You can’t get respect without being respectable, this means you need to be moral, upstanding, honest, dependable, and confident in your forthrightness.
Respect boundaries, ask really good questions, speak intelligently, make people laugh, use active listening skills, be patient with others, speak with grace, and control your emotions.
Give respect, get respect. Build your friends, co-workers, and family up. Really, just don’t be a dick and help and support the people who help and support you.
When I go places, I exude patience, fairness, and kindness. I don’t Really care if people respect me, but just from How I am I gain respect in the places I frequent
Not a man but this reminded me of the Curb Your Enthusiasm episode where Larry automatically started respecting a man more when he learned that the guy’s wife was significantly less attractive than him. So he tried it out with a friend that approached him pretending like that woman was his girlfriend and his friend automatically started respecting him more as well.
Get physically fit, look people in the eye, listen when someone speaks, and don’t talk over people. It’s mostly just putting out good physical and mental energy into the universe, and it will reciprocate.
It’s a hard process, and I’m certainly not there yet, but this feels like the strat to me.
Trying to give u honest advice about this is difficult. It’s more of an aura you project than something you do. The first person you have to convince is yourself. Once you have the upmost respect for yourself… its unnatural to tolerate any less from others. That being said people respect you more for what you do than what you say. A long term background of that type of behavior eventually accumulates respect… and haters.
If it’s someone you’ve just met, there are visual signals that show confidence. Stand tall, shoulders back, speak clearly, look people in the eye, instigate handshakes, use people’s names.
With people you know well, it’s more complex, but clearly respecting yourself expresses itself to others. Most people don’t respect someone who clearly don’t respect themselves.
Appear respectable (groom/dress for the occasion. Make eye contact. Don’t be afraid to start a conversation. Be confident in what you do, if you’re not there yet, make an effort to look somewhat confident. Most important- don’t worry what others think about you- that’s out of your control.
From personal experience, I went through a phase in my 20s where I was sick and tired of being overweight and people treating me as such.
It probably wasn’t mentally healthy but I essentially married the gym and a strict diet. Once results were noticeable you start to notice people looking at you or speaking to you differently.
Once the results were obvious the difference in interactions I had before and after going to the gym were night and day different. Both professionally and personally. Colleagues spoke to me differently and seemed to actually listen when I spoke, and people in the real world smiled at me more or just acknowledged me in general.
This could be solely appearance, but I personally think it’s a combination of looking like you put the work in and the confidence that comes from putting the work in. That confidence finds its way into the rest of your life and I think it’s the biggest driver for how people interact with you.
Moral of the story. Work on yourself, be who/what you want to be and get to the point that you respect yourself and the world will follow. If the gym isn’t your thing, find a different passion that suits you and out the work in.
Respect is earned not asked for or worse begged for like Indian beurocrats do, they beg for it and come off as pathetic bunch. Respect is earned via what you do, and not seek glory or admiration.
Just put your best foot forward and do whatever tf it is you say you do/are/am. Key words being do and say, and do note they’re in that order for a reason.
Wildcards are cute but that ain’t what it’s about.
Authenticity. Full stop. If don’t know the code that’s ok as long as authentic.
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I stopped caring whether people respected me.
Give respect, you usually get it back. If they don’t give it back, demand it.
Be someone worth respecting. Have principles, be kind to others, get good at something, and show your genuine self, don’t hide behind a mask.
You get what you give.
You can’t get respect without being respectable, this means you need to be moral, upstanding, honest, dependable, and confident in your forthrightness.
Respect boundaries, ask really good questions, speak intelligently, make people laugh, use active listening skills, be patient with others, speak with grace, and control your emotions.
Give respect, get respect. Build your friends, co-workers, and family up. Really, just don’t be a dick and help and support the people who help and support you.
Be yourself.
When I go places, I exude patience, fairness, and kindness. I don’t Really care if people respect me, but just from How I am I gain respect in the places I frequent
Not a man but this reminded me of the Curb Your Enthusiasm episode where Larry automatically started respecting a man more when he learned that the guy’s wife was significantly less attractive than him. So he tried it out with a friend that approached him pretending like that woman was his girlfriend and his friend automatically started respecting him more as well.
Why would I care if someone respected me?
Get physically fit, look people in the eye, listen when someone speaks, and don’t talk over people. It’s mostly just putting out good physical and mental energy into the universe, and it will reciprocate.
It’s a hard process, and I’m certainly not there yet, but this feels like the strat to me.
Charisma, wealth, power, influence ect.
Kindness, generosity, compassion, trust ect.
Trying to give u honest advice about this is difficult. It’s more of an aura you project than something you do. The first person you have to convince is yourself. Once you have the upmost respect for yourself… its unnatural to tolerate any less from others. That being said people respect you more for what you do than what you say. A long term background of that type of behavior eventually accumulates respect… and haters.
By being respectable.
Be good at your job. Be dependable. Reliable. Respectable.
In what context?
If it’s someone you’ve just met, there are visual signals that show confidence. Stand tall, shoulders back, speak clearly, look people in the eye, instigate handshakes, use people’s names.
With people you know well, it’s more complex, but clearly respecting yourself expresses itself to others. Most people don’t respect someone who clearly don’t respect themselves.
Keeping your promises
Appear respectable (groom/dress for the occasion. Make eye contact. Don’t be afraid to start a conversation. Be confident in what you do, if you’re not there yet, make an effort to look somewhat confident. Most important- don’t worry what others think about you- that’s out of your control.
From personal experience, I went through a phase in my 20s where I was sick and tired of being overweight and people treating me as such.
It probably wasn’t mentally healthy but I essentially married the gym and a strict diet. Once results were noticeable you start to notice people looking at you or speaking to you differently.
Once the results were obvious the difference in interactions I had before and after going to the gym were night and day different. Both professionally and personally. Colleagues spoke to me differently and seemed to actually listen when I spoke, and people in the real world smiled at me more or just acknowledged me in general.
This could be solely appearance, but I personally think it’s a combination of looking like you put the work in and the confidence that comes from putting the work in. That confidence finds its way into the rest of your life and I think it’s the biggest driver for how people interact with you.
Moral of the story. Work on yourself, be who/what you want to be and get to the point that you respect yourself and the world will follow. If the gym isn’t your thing, find a different passion that suits you and out the work in.
Respect given = respect returned. Be honest and keep your promises.
Respect is earned not asked for or worse begged for like Indian beurocrats do, they beg for it and come off as pathetic bunch. Respect is earned via what you do, and not seek glory or admiration.
By respecting myself
respect is earned, no one will respect you just for existing
Just put your best foot forward and do whatever tf it is you say you do/are/am. Key words being do and say, and do note they’re in that order for a reason.
Wildcards are cute but that ain’t what it’s about.
Authenticity. Full stop. If don’t know the code that’s ok as long as authentic.
What are the behaviors of the people you respect? What about the people you don’t respect?
Keep learning and keep improving yourself – your ability is the prerequisite for gaining respect.
Then, make sure you do what you promised to others.
I don’t.
People either respect you or they don’t. I don’t waste time trying to impress others.
Be charismatic, the line is very fine between confidence and arrogance, so you gotta figure that out.
By being respectful
By respecting yourself
Be being confident, respecting yourself and being respectful to others.