Location: Alabama
Basics, marriage of 20 years. Husband is a general practice doctor. Wife is a stay at home mom. One child is 13 and in private school. Husband surprised wife with everything but divorce papers. The income is 100% brought in by the husband.
, although they married while he was still in school. What steps should the wife, or each other take, to make the inevitable divorce as smooth as it could possibly be.
Comments
Talk to a lawyer you trust asap
Collaborative divorce- Google it
There is only one answer.gather everything you can about your finances, assets and liabilities, then hire a lawyer NOW. Generally, he already took steps before telling her, so she needs to go further back recreating their financial picture; who knows how long he’s been planning this. Casually mention needing a forensic accounting and watch his eyes pop out of his head while his neck veins explode…
Protect yourself financially from someone who didn’t. I thought if I was “nice” and didn’t go after all of our assets, that we would have less hostility. Stupid, stupid, stupid.
The number 13 has me concerned, though.
My story: When I was going through a custody hearing with my ex, his attorney got a grin on his face and asked me “How old were you when your parents divorced?”
I answered “13”
Next he asks “and how many years were you married?”
I answered “13”
Then he asks “and how old is your youngest?”
Answer: 13 years.
He was just grinning from ear to ear because he knew that I didn’t understand why he was asking irrelevant questions.
Thirty years later, I have only now come to realize my ex, his lawyer, and the judge were all in a secret society and 13 is a ritual number to do evil. I lost custody through no fault of my own.
This secret society rapes, steals, and murders as their religion.
Your husband may or may not belong to one, but be aware. They have been marrying nonmembers for hundreds of years. I guess to get more to join them.