Hi All, We are 37M & 36F, dating since almost 20years now (Married since 10 years) had a lots of ups downs, caught her cheating (Sharing nudes) & had an affair with a close friend (Might also be in a physical relationship with him 8years before) after which i told her that i know whats going on behind my back, i first thought he was just a close friend. This was 8 years before we had a child, i would say in my entire relationship sex was amazing before we got married. After marriage which was back in 2014 sex was ok i would say like 1-2 a month at the max, reason was me working in night shift (Might be a reason for her affair, i cannot blame her entirely for that).My libido is very high & after the baby my wife is having intense back pains, she is also on ozempic to loose that pregnancy fat which is actually working for her. She is back in shape but now when i approach her she has same reason for not having sex with me like back pains, stress is the major reason, work stress, gut issues. I am wondering if i need to rethink about my relationship as we have a toddler now who is 5 years old. The spark has vanished, i am sure she loves me and i also feel same but sex is missing since many years now, first the night shift thing then the baby and stress.
Can someone please give guidance what i should do ?
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I mean.. it’s really not in a good spot, and will take a ton of willful work on both sides, but..
All of that being said, it may not be salvageable.
Nothing in your post makes me think your wife is into you. It’s the opposite, in fact. Hope you got a paternity test.