Me 18M. My girlfriend 18F. My girlfriend has avoidant attachment and I really don’t want her to leave me.

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TLDR My girlfriend has avoidant attachment and I really don’t her to leave me. Would help if any advice can be given.

My girlfriend has avoidant attachment. I really love her and don’t want her to leave. Has anyone got any advice about this so I can understand her on a better level? We’ve been dating since February and at the starts it was really good, we were speaking lots and meeting a good amount of times a week. Since the end of march to the end of May we didn’t see each other once. After that we had a good month or so of seeing each other, again, a good amount of times a week. Again, since the end of June she hasn’t wanted to see me or even call. I’ve found out that she has avoidant attachment. I love her so much and I really don’t want her to leave me. I’ve been watching videos to understand her better but I’m not sure how to approach it with her because I’m scared she’s going to lose interest and leave me. Please can I have some advice on what to do.

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  1. birdassassin Avatar

    Have a conversation with her about what you both can do to make getting together easier. 

    That said, she’s ghosting you for months at a time and you’ve barely started dating. If she can’t even bring herself to see you more than every three months she’s probably not that invested to begin with.