I’m single and never been in a relationship. I tried dating and getting to know girls, but it just exhaust me. I feel like, I’m only doing it, since other people are in a relationship and don’t want to be alone or left out.
Men who are over 30 and have no girlfriend or wife. do you regret it? How is it?
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I’m single and never been in a relationship. I tried dating and getting to know girls, but it just exhaust me. I feel like, I’m only doing it, since other people are in a relationship and don’t want to be alone or left out.
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after talking with married men who envy me, no not really
Besides i already produced 5 kids and more are on the way, what else should i need?
Regret? No. Do I want one? Sure. But I’m willing to hold out for a good one. I still have a lot of work to do on myself so I can’t imagine I’ll attract a good one anytime soon
My life is peaceful.
After a bit of a colourful dating history/ bit of a wild ride in my 20s, I realised in my early 30s that all of the little niggles in a relationship which make you unhappy and uncomfortable, quite a lot of the time aren’t worth suffering through.
As I’m getting older, I’m finding a lot of the little niggles with dating are amplified into quite big flaws. Things like unresolved personality issues that make them unnecessarily confrontational. There’s usually a kid involved that makes dating borderline impossible. An untrained dog which bites, chews, and destroys everything and you’re just expected to put up with because it was there before you.
But, most frequently the issue is an ex that wont go away, who she keeps entertaining for the excitement.
Being single and having a quiet life, making your own fun with your own money and interests is 100% the way to go
No, I don’t regret it.
If I had a woman relying on me when I hit any of the lows I’ve hit, I’d have probably necked myself.
if you’ve never met anyone you want to be in a relationship with, then you shouldn’t try to force yourself to do anything you’re not really that interested in. it’s totally fine to be that way. maybe one day you’ll meet someone who makes you want to be in a relationship, but maybe not, it’s fine either way.
To be able to regret there’s the implication that I had a choice in it.
I’ve had several girlfriends and about 50 casual sexual partners, but things haven’t worked out. I don’t really get it and my friends don’t get it and in the end I’m sure it comes down to a lot of luck.
I’ve always feared that I’d end up all alone for most of my life, and now at 35, it seems ever more likely. It sucks and I would’ve changed it in a heartbeat if I could, but life’s just not fair sometimes.
This is a tough question. I can live my day to day life with no issues, I’m at least a decent enough cook and can take care of a house by myself but sometimes I find myself thinking it would be nice not to sleep alone every night.
The inverse of that question will tell you more about the meaning of regret.
Regret Hell No!! Same as being in a realtionship without the headaches, go out get laid go home alone or to them and leave when you choose
Regret isn’t the right word, I do want a relationship but my life right now isn’t bad. If the right girl comes along, great but if not I’m fine without it.
Well…..
I’m turning 50 in a week ….. never married with no kids…
Last girlfriend was 13 years ago
It can get lonely at times… particularly come wintertime but I have no regrets
With that being said…. Don’t end up like me … it’s definitely boring not having a significant other around
I always thought that the right one would come and next thing you know I’m 49 and single with a great paying job but nobody to pamper other than myself and my immediate family
Good luck on your journey!!!
I was in a relationship for 7 years, considered marriage, then life and everything else took its course. As it is now, I’m in the best shape of my life, and have had a number of adventures, and lots of casual sex. I’ve met a few people over the last four years I’ve considered dating more seriously, but also have enough uncertainty that I don’t want to commit to anyone. I’d like to settle down, but I’m in no rush, and rarely feel lonely.
Does this question carry an implied “have never had”? I’ve recently been broken up with by my partner of 5 years. I completely deserved it, and I need to do a lot of work on myself before I will be ready for a relationship again. Do I regret that? Sure, I regret not making the effort to get better before it was too late. But I don’t really regret being single in and of itself.
Ill be 40 in a couple of months. Not sure if regret is the word. Ive been in relationships and obviously none of them have worked out. I tend to attract the wrong kinds of women. After every one ends, I swear im giving up on them and just going to be single the rest of my life because its too emotionally exhausting and hurtful.
