
Do it, the human race is kinda cooked. Don’t leave any offspring behind so they can struggle like everyone else.
I was thirty-four when my son was born. Your SO may change their mind. Your SO may change. You may change. Why not keep that door open a while longer? There will be a point after which you feel like you’re too old to have a kid, and that imho is a better time to close that door.
I knew I didn’t want kids at 12. There is absolutely nothing appealing about having children.
My doc won’t approve me for it.
But he is looking into a new temp vasectomy with a Vasalgel that’s suppose to get approved for use in the US this year.!
If you’re not 100% sure, it’s better to wait.
Aren’t there therapies available to take stock of whether or not you want to become a parent before taking the plunge? That could be an idea.
I don’t have kids. Don’t want any. The SO is the same. Got mine booked.
Weird how “you might change your mind” never applies to the people that do want kids.
Look, if your SO doesn’t get on the same page as yours, it’s their responsibility to eliminate the risk, not yours. My advice to you is: keep her on pills until you’re very sure about not having kids. You never are too sure about the future.
At 36, I’ve never felt the pull towards fatherhood so I’ll be getting snipped this year. But I actively don’t want kids; if you’re not dead-set on that decision, don’t do it.
Vasectomies are technically reversible, but it’s difficult, expensive and not a sure thing, so you should consider it irreversible. Wait until you’re certain.
I knew from a young age I did not want kids. Got snipped at 22 (1979) through planned parenthood. Don’t even think about it until something like this is asked.
Nearing 45 years old, and I hate screaming poop machines that babies are. Will probably get the snip before I get a mortgage, tbh.
There are more than enough orphans and suffering in the world to justify not having your own biological children.
You want kids or not? There’s your answer.
Don’t do it unless you are too old to start another family.
If you’re indifferent, get it done
Nobody wants a fuckin lukewarm dad.
I would have a lot less stress and a lot more money and free time without kids. I love them dearly and they have rewarded me in other ways but I got snipped after three and definitely happy to not worry about having anymore. If you don’t want kids I think that’s cool and can see why someone would make that choice.
Depends how sure you are, and if you can reverse it.
Just use condoms.
Being a father wasn’t high on my list but since I did become a dad I’m so happy that I have my daughter. It’s difficult to convey this to anyone but a child usually makes you very happy
I did it. Not a single regret. My lady and I both have no desire to have kids and due to the political climate in America the last few years, I decided to get one. Best decision I ever made and sex is 1000 times better
31, no kids, don’t want them. Wife is in the same boat. If we don’t change our minds by 35 I’m getting snipped.
36 – got snipped at 25, no kids. Was back at work that afternoon. Just get it done if you want.
I don’t care. If that’s what you want, and it doesn’t hurt anyone around you/is illegal, doesn’t hurt me… why would I give even the slightest fuck? Same for women that want to have similar procedures; why would I give a shit?
Now, the people that need to announce it, or make it some huge deal? That’s bothersome, to me. It feels like they’re wanting to start shit, act on bad faith. Just do what you were going to do; leave the rest of us out of it.
Snip-snap, snip-snap, snip-snap!
Had a V at 30, now 62 never regretted it.
Do it. Do it now.
It’s very easy to find divorcees with children later in life if you decide eventually you NEED children.
Otherwise it was a great choice. No stress of condoms (with committed partners), no stress of accidental pregnancies with casual partners, your long term person can stop being affected by birth control and stop and save money, you have MUCH more disposable income to live your dreams without childcare and college funds and general costs of being a parent.
And also a dog gives a lot of dopamine like kids if you want something to care for later as another option.
No kids.
Did not want kids.
Still do not want kids.
I do not understand the issue.