I’m 25 and deterred from having my own out of fear I’ll mess my kid up, i just want to believe that if I try hard enough they’ll be better than how I turned out.
I’m 25 and deterred from having my own out of fear I’ll mess my kid up, i just want to believe that if I try hard enough they’ll be better than how I turned out.
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Just because a dude had a father growing up does not mean that they were shining examples of fatherhood.
My dad died when I was 6. My son is 5 now. I look to the male role models in my life and try to emulate them. The worst thing you can do as a parent is pass along your insecurities, fears, shortcomings, etc.
I volunteer at my kid’s school, I volunteer as a tyke coach, I help him with his day-to-day chores, I instil discipline in a loving and communicative way, I’m involved, I teach him what I know, I try to get him to think critically, etc.
I’m by no means the best father even among the people I know, but I strive to be. Hopefully, I’m in his life for 10x longer than mine was.
I had a dad growing up, and still decided no to having kids.
I want to reverse what my parents did. So no to meeting anyone and no to kids. I’m 43M.
I took all the lessons I learnt from what my dad never did for me and make sure I don’t do that for my kids, I think it’s made me a better parent for it too.