So my girlfriend has strict Indian parents, and ever since her mum found out about me by seeing her messages, she’s tightened up on her strictness. When my girlfriend goes out more than once a week, her mum says she’s going out too much, she has to have her location on 24/7, and has to send picture proof that she’s not with me every time she goes out for even a second. Along with this, her parents obsessively look at her location 24/7, for example, we went out together last week and on the way back home she drove us the longer way home so that she could drop me off at my house, and her parents INSTANTLY noticed the fact that she was taking another route home somehow and spam called her WHILE SHE WAS DRIVING, and questioned why she was taking the different way home and kept asking who she was with. What can she do about all this? What tricks can she do to get away with spending time with me? What can I say to help her? etc etc
TL;DR (M18) Girlfriend’s (F18) parents want picture proof that she’s with her friends, and her location on 24/7
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Escalating the battle via deception is not going to work.
She either has to remove thier ability to control and spy (which may not be possible at her age) or she needs to tell them the truth about what she is doing, and let them freak the hell out about it, without her giving in.
The more she tries to trick them, the harder they will work to catch her. If she tells them the truth, and gets away with doing it anyway, they will either come up with unbearable consequences (which again, is a risk at 18 years old) or they will accept that she is being honest about what she is doing and that they are not able to stop her.
If she acts like they has to hide this from them, they will treat her like the child she’s behaving as.
If you assist her in deceiving them, they will always hate you and never trust her, and they will be right.
Is she legally an adult? is She still in high school? What are her plans for moving out?