35 years old here. Maybe once a week in person if we can line up our schedules. More likely I’ll try to play videogames with friends that live in other cities 2-3 times a week if we can.
I’d see friends maybe once a week after I was married before kids. After kids? I text a couple of friends somewhat regularly, and I see one of them once every couple of months, at most.
38M. Men exclusively, maybe once a month for a casual poker home game. We socialise more as a couple with other couples. The women are more likely to have “girl’s night” than the men are to have their own.
😂 my husband does maybe once every 6 months? He prioritizes his free time with family though. Not like he’s not allowed to. When he does, they just have a guys day, which involves a gigantic dinner, and some sort of fun activity.
I absolutely need that for my sanity. I push for every other Thursday to have a night out once the kids are down. It doesn’t always work out that way, but that is my goal and I am mentally committed to it. Even if my wife gets upset about it, she will be OK. As long as I’m not doing anything out, that would compromise our marriage.
I had my fun with my friends, now any free time I have I want it to be with my wife and kids….with that being said, I usually meet my buddy at the bar once a month…..football season we go to the game which is about 5 games a season
Few times a year I’m 40.
Kids n families take priority in the end..we speak weekly some monthly but trying to get a date everyone’s free on is difficult.
Maybe squeeze in a couple rounds of golf or one night out but some friends just become memories they just fade away.
When we were first married 25+ years ago I would see my friends about 2x/week whether I was hosting card night or they were. Now I mainly see one or two of them once every couple weeks/months. I’m ok with it- she’s my best friend.
I go to the gym four days a week and that is where I spend a majority of my bro time. My wife and I have a lot of mutual friends and we hang out with them once or twice a week.
We are in our late 30’s and child free for context.
I’m a new dad. 15 month old angel baby girl. I’m her primary caretaker.
My fiance goes out with her friends once a week. So far she has gotten 30 hours in May of free time away from home.
I havnt seen my friends in half a year. I don’t get to play video games anymore.
Am I in an abusive relationship? Because I just keep taking it hoping it will get better. She even scheduled a “1/2 Game Day for me today”. I only got an hour and half before she was giving me attitude about how hard if is to watch the baby alone.
I’m running out of steam. But I keep telling myself it will get better and my baby needs us to stay together.
Mostly 0. It’s a few times a year. If I’m in a vibe I might play MTG a night a week. I go through times of gaming a bunch with friends but lots of discord.
I don’t. I prefer to hang out as couples. Honestly, I don’t love hanging out with just guys, I never really have. I love the company of women for hangouts. I also legit love the company of my wife. I’d rather we all hang together.
I may see them in person once a year total. However, 3-4 nights a week after my wife goes to bed I’ll hop on discord and play games or just bs with them. It’s a big discord with probably 15 of us, so you may not talk to the same people every night.
Jay me & the boys? A few times a year maybe. All my good friends except one have moved out of state & my wife is good friends with that his wife so it’s always the four of us,m. And usually kids. Theirs three are each about a year younger than each of our three. You know how that goes, lol.
Every single night. However, in reality it’s once a month. Rest of the time I am banging my side chicks. She thinks I am hanging out with my guy friends.
I play disc golf every Friday with two friends. I recently have been playing video games with a group of guys on Wednesdays. Both days and times my wife is at rehearsal/class. Maybe once a month a see a few other guys on a weekend night and/or hang out with a single friend to grab food. I’m 38
Depends on what you consider “hanging out”. I have one group of friends where we play videogames on Mondays and d&d every other Sunday.
Then another group where we play d&d on Thursdays, and try to do some kind of meet up once a month.
I also do recreational soccer on Tuesdays and we go for a beer after but I’m hesitant to call those guys my friends.
Now as I get older and have kids and stuff I’d certainly scale this back. The monthly hangout and some form of weekly athletics are non-negotiable but everything else I can see dropping off as priorities demand.
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Maybe once or twice a month. Not often, but also just enough. Any more than that and honestly they’d probably get on my nerves.
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Is there a different count for “when I have small kids” and before or after that point?
Lmao 😂Couples are all you’ll be hanging with.
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Let me solve it for you: your husband is normal.
Frequency of hanging out with buddies has nothing to do with being normal or not.
Before kids: couples only
After kids: maybe once a quarter
Zero.
Most of my friends are women though, and none are local. When I see them, it’s at least for a long weekend to make the 5-10 hours of driving worth it
few times per year
For clarity, how many nights/times a week does your husband hang out with his?
A week? Almost never. Maybe 4 times a year at most. Too much going on with family and kids. Would love for it to be more
Does sports count?
I play in a men’s baseball league. Every Monday night from March through August.
Also play poker once a month.
Married 36 years and firmly believe Guys Night Out is biologically necessary. YMMV
35 years old here. Maybe once a week in person if we can line up our schedules. More likely I’ll try to play videogames with friends that live in other cities 2-3 times a week if we can.
I’d see friends maybe once a week after I was married before kids. After kids? I text a couple of friends somewhat regularly, and I see one of them once every couple of months, at most.
Exactly zero.
Wait, I have friends…?
Maybe once every other month.
