I’ve been in an interracial marriage for seven years now (I’m Caucasian, she’s Asian), and it seems that we get more looks from other Asian people when we’re out and about. Her family and friends accepted me without reservation, so it seems to be mainly strangers who have a problem with us.
Men in interracial marriages, what’s been the biggest challenge you’ve had to overcome?
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I’ve been in an interracial marriage for seven years now (I’m Caucasian, she’s Asian), and it seems that we get more looks from other Asian people when we’re out and about. Her family and friends accepted me without reservation, so it seems to be mainly strangers who have a problem with us.
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By looks, do you mean nasty looks? Or their heads just turn to look?
Asian married to Latina here. Mine would be language barrier with family members who only speak Spanish.
Chinese wife, very strict on hygiene. I was a morning shower person, she insists on night showers. No shower, no bed. Other things like no outdoor clothes on bed/sofa. We fell out a lot on that kinda thing at the start but I came around and it’s completely natural to me now 12 years later.
Tbh I’d rather marry outside my race. Not married current single😂 22m. But imo I have met a ton of women through my college path, and I can say most of the women who are a different race than me are much better than my own( white American🤷♂️). You can downvote me but it’s just my experiences in gen z women
I’m white, she’s Japanese. Been together 20 years.
Only problems I can think of are her thinking crumpets are the same as hot cakes and her inability to say “hippopotamus” on the first try.
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None really. Maybe some looks when Im with her in Greece (Ive never seen a Greek woman with a visibly non-Greek man in Greece – espec outside Athens, so I assume its extremely rare). But no one has been rude, etc.
Is this something you’ve noticed, or something she’s telling you she’s noticed?
I’ll be honest my ex used to constantly complain about about feeling that people were looking at us and judging us. For being different races or for her being too young for me, or whatever. I’d try to figure it out, but I never saw anything like that. People are too involved in their own selfish shit to usually give a shit about anyone else. I used to think it was her anxiety, maybe, but it turns out it was her personality disorder and things ended up going south pretty quick and this was just one of the signs I missed.
Maybe it’s where you are, but I think you are describing one of the most common pairings anywhere right now and I’d be genuinely surprised if you were getting as much attention as you describe. I wouldn’t worry about it regardless, your life is no one else’s business if it’s working for you.
No married but have interracially dated and experience the same thing. My family loves her her family loves me. Strangers that are black women always make unsolicited comments or dirty looks. It’s sad wish people would just learn to mind their business.
My advice is to ignore it and joke about it if your partner is comfortable with that.
Never noticed any looks. What has been tough is her parents being a different culture. Would be nice to drink and talk sports but that’s not how it is.
Also, Filipino time… Fuck I hate it when people are late. It’s hard to deal with.
15 year relationship, 13 year marriage (black/white)
Different responses to EVERYTHING. Childcare, values, finances, family relations, one’s culture is someone’s default settings. Everything you agreed on and worked on past the dating stage flies out the window quickly.
Family expectations. The black grandparents, the white grandparents, never imagined half white/black grandchildren. They’ll still love the grandchildren, but something is always ‘missing’ to them. Whether they are a CNN family or a Fox News family it’s the same outcome. To say it out loud, they simply don’t love them as much.
Cultural Expectations. Despite growing up in an urban area, my children don’t act “black.” No they aren’t going to try that hairstyle or that fashion white grandma, no they dgaf about the community black grandma. They are writing their own story and are about their own purpose.
The “exception” rule. You’ll marry a whole person and they’re still steeped with prejudice. You are just an “exception.” 😂
Being asked if your purchases are separate😂, being asked if your children are yours 💀
Those are the highlights, in the end your marriage will have the ups and downs of literally every marriage and you’ll realize that your situation is nothing special. In the end your marriage begins and ends with the both of you. If you are able to keep the outside forces on the outside where they belong, you’ll do fine. (Just don’t be peak millennial and cut them off. Give them the impetus to have a relationship with your grandchildren.)
I’ve had more issues dealing with my side of the family than any strangers. My solution was to cut them all out of our lives and not look back.
Some Asian people do not want their kids to marry people who aren’t Asian. I’ve been told that it is not possible for non-white to be racist so instead of prejudice I’ll just say it’s a very strong preference.
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White male, and tbh, I’ve dated more non-white women than white women. The non-white women universally tend to be sweeter, more devoted, and just overall more pleasant to deal with. White women are very often just…tedious.
White and married to a black women. We definitely get stared or glared at by older people of all races on occasion and have had some black dudes tell her she should leave me and get with a brother. Never found any of it a challenge or threatening. Just disappointing.
Biggest challenge was probably the wedding. She’s from Africa and there were all sorts of traditions and bride price type stuff to learn and act out. But once that was over it was over.
I’m a white American guy married to a Thai woman. Been living in Thailand 10 years. I dont notice anything, but then again I’m never really paying attention and dont give a shit.
Have 2 kids. Theyre cute.