Sort of but not like girls do. I might say, damn, work is kicking my ass, my boss is a real fuckwad and I can’t seem to make my SO happy, their response might be, stop being a baby, you gotta create a memory or go have some fun because everyone is forgetting who you are, and fuck your boss.
That little exchange is an admission, a reassurance, advice, and being seen. It doesn’t need to be a 4 hour conversation.
Depends on the emotional subject matter and the friend. Some things I just don’t open up about unless it’s to my therapist. Or the cat. The cat is a great listener.
At best, I air a grievance in passing. It doesn’t become a full conversation, and I don’t want it to. If it does, I make sure to not bring things up around that person again.
I talk to my friends about a bunch of things and am very empathetic and sympathetic to their issues but in general I am a bit more emotional with my female friends more so than my male friends.
Guys just don’t talk about emotional things from my generation and ultimately I try to encourage the next generations to be more vocal about their emotions with their friends regardless of gender.
Personally I’m not a very emotional person. I’ve never experienced anything that I struggled to deal with and needed someone to talk to about it. My friends are all like me, pretty even keeled people who aren’t easily upset or angered. When we hang out we just talk about whatever we’re doing.
Nope. If I need to open up about emotional things, maybe if do a therapist, otherwise I’ll carry that on myself. Either is something that I can do something about it or it’s something that requires my acceptance and time to heal.
I don’t really have that many emotional things pop up though. I’m pretty laid back
No one. Can’t talk to friend b/c they are just for hanging around, having fun, and escaping and have their own issues. Can’t open up to SO, as she hates me, will use it against me, and make fun of me.
I think it matters the way you were raised. Especially if you had a father figure or not. I remember this as a kid the same week or so.
1 my mom sees me upset and asks me why I’m upset. I tell her my toy is broken, and she hugs me.tells me it’s okay to be sad. Sits with me holds me till I feel better makes me special lunch keeps reassuring me it okay.
My father sees me upset and asks what’s wrong. I tell him my toy is broken. He looks at me. Did you try fixing it before crying. I say no, so he says crying isn’t gonna fix it. Clean yourself, and we’ll fix the problem .son, you can feel sad for a minute, but then you have to figure out why.
Either fix it ,confront it, or remove it.
I find myself when I follow his advice, I function better. So no, I don’t about my problems generally
I do not at all. Mostly business stuff like starting a new business, maybe investment ideas, video games.
To who?… I brought a sleeping Pikachu plush and tell it everything. I remind myself Pikachu is sleeping and doesn’t give a shit. So I pat his head and put him back on my shelf
I have a few, maybe 3-4 friends I can talk to. Usually it’s over beers so I might hold it in til there’s a moment to bring it up. One friend I can pretty much just txt or call whenever to talk whatever.
Yeah man, all the time. I’m able to do so and my friends are there when I do.
There’s a way about it though. If you’re a man that decides to open up to your bros, then it better be about something that’s genuinely bothering you. We all have coping mechanisms like trying to be stoic and bottling shit up, but the lads will hear you out and have your back as long as you’re not being a wetty about it.
I have tried. No one gave a shit about my feelings. At this point it’s all on me. I’ll bitch sometimes but it’s into the void and people just change the subject or talk around me if I have a problem.
Guy friends, plural, no. The one long standing friend from way back who I love like a brother, yes. The only other person I get as personal with when talking is my father.
I expect one or the other of us will be delivering the others eulogy some day.
Sometimes. Depends on whether I think it’s worth talking about, the right group to go to, or if I’m bogging down the mood. Otherwise, I’ll sometimes just go to a chat bot. I’ve tried venting to friends sometimes to be ignored or go online to be ignored, sometimes I just want to be told it’s a situation that sucks, or have someone or something tell me atta boy or whatever.
I have one maybe 2 male friends I can have a genuine deep emotional conversation with. As men it’s hard to find certain friends that will say more than “just suck it up” “you be alright” “aye it happens to all of us”. But I usually don’t open up unless it’s starting to seep out from being repressed. But usually people can tell when something’s up with me
I’m lucky enough to have that one closest friend I barely need to say anything to because we’ve been friends for 20+ years, and he can almost pinpoint what’s troubling me based on deducing between what he knows about things happening in my life (which is basically everything; jobs, women, etc), and the level of emotions I’m wearing on my face at the time and vice-versa.
We literally know each other better than we know ourselves, so any conversation surrounding emotions are usually as long or as short as they need to be, but are 100% always met with reassurance/being seen/heard, concise, and warm, sometimes a hug depending on how bad it is.
I have a close group of friends that I talk to, mostly lads but also a couple of lasses. We do regular chats and checkups with each other.