I spent most of my 20s in a relationship. It was great, honestly. She was my best friend, and it’s always nice to come home to a warm hug and a smile after a long shift.
I’m now 32 and single. I won’t pretend that it’s the greatest thing ever, but it’s certainly not all doom and gloom. I just don’t really have the energy or the inclination to pursue another relationship, so it’s hard for me to feel regret. It is what it is.
If you haven’t been in a relationship before, I’m not sure if the experiences of those who have can help you.
I’m 36 5,4″ and single. I have a child to an absolutely abysmal excuse for a person – not kidding I’m actually fighting in court to prove this.
I am not rich but my money is my own. I’m not succeeding mentally but my mind is free from manipulation. I’m content.
I get lonely. There is a void that I’d like to fill. I’m sure everyone feels that way.
The trick is to fill that void with something worthwhile, not filling it for the sake of filling it. This is why there are so many hurt men and women out there blaming each other. If you were starving would you eat dogshit?
Regret? No, not really. I was always someone standing a bit aside, enjoying my peace. And seeing what dating has turned into, it’s hard to imagine that there is a woman who would at least keep my peace (let alone to add to it) rather than destroy it.
No, I lived a life I enjoyed, established a career kept good relationships with friends and family, have hobbies I find fulfilling, I just never found a partner while doing that.
Peaceful af
I’m 40, lifelong single and no, I don’t regret it. Turning 40 last year was quite the milestone as it allowed me to rest old anxieties and truly embrace the single lifestyle.
Never been in a relationship either, and dating just exhausts me too.
Have you ever had to apologize over the sound your shoes were making after a 12 hour shift and were gaslit to the point where you fully believe it’s your fault for walking so much inside to make it to your room and were convinced you were the bad guy. Legit shaken awake to be screamed at?
I’ve been abused. Verbally, emotionally, physically. And at this point I just don’t see the appeal. I’ve had plenty of partners. Even after it all the shit it’s made me feel I will fuck it up because I’ll open a bag too rough and trigger “PTSD” and ruin the whole relationship.
Yeah that sounds fucking stupid but it has actually happened to me. I am incredibly mortal and I simply can not waste my time on that shit.
I actively stay single, no intention of changing that whatsoever. Couldn’t imagine living with someone again. I like doing my own thing, that’s not going to change.
Regret what? No clue what I could have done differently or better. I did my best and one day I will find one that appreciates that or don’t. Meanwhile I will strive to be happy on my own.
Stay single guys, choose peace.
Relationship Trauma sucks
I love it, peace is king!
Honestly…having a blast. But i dont struggle with dating so being single is a choice hence why i dont mind.
Having the freedom to pursue my hobbies is something I really enjoy and have got used to, I’ll struggle to give that up and it means I don’t feel a sense of urgency.
It’d be nice to meet someone but it’s not something I put much effort into because I don’t think it is a realistic possibility.
I’m usually the only single person in any given setting (friendship, family, work) so it can get lonely. A lot of long term friendships have faded away because they settled down and I didn’t.
I think married men will envy the single men and the single men will envy the married men both will tell you not to follow their life style.
Yeah it’s strange. I never wanted my life to turn out this way. But I was a loser in my teens and twenties. I guess I’m still one now. I made bad decisions along the way and spurned the small handful of opportunities I had. Like you OP I’ve never had a gf.
It comes and it goes. I mean I think about it every single day. But some months it hits harder than others. Was really struggling at the beginning of the year. At the moment I’m feeling less bothered about it.
I could’ve always tried harder I suppose. But I do feel like I’ve done most of the stuff you’re meant to do already. I’ve done the meetup thing in the past. I go to gym most days. I go on nights out most weekends with my one remaining single friend, sadly we’re aging out of a lot of places now. I’ve used dating apps daily for around a decade. If it was going to happen it would’ve happened already. I’m not overly bothered about being a parent but it would be nice if that was an option. I’m not interested in raising someone else’s kids, especially in what would be my first relationship.