38M. Men exclusively, maybe once a month for a casual poker home game. We socialise more as a couple with other couples. The women are more likely to have “girl’s night” than the men are to have their own.
😂 my husband does maybe once every 6 months? He prioritizes his free time with family though. Not like he’s not allowed to. When he does, they just have a guys day, which involves a gigantic dinner, and some sort of fun activity.
I absolutely need that for my sanity. I push for every other Thursday to have a night out once the kids are down. It doesn’t always work out that way, but that is my goal and I am mentally committed to it. Even if my wife gets upset about it, she will be OK. As long as I’m not doing anything out, that would compromise our marriage.
Couple times a month with my guys.
I’m 53. I have no friends.
Edit: for context, my wife and I are both introverts.
Zero. Used to be every other week, but then we moved out if state.
0 per year
What does “normal” have to do with it? It’s what you both want to be acceptable within your marriage that counts.
Never. I own my own business, am married, and have 2 children 4 & 7.
I sometimes wish I had friends to do things like that but my dad is the same way.
…. Friends?
F-fre-friends? You mean like my wife and kids?
Whenever I want. Few nights a week. (No kids)
M54… none. None are close by, and at most we just text during the day.
Not enough!
when my wife makes me
None
Once every few months
These comments are exactly what you’d expect from reddit.
It is fucking insane how many of us are married with no friends.
I see my friends once every months to hang beside that my focus is my family and what we do together especially with having younger kids.
I had my fun with my friends, now any free time I have I want it to be with my wife and kids….with that being said, I usually meet my buddy at the bar once a month…..football season we go to the game which is about 5 games a season
My sister-in-law’s husband is pretty much my only friend. We hang out a couple of times a month.
Every second night, we jump on a discord server and simultaneously watch old or live fights, play tarkov, just catch up in general
Few times a year I’m 40.
Kids n families take priority in the end..we speak weekly some monthly but trying to get a date everyone’s free on is difficult.
Maybe squeeze in a couple rounds of golf or one night out but some friends just become memories they just fade away.
When we were first married 25+ years ago I would see my friends about 2x/week whether I was hosting card night or they were. Now I mainly see one or two of them once every couple weeks/months. I’m ok with it- she’s my best friend.
I go to the gym four days a week and that is where I spend a majority of my bro time. My wife and I have a lot of mutual friends and we hang out with them once or twice a week.
We are in our late 30’s and child free for context.
I’m a new dad. 15 month old angel baby girl. I’m her primary caretaker.
My fiance goes out with her friends once a week. So far she has gotten 30 hours in May of free time away from home.
I havnt seen my friends in half a year. I don’t get to play video games anymore.
Am I in an abusive relationship? Because I just keep taking it hoping it will get better. She even scheduled a “1/2 Game Day for me today”. I only got an hour and half before she was giving me attitude about how hard if is to watch the baby alone.
I’m running out of steam. But I keep telling myself it will get better and my baby needs us to stay together.
Zero.
Mostly 0. It’s a few times a year. If I’m in a vibe I might play MTG a night a week. I go through times of gaming a bunch with friends but lots of discord.
I don’t. I prefer to hang out as couples. Honestly, I don’t love hanging out with just guys, I never really have. I love the company of women for hangouts. I also legit love the company of my wife. I’d rather we all hang together.
Once
What friends
i have band meetup once a week. if my friends want to do something after or the following day, i am usually available. so 1-2x a week.
I may see them in person once a year total. However, 3-4 nights a week after my wife goes to bed I’ll hop on discord and play games or just bs with them. It’s a big discord with probably 15 of us, so you may not talk to the same people every night.
I can’t be bothered to do the math using nights/times a week as the unit of measurement but maybe 1-2 times per year.
A week?!
Like maybe once a month, maybe. So… 0.25x/week.
Maybe 4 times a year? If we all lived a bit closer, maybe more often but that’s kinda life most of the time after everyone is working/has family etc.
Maybe once a month for lunch
Friends?
Jay me & the boys? A few times a year maybe. All my good friends except one have moved out of state & my wife is good friends with that his wife so it’s always the four of us,m. And usually kids. Theirs three are each about a year younger than each of our three. You know how that goes, lol.
I don’t have any male friends
Zero.
A week? 0
A month? 1
Zero.
Every single night. However, in reality it’s once a month. Rest of the time I am banging my side chicks. She thinks I am hanging out with my guy friends.
I play disc golf every Friday with two friends. I recently have been playing video games with a group of guys on Wednesdays. Both days and times my wife is at rehearsal/class. Maybe once a month a see a few other guys on a weekend night and/or hang out with a single friend to grab food. I’m 38
I run a DND game 2x a month, my wife plays too. I train Muay Thai with a couple other kickboxing old heads once a week.
Depends on what you consider “hanging out”. I have one group of friends where we play videogames on Mondays and d&d every other Sunday.
Then another group where we play d&d on Thursdays, and try to do some kind of meet up once a month.
I also do recreational soccer on Tuesdays and we go for a beer after but I’m hesitant to call those guys my friends.
Now as I get older and have kids and stuff I’d certainly scale this back. The monthly hangout and some form of weekly athletics are non-negotiable but everything else I can see dropping off as priorities demand.