I met a doctor who is a couple of years older than me through a friend Ive known for 10 years. I met her a day after i broke up with a girl that i have been with for 2 years. I never knew I would catch feelings for this doctor. We had done things together. However i maintained the connection with this girl because i felt that we had a genuine connection. I love that she has a quite simple personality and we had a good laugh for the short time we met. Obviously I know she’s an extremely busy person because she works stupid hours shifts. However we maintained texting for 4 months and not met. (Context i was in a different country for the past 3 and a half months and moved back home, where shes from). In the beginning though everything was super cool with her. However as of recent it has been a bit of a hot and cold situation. From both ends if i may add. I also might have friend zoned her because i said that i didn’t want to give the impression that i wanted to be more than friends especially because i had come out of relationship. But i did say i didn’t want to close the door on the possibility of it. We had a super mature conversation about it and after me being vulnerable with her she lowered some of her walls. However, as of recently she started to message me once a day and i was sort of doing the same, then she would reply very fast at times. Which is what i meant with the hot and cold attitude. I love everything about her, she has a beautiful smile, and a really good sense of humour. As I type this i had a bit of a drink and didn’t reply to her for 3 days because i just didn’t know what to message. But i cannot simply stop thinking about her. I feel like i should confront the whole situation and remove any type of ambiguity that there might be between us, and at least I can have my answer then. I think it’s to answer my curiosity but also at least protected everyone in this sense emotionally.
Tl;dr i met a girl who was crazy stupid hours and im tired of the hot and cold attitude.
[edit] i want to mention that i mentally checked out of my previous relationship for a while and I had processed everything between me and my ex.