Men, how did you get over the delusional love for a woman who never cared about you?
Men, how did you get over the delusional love for a woman who never cared about you?
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Men, how did you get over the delusional love for a woman who never cared about you?
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I realized she didn’t care about me and loved myself enough to know that I deserve someone who loves me.
By accepting that some hearts aren’t meant to hold our love back
Distance
By the end I realised I was delusional so when it ended I was ok with that. I enjoyed it while it lasted so I have no regrets.
I imagine myself on my deathbed and I ask myself “Am I satisfied that I’m still holding on to this woman, after all these years.”
Another is cultivating self love, confidence, and demanding respect for yourself. Also take it in that it’s not love at all but more so infatuation and idealization over someone that doesn’t exist.
Treat yourself as if you are a friend you are responsible for helping
Detachment
Fap. Never happened to me however Post nut clarity always helps a lot!
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Focused on myself (hobbies, going on trips) at first. I rejoined the dating pool when I was ready and it took many unsuccessful attempts until I met my now girlfriend.
Time and personal development. Hard to feel bad about yourself while you’re accomplishing new and exciting things.
Gym, meeting others, getting deep into hobbies, and time
I accepted it for what it was; I never really liked her; I was really infatuated with the idea of her that I created in my head.
Moved on by talking to women who actually seem lime they care
Time. Pain, Acceptance.
She and I are still close friends almost 30 years later.
After a while, you just sort of accept it. There is also a perverse, masochistic joy in being so devoted to a woman who doesn’t even know you exist though. It makes it easier to bear.
I’m at the point now where I’m realizing that I want someone who’s obsessed with me or nothing at all. No more mediocre bullshit.
Age time & distance
I worked on myself and became a better man than she will ever have. Married someone who actually wanted me and devoted my time to her.
I’ve got my life and my future together and she is still just scraping by waiting for her knight in shining armor to come save her. Her loss. She had her chance.
Cocaine. Lots and lots of cocaine.
seeing things logically, and being honest to myself.
Having girl best friends really, them telling facts about how girls speak to a lot of people at a time and pick the best option taught me a lot.
the most fearsome ability that chicks have is talking to 20+ guys at a time and making it seem like you’re the only one they talk to :p
this is very common among guys, There are guys who haven’t gotten over a girl for over 3 years and for girls the average is a month(s)
Working out and finding someone better
I figured out that no one cares about me. They only care about the things I provide.
some of us just will not be able to……………………….been 18 years
Poorly.
“The truth shall set you free.”
I laugh like a psycho anytime I feel emotional pain
By understanding it’s not love, its biological lust pretending to be love
The same way as always, find somebody else.
Accept reality…heal yourself….cut your losses….get over it…find God…and move on…to the next…
Didn’t go down this road.
Remind myself to not go to hard into it too fast.
I did not. It still haunting me and welcome
r/limerence
Set boundaries, feed your time and energy into relationships that actually benefit you
I built up a perfectionist image in my head about what life would look like in the distant future. I put her on a pedestal and showed her far more love and affection than she showed me, which was nearly none at all. I convinced myself that I can make this work, purely out of the perfectionist image I had created in my head.
I ended up facing physical abuse, a trip to the emergency room and a stitches in my face.
Be honest with yourself and create healthy boundaries. I (30m) was very young when this happened. Never love someone who does not love you.
Find a women that did love me