I was seeing someone for about a month earlier this year. Despite my best efforts I still wasn’t good enough for her. It sucked because it’s extremely hard to get dates. But afterwards I felt like a weight was off my shoulders to some extent. I didn’t have to worry about coming up with date ideas anymore. I didn’t have to feel insecure about if she actually liked me or not. I didn’t have to worry about conversation topics or being too boring for her. I didn’t have to feel worried about not being good enough for her anymore.
Not everyone gets to be happy. Maybe I’ve been single too long now. I find it extremely difficult to imagine myself in a relationship now. Right now I’m sort of feeling not particularly interested in it. I mean I’m never good enough for anyone no matter how hard I try, so I wonder why I try at all. I’m not really sure how you be happy as a perma single but that seems like my path I guess.
I don’t think “regret” is the right word.
How can i regret something that isn’t under my control?
Yes but it’s tolerable for now. I worry more about my later years though. Being 36 and alone has its ups and downs, but being 50 and alone is probably gonna suck.
I’m bad at a lot of the logistical parts of coupling haha. Emotionally, I’m available and warm, but I hate being over-scheduled, I don’t like sleeping in the same bed (for the purposes of sleep), and I don’t like feeling like ‘entertainment’ (right or wrong, I’m comfortable doing my own thing and I don’t need to do my own thing alone like a pariah, but I don’t like being on the hook to make sure you’re not bored. We’re supposed to be a couple, why does it feel like I’m entertaining company?).
I don’t think I’m incompatible with everybody, I’m not misanthropic or strange, but for me, trading in my personal freedom and space is a big sacrifice, it’s one I definitely haven’t felt the need to make yet, and maybe with time I’ll meet somebody who meets me closer to where I’m at in terms of alone time and funitivities that it won’t matter
Regret? No.
I hate that i never got to experience what dating or being in a relationship was like in my teens and twenties, but it’s not that i didnt try i just wasnt successful. Some of it was my fault being introverted, socially awkward, lacking self confidence, etc, but also there wasn’t a book on how to live life after becoming visually impaired let alone a book on how to date after becoming visually impaired.
At 31 im trying to date again while simutaniously committing to losing weight, trying my best to remedy my visual impairment which has a possibility of not happening, and becoming a better more confident person.
From the ages of 21 to 31 i realized that i could 100% live alone and be content but i also realized i want more, i want a wife, i want a family, the whole shebang, and i know i’d regret not giving 10/10ths of my energy trying to achieve that.
Yes, I regret not getting to know women more.
I know it shouldn’t be excuse, but I’ve always been shy and find it hard to make conversation.
Also, I’ve dealt with health issues since I was a teenager.
You mentioned you are in your 30’s. That is better than where I’m at. I’m 49. I’ve never had a girlfriend and have only been on a couple of dates. My health issues have really taken a toll on me, especially earlier on. But that has just kind of snow balled (gotten bigger) over time.
I would like to meet a woman to get to know, but don’t know where to start, especially where to meet them. Online dating seems like a waste of time because you never know if it will get to the point of meeting in person.
I’ve even looked into the “hookup” culture, and even then, women will start talking to me on one platform, only to want me to go over to their OnlyFans page. The most recent experience I had with meeting a woman online was with this woman who posted she was interested in a hookup, but then later said to contact her on OF.
50/50, because on one hand you don’t have someone who can control what to do in your life, but on the other one, It would be nice to have a buddy with who you can also do funny things in the bed and supports you when things go south.
