Around Christmas we had a conversation on like would the relationship between us go further, she said it could but it would need to happen “naturally”, it’s been 5 months since then my friends tell me just to ask her for dinner or ask her out, one says that she openly flirts with me but god only knows, we have a few more years studying together which is another issue, I don’t know where to go with this without ruining the friendship between the two of us. Would I be stupid asking her out for dinner or something?
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What are you waiting for?
Since the conversation has already been had she’s already aware that you’d be interested were she to give the green light. That she hasn’t likely means she’s just not that into the idea. Plus, as you point out, the friendship ends the moment you two start dating and school becomes very awkward after you break up. So she may have just decided that the cons outweigh the pros on this one.
Damn bro ask her out the worst she can say is no and its fine.
If you want friendship – do nothing, but she might start dating someone else soon.
If you want to have a chance – ask her out.
When I was young and naive one dude asked me if he can ask me out someday. I said “ sure “ . He never did and I never considered what it was already asking out.
Years later he told me he liked me a lot. Go figure.