I’m right now distancing myself from my girlfriend due to her constant betrayal of my trust, and feelings. I’ve confided in her with this and ever since she’s hurt me with comments she’s made regarding a situation that happened with my ex. It hurts me because this is something I’ve struggled with for the past year and something she won’t stop doing. She denies what happened to me as a man and when I tell her how much her comments hurt me she apologizes and says it wont happen again and then does it 2 weeks later and the cycle continues. I just want to forget about it but this constant reminder is starting to kill us. She claims it’s due to her insecurity and she truly believes that every encounter with my ex was consensual. I just need some advice.
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I hate to be that guy but … You’re 18 and she’s done this repeatedly, if you don’t break up now it’s going to be alot harder to later.
I’m so sorry. But I would break it off. You are both young and you can find someone who has some empathy and understanding and who is more secure with themselves. I had issues with my insecurities also but found out I always had a reason to be suspicious. This doesn’t sound like that. I think if you break it off, you’ll be a lot happier. But explain to her, why you’re breaking it off. I’d be tired of constantly having to remind someone of something that hurt me, just because of their insecurities. It can’t always be about them. Good luck. And keep us posted if you would like. Hang in there.
Please break up with her. She’s cruel. You deserve kindness and support from your partner. She’s an AH.
> she truly believes that every encounter with my ex was consensual
So, she thinks you are a liar. When you finally break down and she does say she believes you, she’s just telling you what you want to hear and goes straight back to accusing you of lying.
There isn’t a magic phrase to make her believe. She thinks you are a person of horrible moral character that is attempting to assassinate the character of your ex by manufacturing a false accusation of rape.