Men of Reddit how many times did you hear this from women (you’re dating or trying to date) regarding you having a close relationship with your mother, and what did you think about it?
I have met women that said that a big red flag in a man is how close he is to his mother, and that the mother will likely try to control the relationship, given how well they get along. What do you think about this take from women if you ever heard this?
Personally, I’ve lost any romantic interest in any women who told me this in the past, as I have a close relationship with my mother, and we get along very well.
Would like to hear your thoughts – personally, I would rather keep being single and get along well with my mom, rather than date or be in a relationship with women that have a closed/narrow mind(set).
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the real question is how close are you with your mother and how much influence does she have over you and your relationships because if just one woman complains then she’s the one with the problem but if multiple women bring up the same thing…. you need to take a look in the mirror buddy
Brainstormed with my mum how I should respond! /j
I have. There’s a reason those women are always single 😂
My wife has told me that I am ruining my relationship with her because of my relationship with my mother. And in my case at least I think it was true. I would take my mother’s side out of habit even if my wife was right.
She said didn’t say it outright, but she did mention how I often I check up on my mother and I responded with,
“What can I say, I love the women in my life and I want to make sure they’re well.
Play your cards right, I’ll make sure you’re well as well”
Honestly… it is a bit of a red flag. You can only have one “#1 woman in your life.” It should not be your mother. You don’t say how old you are, but it sounds like you have a little bit of growing up to do if mommy is still your best friend. And I don’t mean to be hurtful, just giving you my honest feelings as a married man. You have to put your girl ahead of your mother ALWAYS.
I say that if i cant be close with me mom thy cant be close with thire dad. (Jk ovs) but fr thy font understand some People have good famely dynamics
It’s ironic because many women are usually much much closer to their mothers, and often fathers, to the point they go on vacations together. Their dad would still call them “my princess” even if they’re 40 etc. Somehow women can be attached to the hip to their parents even if married and they can consult with their moms on everything, but God forbid a man has a close relationship with his parents. Then men are to blame for being not having enough social connections etc etc.
I’ve seen stories about this on reddit a lot and a few in person. The best thing you could do (in my opinion) is to be objective.
If you’re gf comes to you with any issues or concerns, really take a step back and try to see it from her perspective, and then take a look at it from an objective point of view.
If you don’t, and simply dismiss her concerns without giving any thought, she will see that and it won’t help the relationship at all.
If your mom interferes with your relationship then yes that would be a red flag, having a good relationship with your mom is not a red flag.
If a woman just doesn’t want you to have a good relationship with your mom then she likely just doesn’t want any competition in controlling you.
I feel like you know that you being close with your mom is fine. I feel like you know what women actually mean when they say close relationship. There’s a lot of mothers out there that have an almost incestual relationship with their sons, either because they remind them of their fathers or because they feel they have a relationship with them that they dont have with any other men. These kinds of mothers usually dont like/ dont favor their daughters and find no faults with their sons. So called “mommy’s boys” who, if there’s a problem in the relationship, will ask his mother for an opinion on it. Will run to his mother with problems. Will run to his mother when something upsets him. His wife comes after his mom. Wife is giving birth but his mom is having an emergency type of shit.
What happened to “if a man treats his woman like a princess, its because he was raised in the arms of a queen!”?
Never. And I am more of a mama’s boy than Alexander of Macedon.
I’ve heard more often that not being particularly close to your mom is a red flag.
So there’s apparently a goldillocks zone, where you have to be close to your mom but not too close.
Every. single. time. They’ll be like “Why did you bring you mother to our first date?” And I’m like “Who do you think is paying ?!?”