Me (F33) and my partner (34m) have been together 14 years. We have 2 kids together, so most of our time goes to them, problem is we never do anything with just us If I ask to go out, he says theres no point because whatever we can do out, we can do at home. Which is fine, if that’s how he feels, ive never made at big deal about it.
Problem i have is he’s OK going out with others. He doesnt go out a lot, but hes been away on work this week, i called him and hes out with this lad he’s not known for long. So l’ve told him my feelings, ok going out with others but doesn’t like going anywhere with me. He said he doesnt see the point in taking me anywhere as we can just spend time together at home when kids go to bed. Am i right to be a little annoyed or am i over reacting?
TL;DR: partner doesnt like going out with me as he says ‘no point’ but ok going out with others.
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The ‘point’ of doing something out of the house is to connect, have a date, and experience something together. Not every date has to be out of the house, but it’s important to get time away from your kids and the home you have to clean and be in all the time. Is he worried about finding a babysitter?
Make it a big deal, be clear it’s important to YOU
I think you have a right to be annoyed. I would feel a bit sad that he doesn’t see the point in going out. Other couples have date nights that isn’t spent at home