i’m not sure if i’m overthinking it but it’s really bothering me and i need advice. I (18F) have never had a problem with this and guys usually finish pretty fast or atleast don’t take over 30/45 min. The last 3 guys i had sex with this past few months couldn’t, even one who was a virgin couldn’t finish. But they can finish when i use my hand or mouth, im worrying i am to loose, my ex bf was able to finish pretty fast every-time and we consistently had sex, but every other guy recently can’t get to that point. im not sure what im doing wrong, i lost about 40 pounds this past 7 months and im wondering if that has smth to do with it?? idk what else it could be, i also got off birth control around the time i lost the weight. i asked all of them what was wrong and they all said it wasn’t me and even started crying to one of them bc i was overthinking so bad, are they not attracted to me? am i too loose? i just don’t understand why all of a sudden this is happening. the first dude made the excuse that the condom was making him not reach the point of orgasm, the second one said he watched porn to much and couldn’t finish (this was the virgin) and the 3rd said i felt amazing and it wasn’t me he just usually lasts a while (he didn’t finish all 3 times unless i used a hand, and he finished within seconds). i feel so gross and unattractive.
Men can’t reach orgasm when sleeping with me.
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>said he watched porn too much
This was my first thought before I even opened the post. Delayed ejaculation and PIED from porn use is common, though good luck getting a guy to admit it. I’m more amazed that one out of three did.
Nothing you do will change the tightness of your vagina even having a baby it goes right back to its size. And they probably are telling u the truth about not finishing bc the condom and porn, but are you aroused enough? Do they get you wet enough? How is the foreplay? That’s what plays in to it all trust me babe men will fuck anything that has a hole in it your looks are not the problem.
Probably just need to do more foreplay.
Do you get wet fast? Too much lubricated?
If so close your legs while having sex. Be it missionary or doggy. It will increase friction
Btw are they able to get hard I mean really hard?
If they are finishing in your hand they may have death grip syndrome.
I had the worst feeling about these kind of things at your age- I think it’s honestly just too much of society and us in our heads with this.
When I lost my virginity to my bf he took a while to finish and I got so insecure it was because women he was with before etc- i actually like deadass stopped things halfway through and it made things awkward and weird and delayed us ever dating bc it was a hook up technically I guess then, but we def were crushing on one another until I made prob him insecure himself. I definitely was not loose lol being a virgin but I still didn’t make him finish fast – or at all that time lol bc after a while again I just stopped things bc I got embarrassed- and it made me super fucking insecure.
I can tell you 5+ years later, he doesn’t watch porn, we have great sex- he just literally takes a bit longer to finish than I thought a guy would take and that’s probably just bc it’s different guy to guy and society just like gets too much into talk about sex and expectations and shit- you’re fine I promise. Its not you- just ppl are different.
All 3 of those are very valid and extremely common reasons for males having trouble reaching orgasm. Also men having this issue is more common than you’d think, and it often is a phase that’ll come and go, so you’ll definitely run into it the more people you have sex with/ longer you stay with one man.
It’s just a tough coincidence that it happened back to back to back. I wouldn’t overthink it.
You can’t get too loose.
You can get fisted today and go right back to your usual by next Friday.
How do u think parents with naturally birthed kids get that many children?