M/19 Can’t reach orgasm during sex with my girlfriend F/19. What should I do?

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This is such an embarrassing thing to post but I need a solution. I tried to provide as much information as I could this is just super embarrassing.

I have been dating this girl for like a month and we have had sex several times, but I can never reach an orgasm. She is the first and only I have had sex with. I was under the impression that most guys orgasm quick, I was brutally mistaken.

I can make her orgasm a couple times during sex, not including fingering. But no matter what position, no matter how long I receive oral, I cannot orgasm.

We have only had protected sex, thinking that might be the issue, I asked her to get on birth control so maybe It can be enjoyable for me too. She agreed and scheduled an appointment with the gynecologist. Currently waiting to hear back on that.

Today, I had sex with her for 2.5 hours. 50% of which was actual sex, and I did not orgasm. all that work to receive nothing.

I don’t have any ED. If I take a break for longer than 30 seconds it will usually go limp, but during the sex it is fine so I don’t think that is the issue.

I don’t think size is the issue, I have 7″ to work with.

What’s weird is that I can orgasm within 5-10 minutes of masturbation, but no matter how long I have sex I get nothing. I have masturbated daily for the past 5 years. I have never had any issue reaching an orgasm.

Please give me any advice you think would help, I am still under my parents insurance so I don’t really want to go to the doctor because then they would know. plus it is just a super embarrassing thing to go to the doctor for. Please help, I want to be able to enjoy sex

Comments

  1. tuxedo- Avatar

    Stop masturbating daily

  2. Barrdogg2000 Avatar

    Sounds like maybe too much masturbation, or you masturbate with too much of a grip on your penis and are now conditioned to need that level of sensation to climax.

    Alternatively are you on any medication? Anti depression meds can affect your ability to climax.

    Or the last possibility is that you’re just not that attracted to your partner.

  3. -Tigg- Avatar

    Cut back on the masturbation. When you do masturbate break up the routine. Learn what other sensations feel good for you, explore other parts of your body. Sex isn’t just about the genitals.

    Also maybe increase the foreplay for you. From your description it sounds like you are just expecting penetrative sex to be enough for you but it obviously isn’t. She could use her hand or mouth on you or you can use your hand on yourself.

  4. Netz_Ausg Avatar

    It’s common for people starting to have sex not to reach orgasm the first couple times. However, stop jerking it so often, that will help massively. Condoms are not the issue here.

  5. singlelegtuck Avatar

    Stop watching porn or jerking off too much you ain’t fooling anyone.

  6. EdmundTheInsulter Avatar

    Do not masturbate one day and schedule sex for the day after, on which of course you don’t masturbate.
    If you have not had an orgasm after 30 minutes then maybe you could masturbate or your GF could do it for you.
    You’d have to discuss it with your GF in advance of course, if she agrees, I mean the part about scheduled sex.