There’s a growing movement of women choosing to stop dyeing their hair and go grey—some as early as their 30s and 40s. Whether it’s salt and pepper or full-on silver, many are embracing the natural process instead of covering it up.
Personally, I believe women should feel empowered to do what makes them feel confident and comfortable. Our bodies, our hair—our choice.
That said, I’m curious how men genuinely feel about this trend. Do you find it attractive when a woman confidently rocks her natural grey? Do you view it differently depending on age or presentation? Does it signal something deeper to you, like confidence or wisdom?
This isn’t a debate about whether women should or shouldn’t—we’re past that. Just wondering how this choice is perceived by men from a preference standpoint.
Please keep responses respectful—this is about curiosity, not judgment.
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I have no feelings on the matter.
> Does it signal something deeper to you, like confidence or wisdom?
It signals that you’re aging or under stress or both.
Don’t think any different of it
I think it’s perfectly fine. In fact, if we see enough women going salt n’ pepper, it may be that dyed people are the ones who start looking funny. Having said that, you do you.
Don’t like dyeing in general. That said, other than stupid colors i barely notice hair dye, my thoughts regarding women mostly focus on shape (I don’t like straight hair, looks lifeless), and unless i see green, purple or multiple shades of various colors, i couldn’t care less about color (Crazy colors = Crazy person, i’m a firm believer of not sticking it in crazy).
Majority of guys will not see it anymore that what is physically viewable. She is aging, under stress, or unhealthy. It’s a “you do you” attitude that most men have.
I’m sorry but a lot of those “signal something deeper” feeling is more for other women, cause they are breaking ceilings that they placed on themselves, or other women have placed.
I just see a woman with gray hair, doesn’t signal anything to me. I mean, I guess I know they’re older? But usually i know that regardless of dying their hair.
This seems like something women notice not men.
I was okay with my salt & pepper hair until my wife told me she doesn’t like it. Now I am dyeing it just like she does hers.
I have no thoughts on it at all and never will.
Good for them being comfortable with themselves enough to do that. I definitely would not be attracted to a woman like that though because I think it’s ugly and It’s a red flag to me in that they don’t care enough about their presentation to try to look better.
Dgaf
I’m embracing my grey/balding (I’m not yet 40) so I’m in no place to judge. Honestly, I judge people more for when they try to hide it and seem so stressed about aging that it consumes them. If you’re going grey, meh who cares. Can’t control biology.
“Thank fuck. Finally.”
As a guy who watched his Dad dye his hair for years and thinking that looked like a major pain in the ass, I decided early on and was never going to do that. If it goes grey it does.
It doesn’t bother me. There are a ton of attractive women with greying hair…
I’m not a fan, unless it’s neat.
On the one hand I definitely see it as a positive that she’s good with presenting her natural self and doesn’t feel the need to hide it to appeal to others.
On the other hand, on a gut level I am just as attracted to signs of youth as any other man, and grey hair doesn’t really fit that image.
Back on the first hand again, if she’s overall attractive, some grey hair isn’t going to change that.
Love it. Dying your hair or hiding your age is just so stupid.
I had a girlfriend who told me she started going grey in college. I met her when she was 39. Her hair was like the X-MEN character, Storm. Pure white. That she looked much younger than 39 added to the appeal of her shockingly white hair. Underneath she shaped it like a Dorito Chip and it was just as white.
Jet black hair on people in their 70’s and 80’s always looked off.
Salt and pepper hair on people in their 30’s and 40’s and beyond looks great.
Personally…I’m horendously attracted to natural hair colors transitioning. I want to see natural progression in a woman regardless of age. If her hair changes so does her style and mannurisms a combination with deadly heart piercing attraction in my eyes.
If you think about it too some men go from a darker colored beard to a amber/black beard in the 20-40’s range as well. Some guys just really rock it too.
Man here: I have no skin in the game. Women, you do you!
I really love when women embrace the gray.
Hot. Dated a 33 year old girl with grey hair. She made it work…. seriously!
I don’t give a fuck, shave your head completely if you want.
I have no issue at all with grey hair.
But I would have an issue if those same women complained about men balding.
Out of all the fucks I have to give out, this does get any.
I am torn between good for them. And I am not attracted to that
Not my life, not my problem.
Personally I like it. I feel too many people get caught up in things that seem trivial to me. When I see grey hair, I think less about it than when I notice someone who has or is dyeing their hair. If a women has it, I might tend to think she is probably focused on more important things and less caught up with what people think. Many women, in my opinion, who have grey hair, come across at first as more mature. Of course that is not always the case. That is just the first impression based on looks. Which I’m all to aware, looks can be deceiving. But I’m more likely going to be drawn towards someone aging into grace. Especially when their attitude and behavior reflect a person comfortable with themself.