Since my last post I’ve had a reality check that I really need to set some boundaries/stand up for myself
My first step is going low contact with SIL. Have anyone of you told someone you are going low contact? How did that work out? Or did you just block them?
This is mostly Facebook messenger. I deleted her from my friends list hoping she’d get the message. A few months of beautiful peaceful silence and she’s started messaging me on messenger. Basically being pushy and asking us to come over, do things with her etc. Won’t respect I want to keep my distance
I’m thinking blocking may be the answer but she’s so pushy I’m sure she’ll confront me in person. Hubby’s not on board with NC yet so I’ll still see her every now and then
The other option is to tell her to message hubby instead and if she asks why tell her I need some space
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No, you don’t tell anyone you are going LC or NC, you just do it. There are different ways of going LC. You can just ghost them and evade them if you see them in person with things like “oh I’ve been really busy” or “my messenger hasn’t been doing notifications lately”. Avoid outings or meetups with “our budget is really tight for the next few months..” Remember to grey rock them. Be super cold and boring and give them no actual info about your lives at all. When they ask you questions just give one word answers or even no answer when possible.
If you did ask her to message husband instead, wouldn’t he just agree to even more meet ups and events? You two need to be on the same or at least similar pages here….