We practice tough love approach in most cases but we do have a code word for when they or I just need to vent and when that word drops, we gear up to hold space and tank the damage.
It’s important to know that we go for both positives and negative emotions. I celebrate happy situations with them as If they happened to me and when negatives hit, I’m there to take a bit of the burden off. And we rotate in terms of who’s tanking the damage.
Read up on “holding space” in a conversations to help someone else process emotions. Some do it naturally (especially the ladies in the group) while we, the lads, literrary had to luck into learning it.
So yea, I do talk to my guys friends about emotional things. Sometimes it’s tough love and other times is actual empathy, listening and caring. And we do tell each other how much we love and care about each other and it has been instrumental over the past 3 years in keeping everyone mostly sane and on-track.
I’ve made a conscious effort to ask the bros how they’re really doing more often in the last few years.
I try to motivate and encourage my bros to do better in life and everything. I don’t like fake friendships where everything is a distraction. I realized that after my own blood brother was going through domestic violence and abuse the whole time in the past 3 years and I didn’t see it. I’ll never overlook my own brother and my friends again.
I want to be the bro that elevates and supports and inspires other bros to be the best version of themselves.
I’ve come to learn that man could never have hunted Mammoths alone, men are naturally tribe oriented, we were made to be stronger together. I don’t want to be the kind of man that encourages and enables my brother’s destructive vices or behaviors. If I’m going to make an effort to be the best man I could be, I want my bros to be even better than me and then we can be greater men together and accomplish some awesome shit for the benefit of mankind.
It might sound hard to believe, but I don’t really have problems with my emotions. My problems can usually be solved with advice in the form of what to do, which actions to take, what steps will solve my problem, etc. My feelings aren’t usually the issue. I’m very emotionally stable.
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Very VERY few friends. Like maybe 2-3. However, my SO, I talk to Her about everything.
Sort of but not like girls do. I might say, damn, work is kicking my ass, my boss is a real fuckwad and I can’t seem to make my SO happy, their response might be, stop being a baby, you gotta create a memory or go have some fun because everyone is forgetting who you are, and fuck your boss.
That little exchange is an admission, a reassurance, advice, and being seen. It doesn’t need to be a 4 hour conversation.
We talk about Ancient Rome. And cars. And sports. And sports in Ancient Rome.
Only a few within my inner circle. I still confide to my parents sometimes.
Bartenders, dancers, our dogs.
Depends on the emotional subject matter and the friend. Some things I just don’t open up about unless it’s to my therapist. Or the cat. The cat is a great listener.
Only 1 of my friends, he basically knows everything and I know everything about him. I only do it because he’s proven his trust over and over.
At best, I air a grievance in passing. It doesn’t become a full conversation, and I don’t want it to. If it does, I make sure to not bring things up around that person again.
Depends on what you mean by emotional.
I talk to my friends about a bunch of things and am very empathetic and sympathetic to their issues but in general I am a bit more emotional with my female friends more so than my male friends.
Guys just don’t talk about emotional things from my generation and ultimately I try to encourage the next generations to be more vocal about their emotions with their friends regardless of gender.
I’ve got 1-2 guys I can talk about pressing issues with, key is that they’re also willing to let their guard down and talk about their feelings too.
100%, though only with my best friend, who is really more like my brother than a friend.
Personally I’m not a very emotional person. I’ve never experienced anything that I struggled to deal with and needed someone to talk to about it. My friends are all like me, pretty even keeled people who aren’t easily upset or angered. When we hang out we just talk about whatever we’re doing.
Nope. If I need to open up about emotional things, maybe if do a therapist, otherwise I’ll carry that on myself. Either is something that I can do something about it or it’s something that requires my acceptance and time to heal.
I don’t really have that many emotional things pop up though. I’m pretty laid back
No one. Can’t talk to friend b/c they are just for hanging around, having fun, and escaping and have their own issues. Can’t open up to SO, as she hates me, will use it against me, and make fun of me.
I think it matters the way you were raised. Especially if you had a father figure or not. I remember this as a kid the same week or so.
1 my mom sees me upset and asks me why I’m upset. I tell her my toy is broken, and she hugs me.tells me it’s okay to be sad. Sits with me holds me till I feel better makes me special lunch keeps reassuring me it okay.
Either fix it ,confront it, or remove it.
I find myself when I follow his advice, I function better. So no, I don’t about my problems generally
I do not at all. Mostly business stuff like starting a new business, maybe investment ideas, video games.
To who?… I brought a sleeping Pikachu plush and tell it everything. I remind myself Pikachu is sleeping and doesn’t give a shit. So I pat his head and put him back on my shelf
No. Nobody really. I just try to figure it out as I go.