Sure, regret is probably a good word for it. I tried for a long time to lie to myself that I wouldn’t want anyone in my life, and then that it might add something but it’s better for everyone involved if I don’t, and so on and so forth. After being in a short relationship, my first ever, it lasted just long enough for me to learn it’s actually really important to me, I’m actually pretty good at being a supportive, loving partner, and I regret that I’ve lived a life without it; there’s a lot of people who could be happy alone but personally it seems like the most likely way I could have ever been happy was being able to be in a healing relationship with someone who I wanted to be with and made me want to live life, because I damn sure can’t do that on my own. I’m not going to go looking, I think it’s far too late and I offer absolutely nothing but baggage. I’m resigned to being alone for the rest of my life, but I got just enough of a taste to know that no, actually, there might have been a world where I was happy. It’s just not this one.
I left my marriage a couple years ago at 34. I’ve dated but nothing really goes anywhere and fizzles out or I just can’t really get into it.
Honestly, and only because I make enough money to live comfortably alone, I really love being single, frankly. I get to go on the vacations i want without compromising. I get to spend my weekends however I feel without guilt or consideration. I save so much money being single that I’m contributing more to my retirement accounts than I have ever, and can dive deeply into my love of canoeing whitewater as a hobby.
I also got the dog in the divorce, and he’s my number 1 man. We sort of have a Gilbert and Arnie relationship, so he keeps me on my toes and keeps my heart full.
It’s not that I wouldn’t want to fall inlove with the right woman and start a family. But that doesn’t mean I can’t appreciate the beautiful life I’ve built for myself in the mountains alone with my dog, living my life by my own inclinations.
I had been single for almost 12 years when I started dating my now wife, and I was comfortable with just myself. I was 35 when we started and 39 when I married her. I’m happy as can be that I didn’t make it a priority until I found the person I wanted to be with. Most dating I had done before felt like it wasn’t worth it at all, and now I can’t imagine not having her in my life. I don’t regret my years single or my time with her. The right one is worth it, but don’t try to force it if you can be happy without.
I’m 46. I do some “modeling” on here and elsewhere. Sex kinda comes to me. I have a regular lover who is married, and her husband likes to watch.
My life is fun, but it’s not fulfilling. I’m entertained but I’m not happy. I’ve been married twice. I’ve raised children. That was happiness. That was fulfilling.
I would trade my old life for this one in a heartbeat.
It’s awful. I’m 36 and I’ve never had any kind of romantic relationship. It didn’t matter what I did to try and get one either. Nothing ever worked for me.
I’m 41 years old, I had girlfriends until 2014, I gave up in 2018, and I don’t regret the decision. I live better without the package of problems of a serious relationship.
Over 40 here, don’t regret it.
It’s been alright, I go out and do my things.
Your not kidding about the exhausted feeling.
No, relationships are trouble. I’d rather remain a single for the remainder of my life than deal with all that drama.
I regret not being more social during my hs and college days. I know women are attracted to me because of dating apps and irl interactions, but it also doesn’t help that most of the time I’m out and about I keep to myself. I love conventions and cosplay, so maybe I could meet a cosplayer there.
No, I don’t regret it … But only because I did it extensively and chose to stop.
You will probably be just fine as long as you gave it a shot and chose for yourself not to do it anymore. I think it’s the guys that had problems getting what they want that have the regrets….. Not the guys that got it and didn’t like it.
I had a life altering, career ending injury in my mid 30s. Before then, I was career oriented as I was also helping my family/mom. I would only go to bars with my buddies, but not really date.
After the injury, started dating, but by them I “old”. The dating pool for guys that age are either single moms, career women or young girls looking for a “Sugar daddy.”
Both, single moms & Sugar babies, are looking for the SAME THING, a guy to financially support them. The thing with single moms is, you will never be #1 to them. Most likely not #2 either, if her girlfriens have anythingto say about it. I understand putting your kids 1st, my mother didn’t, and she let some real ASSHOLES into our lives.
Career women will only see you as a casual dating option. Her career will ALWAYS, matter more.
After 12 years of trying, I’ve accepted the reality of no kids, no wife, no grandkids or family gatherings.
Modern women are all about I. I’m old school and want a partner. Looking for the Lying, ” to love and to cherish, til death do us part.”
That’s not happening with a “Modern woman.” What her’s is her’s…what’s your’s is her’s.
