I am asking because as a woman (and I think a lot of women may like this too but not all, some want extreme equality in their relationship which is OK too)
I find it very attractive when a man is protective of me. Same for if he wants to take care of me I.e ensures I’m safe and okay in whatever ways he can, idk it’s just such a manly trait to me. It makes me feel happy and safe and it’s also so attractive.
I’m basically wondering if the men who have this trait ALSO feel good when they get to protect their woman..?
Also I’m not putting down men or women who want equality in relationships, however I almost feel like in todays world, we no longer acknowledge men and women are different, men no longer seem to enjoy stepping up and being the man in the relationship same for women.
It almost feels scary to say certain things out loud today knowing that there is so much hyper equality with men and women, like it almost feels like I’ll be JUDGED if I admitted I don’t like him to view me as the exact same as him, I am NOT the same as a man. At all.
It’s almost like wanting equality has gone to the point where we are acting like we are the exact same and ignoring our manly and womanly traits.
It irritates me.
Isn’t it normal to be attracted to the opposite genders specific traits based on their gender?
*That’s IF you are attracted to the opposite gender and its totally OK if not.
Yes we should all be treated equally, but I like men because I like MEN, I’m attracted to our differences, I like their manly ness, if not, I’d just be with a woman.
I naturally like, and have always liked men who are protective of their woman. And men who are stronger than their woman and ENJOY being stronger, they enjoy being the man, I don’t think this is weird of me or wrong or bad, but I feel like some people today would judge these traits.
Not sure if this will oftend anyone.. I’m not saying we have to all be a certain way due to our gender.
I believe we should all live how we want BUT personally I don’t want a man who just views me as the exact same as him and isn’t protective of me, not a gentleman / chivalrous, and sees all of these things as pointless because he subconsciously believes we are the exact same.
There is a reason most men who are ” manly” men enjoy romancing their woman, enjoy making her life easier and protecting her, making sure she’s okay however he can etc etc.
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Yes. My girlfriend is a good 10 inches shorter and 80 pounds lighter than me. I like knowing that, should the need arise, I can and will protect her.
Yes, I enjoy taking care of my girlfriend, but it’s not that I’m protective of women. I’m protective of all of the people I care about. That doesn’t mean I don’t believe in equality; if they wouldn’t jump to back me up as much as I do for them, it’s not much of a relationship.
I think what rankles me is when people only want equality/traditional gender roles when it suits them. I know plenty of women that are rightfully offended if they make less than a male peer at their company, but then they still demand that their partners pay for dinner.
Protect her from what though?
You can be protective of someone and still view them as equal.
No. It’s part of who I am, but, I hate worrying about her all the time. It can be really stressful depending on where she is going and what she’s doing.
Of course. It always feels good to help my wife, whether through protection, advice, or direct aid.
I don’t enjoy it as much as I’m glad I can provide a sense of physical security they might not have had if they were by themselves. My wife and our female friends can usually handle themselves, but I usually keeps an eye on things and step in if I have to.
My wife takes care of herself, doesn’t need me. She’s with me because she wants to be. It can feel like need after 25 years but our financial independence from each other and our social lives mean if I die before her, other than sadness, her life will not be impacted from a security perspective.
Of course the comical follow up would be “because I made sure of it”.
I think it’s pretty built in for most men to feel the want to protect their loved ones.
And while I enjoy making my partners feel safe, I do not enjoy actually having to protect people because violence is for dorks. Luckily the way I look is kind of a deterrent in itself when it comes to fucking with people I’m with.
I enjoy the peace of mind of knowing my partner is safe and well. I’d rather not have to be in a situation where I need to provide them physical security but I’ll gladly do it if they need it.
And that’s not even a man/woman thing. I’ve been the same way with my male partners in the past too.
Yeah absolutely. It goes beyond that too. When my wife has an ISSUE. Be it anything from not knowing what to eat when pregnant (far larger issue than you’d think) to a stupid medical bill I’m there to make her life easier.
I’m her shield, she’s my support.