TL;DR : Basically im having severe trust issues about my current gf cheating on me any chance she gets am wondering what I can do to resolve this issue I have.
Hello all. I’d like to preface this rant with that I’ve gone to therapy a little, haven’t liked it or felt it was productive. I am currently seeking a new one.
Anyways, my past dating and fling history has not been the best. I’ve been cheated on a few times and was heavily gaslight about it. Saying I’ve got nothing to worry about, guys just a friend, I’m over thinking things, etc. I decided to ignore my gut feelings and/or push my anxiety to the side because I felt these were wild thoughts and was most likely jumping to conclusions. Long story short my gut was right.
I’ve taken the last three years or so to work on myself and these issues and get to a place where I can start dating again. And I’ve found an amazing gf now but now I’ve got severe trust issues and anxiety that just drive me up a wall. My gut and anxiety and brain keep saying and trying to convince me that my current gf is cheating or up to no good. Not answering her phone, must be with or talking to another guy or fucking another guy. On a girls trip to the beach or out with her friends (all single), they are up to no good doing god knows what with men.
We have set up location updates for each other for safety reasons and constantly provide each other updates throughout nights or weekends when we are away. We’ve talked about my issues and thoughts in depth regarding this. Shes been extremely understanding. She’s even let me go through her phone in an attempt to help relieve me of my issues. She’s done nothing to warrant the title or accusations of a cheater.
However these just won’t go away. I’m getting extremely scared it’s going to drive her away and she’s already expressed a little frustration/annoyance with me about it. I’ve been reading several help books and as I mentioned before looking for another therapist. Anyone have any help advice or wisdom they could share? Would be very much appreciated, thank you.