I realized that because I am a hopelessromantic that I will never find a woman that loves me, as much as I love them. That will Always lead to me being used and heart broken.
I’m left to pick up the pieces. Now, I am focusing on getting my life, mind and soul back into a good peaceful place.
Nah, zero regrets. As a “low status male” (as in, limited income, no good looks or body. Also, personally I don’t think myself as that, but other tend to do so) the options are… uninteresting. Mostly family-oriented modest boring people who want to live like their parents did. And I don’t. Been chasing my passions ever since I became a metalhead at 13-14, and life’s been pretty colorful to say the least, hah!
No regrets. My life is very peaceful so if she adds to my peace then she can stay around. I’m not dealing with anyone’s drama or trauma.
Nope I tried dating and met lovely women but the drama and unnecessary disagreements and how they argue just isn’t worth it.Catch men in their 20s when they’re willing to put up with that but the older we get the less well put up with it (yes men aren’t perfect either )
I just turned 33 and want to be in a romantic relationship again. But I don’t think I can anytime soon. My ex cheated on me and it really changed my perception of trust, intimacy and love in general.
So yeah, I have regrets. I’m still hoping to find the right one one day.
It’s pretty awesome man. Gets lonely, and I could use a fire under my ass on the days I just want to relax and do nothing but it’s not worth exchanging this peace for that annoyance.
I just saw a post about some dude being furious that his wife repeatedly messages a celebrity and I could only imagine how I’d have to apologize after having that conversation with the lady.
I’m turning thirty soon and I haven’t had a serious relationship in several years. As cliche as it is, I feel like life is slipping away a little bit. I recently took a long solo trip visiting some old friends and traveling around and a large portion of the time I was left thinking how much more fulfilling my experiences would be if I had someone to share them with.
I’ve had a good deal of partners, a couple long-term girlfriends, and several flings here and there, but I think I have some fundamental incompatibility with serious commitment. I often find myself quickly falling out of love with women I date. So I’m slowly resigning myself to the fact that things probably won’t change.
I can’t regret it because I don’t think I could have done any differently. Life is generally decent single. I get to make/save lots of money, I don’t have to worry about factoring in others when I want to travel or something. I’m free to live schedule-less. But life does feel a little pointless from time to time and I am left craving some emotional connection.
I’ve been in relationships, though longest one was about a year. Was just never good in them (I think learning I had autism later in life helped me understand why) and I’ve had some casual stuff as well. Im at a point in my life though where I’m working abroad, intend to move again to another country in a couple years. So for me starting a serious relationship when there’s these other things I want to do just seems a bit selfish on my part if I know I intend to move country again. Especially if the other person wanted to stay, just would cause unnecessary heartache.
I love being single. The freedom is addictive. If someone makes my life better I’ll commit, but it’s rare I feel that way.
I want nothing more in this life than to be a husband and have a wife and kids. Apparently not enough to do anything about it though. I’ve never been on a date because I’ve never been brave enough to ask a girl out, I’m a fat piece of shit, and I never have energy to do anything after work so I just lay on the couch until it’s time to go clock in again.
I’d be a terrible husband anyway.
I don’t regret it, because it’s not due to my own decisions. I’m chronically ill and disabled so not exactly an easy time to find someone. For men dating women almost nobody will date you when they find that out even if they were interested before they knew that. I was able to attract women as long as I didn’t yet tell them about those things (partially because I’m not disabled in a way where how I look flags it). And I’m not going to lie or pretend to get someone. I would like a different outcome, but I’m too ill to put in the energy to try to get a different one, as in there is probably a chance if I put myself out there over and over again I’d find someone who would overlook it, but I’m not well enough to do that given my condition.
How can i regret something that’s beyond my control? I can’t. So i’ll focus on myself and my work.
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After 3 attempts at a relationship, the last of which ended with me basically being painted as a r@p!st, Im pretty content with the single life. The next woman that comes into my life needs to be pretty fucking special for me to put myself in such a vulnerable position.
