Im a masturbator/ porn addict and now I have a girlfriend and we often have sex but I feel that masturbating is more satisfying for me than sex. Maybe it is because I am more comfortable with it as I have been doing it for years.
Ever since I watched porn I always fantisize about having sex but now I feel masturbating is better especially with a sex toy.
I find it hard to ejaculate during sex and my penis is 12cm meaning I am not satisfied enough maybe its because her ass is too big for my penis when having sex? Like maybe i prefer a girl with smaller ass so i can properly insert my penis inside her?
Sometimes I get soft during sex as well especially when putting on condom.
When she give me a handjob or blowjob i don’t seem to feel like i want to cum maybe she holds it too tight. Its just in porn it looks so good. I know porn is not real or like its scripted and its made too look good for viewers.
I have stop watching porn and masturbating to think it would help and desensitize myself. Hopefully to see improvements.
Overall: i feel sex isn’t as good compare to masturbating.
Please note i am not in any way blaming my girlfriend she is wonderful and always open to discuss and talk about how we both can improve
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If all you want is an orgasm hit, masturbation is always superior to sex. If you want the emotional high of being close with someone, sex is superior.
Too much porn will make sex unsatisfying, because it will never live up to the unrealistic performance of professional porn actors, so lay off of it for a bit if you want your sex to be enjoyable.
Not surprising you are having these problems if you are admitting to porn addiction. Sounds like you have an issue with death grip as well. Look it up I don’t want to get in to the details lol respectfully.
Fairly certain your partner’s body is not the problem so let’s get that idea out of here.
It’s just an issue you will have to work through together. Maybe seek therapy.
It sounds like you’re overdoing it. And porn can really screw with your head and lots of those women are treated really badly.
Maybe talk to her about your needs, how you feel. You don’t have to stop masturbating, it’s normal and healthy, but maybe let up and ease up on the porn (there’s lots of porn that people make and share themselves for free because they enjoy doing so that is a lot healthier than corporate pornography, maybe try transitioning towards that?)
Hey you got chocolate in my peanut butter… no… you got peanut butter in my chocolate.
Nobody will ever be able to make you cum better than yourself.
Personally due to circumcision I can only cum in certain positions during sex which is different depending on which gender I am with so I get the struggle but if you have a self admitted porn addiction you should work on that. Good chance it’s got something to do with it.
Anyways, for vaginal I’d suggest missionary and for anal, prone bone if your goal is to stay hard and finish. Maybe look into bluechew.