I just ended things with a man I met on a dating app, we had been seeing each other for maybe 6 weeks. It was fun, but the more I got to know him, the more I just wasn’t interested in dating him anymore. There were a few small red flags, but mostly he was just a little boring and I didn’t find the memes he showed me funny.
I told him I didn’t think we should continue seeing each other over text (again, known each other for only 6 weeks, not that serious), and he asked to meet up to discuss what we both are looking for in a relationship. I’m simply not looking for a relationship with you, my guy. That’s how dating works. Do you want me to list all of your faults? Because I can but that won’t help anyone, and also I don’t want to tell you what to lie about to better catch the next girl that gives you a chance.
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That last sentence is so poignant šš¾
Proud of you! We donāt educate men anymore. Him asking you to meet was to try and change your mind – or worse – assault you.
Hmm, Iām just curious are they faults or preferences? I only ask because faults sound scary. Like heās a ticking bomb or machine not safe to operate.
That is NOT to say you owe him anything or that anyone else does.
If all parties are honest, i think being critique, It is kinda like taking a survey at the end of course or something. Optional but useful information.
This. Say less
The patriarchy raises them to believe their self worth is directly tied to their ability to get women. You refusing to give him that makes him feel like a worthless failure of a man. It’s a huge ego hit. It’s not your fault though and you have every right to end things. Men need to stop centering their worth around sex and women. It’s so damaging for everyone.
Good for you, yes it’s dating. Not having fun, move on.
Oof I canāt stand when men send me memes. Gives me the ick. Iād rather he use his personality to make me laugh. Memes are lazy imo.
You did the right thing OP. You donāt need to give him a reason.
It’s kinda wild how many guys think they can just keep showing up with the same tired jokes and expect someone to laugh… but hey, you did what needed doing, and that takes guts. I’ve had a few friends who stayed in relationships way too long because they felt bad saying no, but it’s not worth it, you’re better off walking away from something that doesn’t make you feel alive. You handled it like a champ, and honestly? That kind of clarity is rare… and awesome.
was talking to my roommates last night about how fucking awful it is that for the majority of men hitting on women, one no is usually not enough.
most men will not turn away or decline after one “no,” they won’t stop until AT LEAST two, if not several more, if they stop at all.
Um actually you should go listen to him list all the ways he’s rejecting and breaking up with YOU. /s
The last guy I broke up with just kept arguing that we shouldn’t break up because of how perfect I am for HIM. My dude, that’s not how this works, lol…
There is nothing to ādiscussā you gave him a chance and youāre not feeling it. Thatās the point of dating someone!
A simple āIām not feeling a strong connection with you. Iām not interested in continuing further.ā – is enough. There is no reason he needs a sit down with you. Itās dating not a job interview!
You know whatās funny, this is especially true when YOU donāt want to date THEM. Once you say that you want something casual, they become obsessed with love bombing and chasing you. Theyāre like, I donāt want to date you but I need you to want to date me! It is incredibly entitled.
And giving into those men they always treat you like garbage once they get what they wantā¦good on you for nipping it in the bud. Itās like theyāre used to being the receiver of āso what are weā but donāt really offer any substantial benefit to you for dating them. And then are pikachu surprised and offended that you donāt want to š
They’ve always been like this. I used to let myself get pulled into days-long interrogations where I’d verbally eviscerate everything that I didn’t like about them and they’d usually propose to me at the end. It was wild.
Ugh, some guys just canāt take a hint!