I’m 19 and female, and my friend has convinced me of her idea to not have male friends for the respect of our future male partner.
I have to admit I rushed to this decision partially because of a former male friend. We were both respectful and understanding to each other, but the moment he kept pushing for one-on-one time when I have already voiced out I do not feel comfortable being with a male alone due to past experiences, he became cold.
I stayed friendly even though I felt scared. But then he somehow figured I am distancing myself from male friends and he sent me blocks of text saying he lost respect for me because he can’t believe I want to cut him off because our friendship was healthy, that I deserved my trauma from men, that he’s done being understanding, and he called me b_tch.
I’m still in shock. I didn’t expect this because he was soft-spoken and seemed caring to his male friends who have broken homes and have deep insecurities. I don’t know, I didn’t think this could have ever happened to me. I tried to de-escalate the situation by being understanding that he was upset but he replied back saying I need therapy and that I’m crazy.
I’m in shock and I don’t know how to process this. What should I do to especially keep myself safe? Thankfully we don’t go to the same schools.