This is our third date. He planned a whole movie overlooking the entire city next to his families cabin.
He went all out. Like he made it magical completely. Had a whole projector set up. Amazing snacks. He told me how he was nervous on our first and second date. This is how our third date went.
So he picked me up and he had all of these snacks and stuff. Like he made it really really cute. There’s a lot of preparation into it and I could tell that he had it so planned out because he was so excited about me from our second date. I was pretty nervous on the date though. I was a little less lighthearted and a little bit more reserved and serious. We made out a lot and then he stopped making out with me because he wanted to watch the movie and then he kissed me a little bit more. I don’t know if my breath smelled but he stopped making out bu he kept kissing me on the forehead and holding me. When he held me, he made me feel really safe. He told me that he wasn’t talking to anybody else at the time but he still had his hinge up but that he wanted to focus one at a time to see if it worked. He’s very very LDS. When we were driving down the canyon after the date, it was like 2 AM, and we started talking about pretty deep things. I told him that I went to a treatment center for an eating disorder when I was 18 years old I told him it was like one of those abuse of adolescent treatment centers. I told him how it was really abusive. I kind of described that and talked about that for a while. I told him that that’s why I dropped out of fashion School at 18. Then he asked me about how I got back into my faith, and I told him that I prayed when I was a little girl, and then I kind of talked about how my mom faked being LDS for the church and drink wine and pour them into vitamin waters to disguise it. I told him how fake my mom was. I kind of told him how my mom just joined the Lds church for her image. But that I was beehive and Laurel president. What did I drank in high school. I told him how at 33, I read Christian books to my son all the time and pray, but that I know nothing about lds theology. He said he didn’t judge at all, and that he loves hearing about everything but he was a bit more quiet. We were kind of talking then about different places we would live and he said that he’s gotten job offers for New York and London, but is not sure about them. He said he wanted to work on finding somebody to be with first. And he kept talking about things and saying things like “when I’m with someone someday” and stuff like that but wasn’t mentioning doing stuff with me again.
When he dropped me off. It was 2 AM. He just kind of got out of the car and gave me a quick hug and he said “I hope you have a good birthday and a good trip in Disneyland” and he did not give me a kiss or say anything meaningful or talk about plans again… He then got back in his car. I clumsily dropped my things when walking away and hurried and put them back in my purse and walked out into my apartment complex.
He didn’t mention another date or seeing me again. It is 3 AM and he dropped me off at 2 AM so he hasn’t texted me since which is understandable but I felt like the goodbye felt off.
Do you think it’s likely he’s going to have lost interest?
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You didn’t ruin anything. You were honest and vulnerable, and that takes courage. He might’ve just been processing everything. The goodbye felt off, but it was late and he could’ve been tired. If he’s truly interested, he’ll reach out.
Too early to tell based off that. Honestly, you just need to sleep off the nerves and then text him when you wake up. You guys were pretty deep and it was the third date, so its entirely possible that he didn’t want to pressure you too much about a life together. Plus you have a kid, so he probably wanted to be careful about going to fast since he probably thinks you dont want to be introducing people you haven’t known for long into his life so quickly.