Best decision I ever made was waiting till I got in my late 30s before I started looking for a serious relationship. Now I’m in a healthy relationship with the woman of my dreams. I’m not saying don’t live your life just don’t rush it we’re not Amish.
I didn’t meet and marry my wife ’til I was 32. Had girlfriends before that but was single and lonely for a long time. Now 13 years and 3 kids later, I wouldn’t have it any other way. My only regret is the years I spent wallowing in lonliness when I could have been living life. Go live yours!
It’s fucking great once you gain the confidence in yourself and realize women ain’t shit lol. I have a much healthier attitude towards women and after divorce ain’t really looking for much but a good hang and some good fun.
Decenter women from your life and focus on yourself everything else will come if you put in the work and get lucky.
I regret nothing. I’m happy being me. I don’t think who I am currently would be good to date personally. I need to work on myself.
I’m not sure… I’m 33, been single my entire life. Do I want a life partner, sure, do I regret not looking for one before I hit 30, yes… and no. Honestly I’m at the age where I’m afraid of the idea as I don’t think I’m relationship material or even how to hold one together. Also getting to the point where finding a life long relationship has dropped below 50%, being childfree, 10%, finding all of that plus someone who wants to spend their life with me 0.1%
For five years before I met my wife, I dated a little bit, but mostly focused on healing myself, and discovering who exactly I am. My solitude became my sanctuary, enabled me to not settle for anyone who wasn’t adding to my life.
Edit: I’ll be 40 next year and been with my wife for 7 years, forgot to mention.
No, in my current position or mindset.
I regret the things I did or didn’t do by choice. Was there ever the possibility of some social interaction leading to me having a girlfriend? So, nothing to regret.
Not over but almost.
I lived the larger part of my 20s in a serious relationship that ended after 7 years. Not saying I didn’t party and do things people in their 20s do – and I also had quite a rebellious rough teen era -, but I never really cared about just myself, I was living the “married life” from 20 to 28. I always had to make compromises, either for my parents, for my roommates in college, or then my ex girlfriend. Also, frankly I never really learned how to fully take care of myself. There was always someone to take over some things I didn’t want to do. Now there isn’t, and that made me truly “grow up” in a way.
Now I live for myself, I did a lot of inner self-work that I never have before, I have my own goals for myself and I take care of myself only. It’s a level of freedom you don’t have when you have a significant other. I am advancing my career and financial life faster and more efficiently (since there are fewer uncontrolled expenses), I am fitter than ever before since I have all the time I make for training, I do my hobbies as much as I want. Lots of benefits – while of course, loneliness does kick in sometimes and having someone to love is a beautiful thing.
I’m keeping my eyes open but I am just fine like this for the time being – if I date, I only date for marriage, and I do have some goals set that I want to achieve before I do that. I value my single time now, no one knows when my future wife may enter the picture. Maybe tomorrow, maybe 10 years from now.
Of course it’s a bit different than for you – but my approach is if something feels forced, it’s not the right thing to do.
Divorced here, many girlfriends now. The only regret I have is marriage and long relationships.
I’m 31 and have had multiple girlfriends. I’m currently single after being burned horribly by an older divorced woman that I was dating for about 6 months. Would rather be single than go through that again
To all men who are regret it, go to the Aitah, Relationship, marriage subreddits and look through a bit. And all of sudden you feel relieved. btw there are subreddits more dedicated to this than the ones mentioned but I don’t wanna ruin the whole concept of a relationship for y’all
Personally, I would love to have a girlfriend, but I find the entire process of trying to get one to be incredibly uncomfortable and borderline not worth the effort.
I spent seven years in my 20s single and not dating and instead travelling for the most part. I guess I regret the possibilities of what I could have found if I’d dated? But at 33, no, no I don’t think I regret not having a partner now. I’d need to know what I was missing was good in the first place before I could miss it.
