Men, what does your ideal girlfriend look and act like? I want to grow into the best version of myself, would love honest answers.
Men, what does your ideal girlfriend look and act like? I want to grow into the best version of myself, would love honest answers.
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Peaceful.
It’s one of those things that’s hard to articulate but we know it when we see it kinda things.
Don’t turn everything into an argument
A grown adult.
Eva Mendez
Corny but – ideal partner is not a person who has built themself around some internalized image of what other people want.
You seem like you might be really young. I won’t give you that crap advice “just be yourself.” But I will tell you to make decisions that you feel confident in, and if you can’t make decisions you’re confident in, learn more until you feel good about the choices you’re making (even if those choices are uncertain), and have confidence in owning the result of your own actions.
There’s nothing more attractive than a confident person.
This is going to be different for every man, you aren’t going to crack some code to be the perfect partner. Your ideal boyfriend will be the one who loves you when you are just being yourself. Go find that guy.
Mine looks and acts as she wants, and it has nothing to do with me. How I try to be the best version of myself has no connection to those things, aside from the encouragement she gives me to be that best version.
How you live your life is up to you, not your wife.
Level headed, calm and peaceful who I can trust. Easy to talk to is a plus.
I know it’s super cliche, but someone who isn’t ashamed to be themselves!
Pretty, not fat, not argumentative.
The most important thing that you can do is take action to improve your mental health. Your beliefs about yourself are what is limiting your options. Doing the work will also help you to be clearer on what YOU want. Because you will see the red flags that before work you would have missed.
As for physically, this has to do with preferences and you can’t really change those. But what you are looking for is a person who is really happy to be with YOU, not just your breasts.
Well, she is kind, loyal, honest, humble, gracious, disciplined, forgiving, patient, and has a strong sense of integrity.
I also appreciate a woman who is as goofy and unhinged as I am, so I’m glad mine is.
Just be you. Be sincere, be pleasant. Care about how you turn out in public FOR YOUR OWN SELF ESTEEM.
MOST IMPORTANTLY… Dont become a toxic old shrew.
It’s better to just be yourself.
The best version of yourself is not something to mold based on what men want.
Become the best version of yourself for you, then find a man that is a good match for your authentic self.
First off you a real one OP.
Second heres some qualities that would make a good girlfriend/partner. For me, a good girlfriend isn’t about being perfect. Its more about being real and emotionally safe to be around. I’d say:
She creates space to feel like yourself without walking on eggshells
She’s supportive. She’ll hype you up and call you on your bullshit when needed
She actually knows how to communicate. Like, doesn’t turn everything into a mind game or go quiet just to make a point
She’s playful. Flirtatious. Still makes you feel wanted even when it’s not about sex
She has her own life. Her happiness isn’t dependent on what you’re doing 24/7
Loyal, not just in words but energy. She’s not fishing for outside attention for validation
She gets nuance. Doesn’t overreact to everything or twist your words
She’s down for intimacy and open to exploring what you both like, not just performing
She respects your energy as a man without needing to control it
And most importantly? She’s just…kind. Like genuinely kind, not “nice when she wants something” kind.
Lastly, a very important one for you personally OP. Don’t overextend yourself if your effort is not being reciprocated. If you feel you are being your best self but your partner isnt, dial it back. It’s great that you want to be a good girlfriend but make sure it’s worth it
Fun, can laugh at herself, doesn’t worry about what others think, spontaneous, frisky….
Echoing a few other responses here:
“Being yourself” is a usual generic answer but it’s rarely something that actually helps. Be confident in who you are, and who you yourself want to be. Being someone you’re not for someone else is exhausting physically, mentally, and emotionally. Unless you’re exceptionally good at acting you will eventually be found out, too. The hardest part about lying is maintaining it and very few people are good at doing it.
I’d advise you focus on finding what you want out of life, and working towards it. Be confident in what you want, and you’ll likely eventually find someone who will align with you too.
If you look at yourself through the lens of “would I date me?” and can be genuinely honest on saying yes, or think there are things that you would want yourself to work on as someone who doesn’t really know you – there’s your answer on how to look and act.
If it helps my examples of what I’m working on for myself are being more fit and less unhealthy. I don’t really want a partner who I’d have to take care of due to their decision to not take care of themselves. Ergo, I try to take care of myself (eat right, exercise, protect my mental health).
Hope this helps.
Like my wife.
The ideal girlfriend is someone who is herself and forms her own opinions and doesn’t let her friends or families change her desires and goals in life. Advice is good but it shouldn’t be blindly followed.
As for the rest it’s more on a person to person basis. I for example enjoy having a gf who is kind, caring, supportive, modest and communicates well.
I’m confident in saying that any man will love a woman who’s kind and caring (even towards those that don’t deserve it).
Boils down to kind, genuinely kind. Good sense of humor meaning she can tell good jokes, and she can laugh at my jokes as well and loyalty. A bonus would be that she is also not obese because I am scrawny so I’d like to have someone as skinny as me
Its going to be different for every guy. Just be you and there will be someone who likes that. Its impossible to be something your not full time so just own what you are and that will get attention. Confidence is great
I think we are going to have a different ideal in mind. I for one want someone with a great personality who never stop growing. Looks like the best version of herself without trying to be someone shorter, taller, or prettier.
The five Fs:
Fit
Feminine
Friendly
Faithful
Fun
Looks aren’t a big deal, as long as she isn’t hideous.
Also, she would have to be interesting to talk to and have some non-superficial passions in her life .
And if I ask her “out of all the ones in history, including ancient times, who was your favorite dictator?” She should have an answer