i feel like it’s something you should want to achieve in life. i’m 20 so i really don’t know anything but making it to “old age” is the goal.looking old is the goal. idk if i will feel like this forever but if i make it to 90 i want to look old, i want to look like i have lived a life. if you get botox thats fine, but why do you want to look frozen in time? i wouldn’t want to look 15 forever. i hated being 15.
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Fire take.
I am utterly convinced that if I keep in shape I’ll look fucking fire at like 50. Men in my family barely bald and I REALLY want the grey side of the head and beard while stache and the top stays dark Omni-Man style
You can either look old or look weird. You can not look young again.
Agreed. I have no idea why we fetishize youth so much.
Welp this is definitely an unpopular opinion, from my perspective at least.
I’d much rather look young, especially when I’m in my 60s and 70s (if I make it that far).
Looking old automatically makes you look awful and decrepit. No thank you
The word “privilege” is so horrible. It’s like these people who use it never heard that the grass is always greener on the other side.
The way to age gracefully is to look old when you’re young.
See Wilford Brimley
It’s not privilege. So sick of that word. It’s a goal. One you have to work at.
Get back to is in a few decades…I’m sure your attitude will have changed.
No. Being old is the privilege. Looking (and feeling) old is the price you pay for that privilege.
Not to mention getting botox just makes you look like an old person with weird skin.
Take it from me, the debilitating parts of getting old really do suck. So keeping healthy throughout life is a great idea. You won’t dodge old age, but having arthritic joints & failing senses is a lot better than having arthritic joints & failing senses & not being able to open jam jars or climb stairs or get out of chairs or ride bicycles or sleep when you want. The good news is: my generation of old people are better at this stuff than our parents, so I expect you guys to keep sumo wrestling & playing tennis into your 80s.
As to the cosmetic side – pffft. I agree with OP – if you’ve earned the mileage, wear it with pride.
I thought this was a great take then saw OP was 20 and I’m 35 and depressed again
When you are young you want to look old and when you are old toy want to look young again. Enjoy the sweet spot between 20 and 40 where you pretty much in your peak range. After 40 you can still look good but it usually takes more effort.
When you are young you don’t realize that when you reach that age where you look wise and experienced that the people who are attracted to you become weirder and more problematic. Either younger people with mommy or daddy issues, gold diggers if you have money, or people coming in with a ton of baggage from past relationships (kids that they expect you to bond with enough to help them take care of but not enough to have a say about anything that happens, crazy exes getting out of prison or who still co parent and still have a bit of a secret thing with, on and on)
Shits way less complex when you are younger in my experience. Enjoy it while you got it
Doesn’t matter what shape you in. Shit will start aching you didn’t know can ache at age 40
I love this OP. I lost some good friends way too young, and I’m grateful for each day.
I’m getting old. (61). My mom and in-laws are over 90. All are active. I hope to be healthy and happy that they are.
Do I love that my eyebrow have sunk to my eyes? Or the boobs leaning that way too? Or the fact that the doc who removed my melanoma and left an 8 inch scar on my face tried to match to the wrinkles on the other side? No. Do I mind my grey hair? No.
It is so easy at 20 to be so sure that you will not care as your body shows wear. Suggesting that you are better than the person who isn’t as filled with joy as you will be at the reality.
Being grateful for time on the earth has nothing to do with being sad for their body aging.
Says the 20 year old, you probably have good bone structure and won’t look like a failed attempt at a human face as you age.
Aim for the type of 90 where you still walk 5 miles a day, not for the type of 90 where you need a walker.
Yeah anybody that doesn’t actually agree with this already looks old. As someone who struggles to look my age, it’s hard because I get treated like I am not as wise as my years and experiences because people think I’m younger than I actually am.
Whatever comes of itself, let it come!
When you’re a super-youngin like you are, looking old can be of great benefit as long as you look good.
And often times, looking old “works” until it doesn’t. You don’t wanna look 65 at 39.
It took 43 years of hiking, biking, backpacking, skating, and snowshoeing to get these wrinkles and sunspots.
I’ll take em.
couldnt agree more op. Im slowly getting a gray stripe in the front of my bangs and I cant wait for it to fill in
In society this is typically very gendered. For me men, people associate wisdom, wealth, experience to old . For women, their societal value has historically (the legacy of which still holds true today) in their youth.
So it’s much ‘easier’ for men to grow old without stigma , while women spend god knows how much on hair dye and skin fillers just to avoid it.
For ot to change, we need to reward as a society women choosing to age with grace but we don’t.
I’m in my 60s now and half of my hair & all of my beard is grey. I have wrinkles, laughed lines & scars… and they all tell the story of not just my life but the scars show that whatever tried to kill me failed. I got up again! Yeah, I’m creakier than I used to be but I woke up this morning so I’m calling it a win. I’m 20 years post heart ❤️ transplant. When I got it the average lifespan was 10 years.
Yes- look forward to getting old but do your best to make sure your body doesn’t get old before YOU do!! Be well young man.
In my personal opinion, once you chop your face up, you cannot get it back.
So I would much rather wait until I have the issues to fix rather than trying to fix issues that might come up later on .
I think in 20 years when I start to show the signs of my age, there will be new advancements in treatment and Botox and wrinkle creams so much so that anything I do right now is going to either counteract or interfere with those future treatments.
Imagine in 20 years if we just have this laser that goes across your face in 20 seconds and fixes any imperfections ?!
When older people want to look frozen in time, no one is thinking 15. Most are probably thinking 25-30.
right!? were going to look wise af, and thats goals for sure