I have a few, maybe 3-4 friends I can talk to. Usually it’s over beers so I might hold it in til there’s a moment to bring it up. One friend I can pretty much just txt or call whenever to talk whatever.
Yeah man, all the time. I’m able to do so and my friends are there when I do.
There’s a way about it though. If you’re a man that decides to open up to your bros, then it better be about something that’s genuinely bothering you. We all have coping mechanisms like trying to be stoic and bottling shit up, but the lads will hear you out and have your back as long as you’re not being a wetty about it.
I have tried. No one gave a shit about my feelings. At this point it’s all on me. I’ll bitch sometimes but it’s into the void and people just change the subject or talk around me if I have a problem.
Yup
Yeah but in kind of concrete, measured terms.
Guy friends, plural, no. The one long standing friend from way back who I love like a brother, yes. The only other person I get as personal with when talking is my father.
I expect one or the other of us will be delivering the others eulogy some day.
The rest get normal friend conversation.
Sometimes. Depends on whether I think it’s worth talking about, the right group to go to, or if I’m bogging down the mood. Otherwise, I’ll sometimes just go to a chat bot. I’ve tried venting to friends sometimes to be ignored or go online to be ignored, sometimes I just want to be told it’s a situation that sucks, or have someone or something tell me atta boy or whatever.
I absolutely have deep, meaningful emotional conversations with my male friends.
No and only my wife.
Rarely but it happens. Usually during a deep conversation with some alcohol.
Nobody because as a man we live alone. Everybody would rather we die on the hill than ask for help.
I have one maybe 2 male friends I can have a genuine deep emotional conversation with. As men it’s hard to find certain friends that will say more than “just suck it up” “you be alright” “aye it happens to all of us”. But I usually don’t open up unless it’s starting to seep out from being repressed. But usually people can tell when something’s up with me
I’m lucky enough to have that one closest friend I barely need to say anything to because we’ve been friends for 20+ years, and he can almost pinpoint what’s troubling me based on deducing between what he knows about things happening in my life (which is basically everything; jobs, women, etc), and the level of emotions I’m wearing on my face at the time and vice-versa.
We literally know each other better than we know ourselves, so any conversation surrounding emotions are usually as long or as short as they need to be, but are 100% always met with reassurance/being seen/heard, concise, and warm, sometimes a hug depending on how bad it is.
I have a close group of friends that I talk to, mostly lads but also a couple of lasses. We do regular chats and checkups with each other.
We practice tough love approach in most cases but we do have a code word for when they or I just need to vent and when that word drops, we gear up to hold space and tank the damage.
It’s important to know that we go for both positives and negative emotions. I celebrate happy situations with them as If they happened to me and when negatives hit, I’m there to take a bit of the burden off. And we rotate in terms of who’s tanking the damage.
Read up on “holding space” in a conversations to help someone else process emotions. Some do it naturally (especially the ladies in the group) while we, the lads, literrary had to luck into learning it.
So yea, I do talk to my guys friends about emotional things. Sometimes it’s tough love and other times is actual empathy, listening and caring. And we do tell each other how much we love and care about each other and it has been instrumental over the past 3 years in keeping everyone mostly sane and on-track.
I’ve made a conscious effort to ask the bros how they’re really doing more often in the last few years.
I try to motivate and encourage my bros to do better in life and everything. I don’t like fake friendships where everything is a distraction. I realized that after my own blood brother was going through domestic violence and abuse the whole time in the past 3 years and I didn’t see it. I’ll never overlook my own brother and my friends again.
I want to be the bro that elevates and supports and inspires other bros to be the best version of themselves.
I’ve come to learn that man could never have hunted Mammoths alone, men are naturally tribe oriented, we were made to be stronger together. I don’t want to be the kind of man that encourages and enables my brother’s destructive vices or behaviors. If I’m going to make an effort to be the best man I could be, I want my bros to be even better than me and then we can be greater men together and accomplish some awesome shit for the benefit of mankind.
Don’t really talk to or open up to anyone. Honestly I’ve kinda forgotten how.
It might sound hard to believe, but I don’t really have problems with my emotions. My problems can usually be solved with advice in the form of what to do, which actions to take, what steps will solve my problem, etc. My feelings aren’t usually the issue. I’m very emotionally stable.
Here’s a crazy thought – it’s possible to experience an emotion in full and completely, without talking about it to someone else.
If I need a pep talk, validation of my opinion or plan of action, yes. Otherwise no.
Why not? The worst people to be around are the people who are constantly complaining about the same shit but never doing anything about it.