So me and my ex fiancé broke up last year. We weren’t in contact for five months because I was in hospital. When I came out, he contacted me and rushed into trying to get back together, which didn’t work for the both of us as I was still not myself at that time.
We decided to stay friends and he’s always known I still have feelings for him, for months he said he was unsure and didn’t know how he felt about me. We tried no contact for a few weeks at a time but this was always broken.
Turns out, he was seeing someone for months whilst stringing me along. She broke it off with him last month and he then said he wanted to start seeing me (I didn’t know he was seeing someone else before that). Since we have been seeing each other, he has been very hot and cold with affection etc. I spoke to him about it and he said he doesn’t have feelings for me anymore but still cares about me. I asked if he was seeing anyone else during this time and he has denied it.
We were only seeing each other for a few weeks and I said we haven’t given it enough time to really reconnect and get that spark back. I also said if he was seeing anyone else that I can’t compete with a new fresh relationship with someone new.
We were meant to be climbing a mountain together next week, he still wants to go and wants to continue to think about things. I just don’t know what to do. What do you think I should do? He knows I still have feelings for him.
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>What do you think I should do?
Have some self-respect and look for someone worth your time.