Regret is a strong word. I would like to have a significant other, but I’m content knowing that I’ll be perfectly fine if I don’t. Oddly enough, that realization gave my confidence a boost that makes meeting women easier.
I’ve never had a horror story relationship, but I’ve had a couple normal ones, and it’s clear to me that I DO NOT want to force a relationship where we’re not a GREAT fit for each other. That’d be worse than being single, by a long shot. I don’t want to be with someone unless I can actually fall in love with her, and I’m a very anxious person, so that’s a big ask.
I was in relationships in my 20s, and yeah it sucks they didn’t work out. There’s amusing sides to it, of course. Like my first girlfriend said she didn’t want to live in Iceland, wasn’t sure she wanted kids when I wanted to remain in Iceland and start a family. And now, 20 years later, she’s over there, married with kids and I’m no longer in Iceland and single. So it’s funny how that all turned out how the things we want when in our early 20s aren’t always what we end up doing.
But in a way, I do regret not having married, settled down, all that. But at the same time, life still is good. I have friends, I have group activity hobbies, I have deepened my connection to my religion, I have a job that’s meaningful to me (and, I like to believe, makes a positive difference in other people’s lives). So while I sometimes feel like there’s a thing lacking, it’s like having a great dinner and only missing the lingonberry jam. It’s missing, but it’s not like I don’t have potatoes and meat.
I would say this is rather uncommon. This is a rhetorical question, but do you think you might not be into women?
I’m plagued my existential grief, mourning the loss of what could/should have been. I feel dead inside; a walking corse with a death mask to hide my constant pain.
More time, resources, and headspace to focus on my hobbies, career, and family.
If I meet someone like-minded and positive sure, but I’m okay.
Getting a wife isn’t my life mission, especially in this economy.
I actively avoided dating for a few years in my 20’s, I regret that and not putting more effort in during that time.
Do I regret being single now? Not really, like most of my best memories and experiences have happened due to the freedom to do what I want and make dumb financial decisions that I probably couldn’t/wouldn’t make if was in a long term relationship. But I also recognise that other people probably find the memories/experiences in their relationships are better, which is fine and is just personal preference.
Do you wish you had a partner at times? Sure, it tends to come and go, sometimes you’ll get lonely and wish you had someone but it will pass and there will be times when you couldn’t imagine not being single, that too will pass.
It’s fucking awesome. I do whatever I want whenever I want, and my married friends come over and complain about their spouses or their divorce.
I think the only advantage of having a SO is that when you fall sick or injured, they are there to take care of you. But you might be wealthy enough without one to pay for someone to take care of you when you get ill or injured. If you are not wealthy and you don’t have a SO, you better hope you have some loving friends and family.
Single now and definitely have lonely moments. And I’ve had several women I almost had kids with, but my greatest fear is having a kid with the wrong one.
A friend of mine told me last week he’s planning on marrying a girl who’s literally not only slept with me and he knows about it but also smashed one of my best friends. And when I found out she cheated, I found out she was with 3 other guys other than me. And he, knowing all of that, still plans to marry this woman?
I never want to let any form of loneliness get me to the point where I’ll deal with ANYTHING like that.
I mean the way you phrased it is like most of us have/had a choice in the matter.
Recently broken up with, ending a 5.5 year relationship. Being single in my 30s gives me incredible anxiety. That I’m damaged goods or something, so to speak.
But just trying to make things work as best as I can in this new way of life.
My brother is single with no active female friends outside of coworkers. He’s happy, successful and when I asked him about it he said he never felt a connection with any of the women he went out with in his 20’s so at 28 after a pretty hard break up he decided to remain single.
I have three kids my sister has five kids and he doesn’t need to continue the family line as we’ve done that. He runs marathons and plays battletech, we get on well and see each other a few times a year.
No, my life is awesome. Why would I fuck it up.
Not me but my brother. In his sixties now, never married, ni kids, and regrets it very much.
I’m a single dad though and my kids live with me and we share a palce with him and I know he is happy to see young faces around.