I’m 16F and my best friend Jake took his own life last month. We’ve known each other since we were kids, shared everything, and I never saw this coming. He always joked around and made everyone laugh, but I guess he was hiding a lot of pain. I feel so empty and guilty for not noticing sooner. How do I even start to heal from this?
Lost my best friend to suicide and I don’t know how to move on
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Grief takes time; talk about your feelings and cherish your memories with him.
damn bro i am really sorry to hear that , he is in heaven now . i know it feels so bad and like hell right now but try to push forward spend time with your family take a walk sometime . u dont have to take all that alone try living day by day
I’m so sorry and I recommend grief counseling with a licensed therapist.
Sorry for your loss. I found this quote somewhere, and it got me through several people passing-
“Death leaves a wound no one can heal, but love leaves memories no one can steal”
You won’t be able to replace him, but you’ll grow bigger around the hole that he leaves and it’ll hurt a little less, then one day you’ll find someone who can fill that hole, you’ll still see the hole, but somehow at least now, it’s protected, it’s filled and you can feel whole again. You’ll get through it.
don’t guilt trip yourself for not noticing. A lot of people intentionally hide it when they’re struggling, their really isn’t much you could have done differently, and Jake wouldn’t want you beating yourself up for this.
As Reddit’s resident OG Grape Street Crip, when it comes to grief there’s only 2 types of people.
Those that eventually decide to do something else because they’re tired of being depressed.
Those that get consumed and eventually crushed by it like an addiction.
Luckily for us, in most cases you just have to wait it out because 99.999% of all humans belong to group 1 since Mother Nature punishes quitters harshly and rewards resilience with all her love.