I had an extremely intense 24 hours with a woman I met off reddit 5 days ago. We talked over instagram for a few days and we were both extremely into each other and very conversational. Both late 20s.
It culminated into a cute park date. We met and drank wine, talked for hours. We got handsy and decided to head back to mine where we proceeded to have sex 5 times for the next 8 hours. I cooked us dinner, we had some very deep and intimate conversations. She admitted to me I was the hottest, most receptive, etc. person she’s ever met. I also thought she was fantastic.
The next day we had sex a couple of more times and chatted, and she went off to get brunch with her friend. She even texted her friend that morning that I blew her mind in several different ways. She admitted that she was pretty drunk the night before which was a shock to me because she was extremely coherent and we had some very deep conversations about life.
Since then I’ve only gotten 1-2 short texts a day from her, very impersonal in nature. We were texting a ton prior to meeting up which has dropped off a cliff. She did tell me she has an insane work schedule especially this week (60-80 hour weeks), but the intense first date filled with affection followed by a drop off in communication is definitely triggering some abandonment issues.
I’m thinking of texting her something like “I know you’re extremely busy right now but I just want to make sure we’re on the same page, I really like you and would like to keep getting to know you”. Is that being overly clingy? Open to any advice.
TLDR: Intense first date lasted 24 hours, now experiencing a drop off in communication. Do I just sit back or be clear with her about how I’m feeling?
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Woman here. I would give it some time. A few days. You don’t want to appear needy or desperate.
Hey cutie, Iād say wait a bit. Not to play games or anything, just cause sometimes a bit of space is needed after an intense click like that – even when 2 people are extremely into each other. Relax, stop texting, and let her come to you. You can also text her in a few days or after this week and invite her to watch a movie. Keep it casual, if it is your person it will work out š
If it was as intimate and as intense as you describe, for both of you, I would just text her “I find myself waking with a deep craving for seeing you, touching you, kissing you” or something like that showing deep desire.
Don’t go immediately towards the “hey, are you ghosting me?” route. Be vocal about wanting her and not being able to wait. If she doesn’t reciprocate the desire then take the hint (note: if she’s just busy she’ll reciprocate the desire in some way but just state she’s busy so don’t freak out if she reads your message and doesn’t immediately leave aside everything she’s doing to set up a date).