Hey all,
So last friday me (30M) and my partner (27F) had a massive fight.
To summarise she took her kid out with her ex (who is the dad) and I asked some questions.
I made a comment saying “you have prioritised him over me and that has hurt me”
She has taken that that I was saying I am more important than the daughter which I have explained was never the case and is not true.
She removed me from social media, blocked me everywhere apart from Snap.
I decided to just give her space as she broke up with me wednesday saying I had hurt her too much.
On friday morning she had a go at me because I was not talking with her enough.
I did mention to her about wanting to get back together, she told me that she did not like what she has done to me and has been crying her eyes out about it. I do not want to keep pushing her for reconciliation.
I do not want to lose this girl but she is very cold and blunt with me right now (although today we have talked alot and now she is sending kisses in her messages). I just want her back so bad but do I just wait and let her calm or what…..
What would you do in the situation?
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There is not enough information provided to make a real judgement of the situation.
Why did you say she prioritized her child’s father over you?
She broke up with you Wednesday, but was mad Friday you were talking to her? That doesn’t make sense.
You realize she will always have a daughter and because of this that daughter’s father will always be in her life?
Yeah more information is needed.
Why in the world would you have a problem with her doing what is best for her daughter? She was prioritizing her daughter as she should. I think that if you truly want a relationship, you need couples counseling to work through your issues with her daughter and her ex. Doing what is best for her daughter is spending time together with her ex on occasion. You’re going to have to find a way to be okay with that. Hopefully one day it will be 5 of you spending time together. Her, the ex, you and his partner all together with their daughter.
Bro, It’s the Daughters FATHER 1st of all non of your buisness Second of all, How does that mean Proritze? they used to be a family accept it, Also you have broken up? Move on!
You clearly don’t want to take care of her child so why be with her?
A lot of info is missing here… However, I will just say that from what little you said, it sounds like you handled that badly. I have two children with my ex. We still take our kids out together to birthday dinners and other events. We traveled together overnight for a school sports related trip. It doesn’t mean I have any feelings for my ex, it means we are prioritizing our children and co-parenting. If you can’t handle someone prioritizing their child over you, you should never be with someone who has kids, because 100 percent of the time, kids always come first.
She seems like she’s playing games, with blocking you, then getting upset that you aren’t talking to her enough (WTF?!). Just break up and move on. You’re way too young for this $hit.
How is taking her daughter out with her Dad prioritizing him? Missing missing reasons.
>I made a comment saying “you have prioritised him over me and that has hurt me”
You must explain this. What were the events that made you feel this way?
>She removed me from social media, blocked me everywhere apart from Snap.
She broke up with you. This is an over re-action and a red flag. How did you “hurt her too much”?
>she told me that she did not like what she has done to me and has been crying her eyes out about it.
This is a GIANT red flag that you should not ignore. You need to explore this. She is showing you what you need to know here.
You cannot sweep this under the rug and pretend the relationship will go forward as normal without knowing what the hell happened. You have enough information to make a decision, but you should also ask for more.
Time to move on. You’re not ready to date someone with a kid.
She will always have to carry her daughter to see her dad when it comes to her to see her dad when the daughter is young. You messed up by saying you prioritized the ex over you when you should’ve realized she was seeing the ex solely for the daughter’s benefit. If she cared about the ex, she wouldn’t want to get back to you. She feels she hurt you because of something that isn’t in her control. She had to go along with her daughter to see her dad. That’s the package you are dealt with when it comes to single mom’s. You need to stop and think before you blow up on her like that. She has to do the parental plan set by court. The way it sounds, she wants to get back, but next time, i watch your temper over something she can’t really control .
You were 36 only 8 months ago 💀
You sound like a couple of kids. How did you stay together this long?
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How long have you been dating? How old is her daughter? Did she need to go out with her daughter & ex or could he have taken the daughter alone?
Please update with did more details.
OP wrote “She told me that she did not like what she has done to me and has been crying her eyes out about it” what has she done??
What is your expectation regarding her co-parent and child, and how were those expectations not met that led you to make such a statement?
Maybe your expectations are unreasonable for dating someone with a child and a healthy co-parenting relationship, maybe hers are. Need info to decide.