Men of Reddit who had oopsie babies- What was that like for you? How did you respond when you found out?
Men of Reddit who had oopsie babies- What was that like for you? How did you respond when you found out?
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Men of Reddit who had oopsie babies- What was that like for you? How did you respond when you found out?
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I’m excited for her, I was excited when I found out.
However our relationship was and is not in the place it should be for having a baby. It’s been hard and stressful and difficult at times. But I know it’ll be worth it.
We had an oops baby back when I was 24 and my now wife was 23.
I actually proposed to her at Christmas in front of her whole family, and then 6 weeks later we found out she was 2 weeks pregnant at the time I proposed. Now that was a fun discussion with her very Catholic father that one actually did proceed the other.
And life changed for both of us and 36 years later, we are now grandparents.
Was it stressful? Damned straight it was. Would I do it all over again?
Considering the way everything has turned out? Damned straight I would.
My third was an oops. Now he’s 26 and my business partner. And an amazing man.
If i ever had an oopsie baby, i would leave my partner alone. No way i am gonna be spending a fortune for one mistake
Really didn’t want kids but I ended up marrying her. She claimed she was on the pill. When my son was actually born it changed everything and I embraced my role as a father. Our second son also was conceived when she was supposedly on the pill. Again, despite it being unexpected, I went all in on being a father. My younger son is convinced (by the way his mom treated him) that she got pregnant on purpose trying to save our marriage and when it didn’t work, took it out on him. So I’m glad I got custody after our divorce. Still have a great relationship with them.
Scheduled a vasectomy once she was born. The age gap between the second to last and last is 6 years. Not enough to play together. Not old enough to be able to babysit the baby. It also created a little jealously between them. Do not recommend.
Well, I am 18 years deep paying child support; the ex has been a nightmare for 16 of those 18 years. A couple of hundred grand in lawyer bills to enforce visitation and court orders.
The good news is I just today watched said child graduate from high school “with high distinction,” and she is soon off to a full-ride scholarship for med school!
Don’t be like my dad and tell them that you never wanted kids and if you could do it again you wouldn’t have kids. I dropped out of grad school to take care of him when he was diagnosed with cancer. I worked a shit factory job where I was assaulted just to pay my student loans and help pay for stuff around the house. Even if you regret it, don’t make it the kids problem please.
In the 80’s there was nothing to think about, I withdrew from college, went full time at work, and got married. That is what you did, and in Kentucky, shotgun weddings were still very much a thing, nothing overt, but several covert comments were made that could have been taken as a threat.
Not a real oopsie but we definitely had our second a lot quicker than expected. It’s actually working out great, we’re slightly older parents and I’m not sure we would’ve had a second if we waited. Elections and COVID were a little rough. I laughed when I saw that very faint line on the strip. With our first I never believed the barely visible line on the pee strip but as the days passed the lines got darker and then there was the doctor’s appointment. With the second, my wife showed me a barely visible line and told me it was probably nothing l, but I knew.