Need to see if it’s typical if a noticeable change occurs over time. Thank you.
Men who have been married a long time, how often do you think about sex with your wife in a day?
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Twenty six years for us.
I wake up most mornings thinking about it. I go to sleep every single night thinking about it. But, to be fair, she sleeps semi-nude next to me every night, so of course it’s going to be on my mind.
Been married about ten years now… I think about it several times a day. We’re very flirty with each other when we get home, so, even given the length of our marriage and the fact that I’m in my 50s, we still have a great sex life.
Would you like it as a fraction, decimal, or scientific notation?
Not currently married but have had a wife of 7 years and later a girlfriend of 7 years.
By the 2 year mark….not that frequently. A couple times a week
A lot — she’s aging like wine and looks better now than when I married her (and she was beautiful then.) I find myself genuinely attracted to her, horny for her, and have worked recently to keep the spark and to up my connection and flirtation game. So a lot!
Every time she bends over.
Daily
Together 15yrs…at least once a day think of her in a sexual way. We’re having more, better/fun/connected sexual adventures in our 50’s!! We’re both in great shape too!
I am 55M and my wife is 49 and is in the same shape she was in when she was 23. Our son left for college and we have sex at least 2x a night. I don’t know what it is, and really don’t care to!
20 years together, and a conservative estimate is 6-10 times a day I think about it. Could be closer to 20-30 times if we’re together all day and intimate/physical. Kissing, touching, talking. The sex after a day like that is amazing.
Sometimes it’s more if we haven’t had sex in a bit, and less if we just did it in the past 24 hours.
A lot, but will it actually happen? More than likely no.
What is the secret to keeping the sexual attraction alive long term?
30 years together and approaching 25 married. I may have something wrong in my brain because I constantly get distracted with what I’m going to do to her when I get home and/or fantasize the performance. I work alone so I’m with my own thoughts everyday, all day at work and it goes right to sex or the setup to it.
More than 10 times after 12 years of marriage.
Married for almost 12 years now and I still think about it all the time. Probably at least ten times a day.
8 years together and a lot. We will dirty talk all things we wanna do when the kids go to bed later and then we’re both too tired to follow through lmao.
When you have a bunch of kids you get no privacy. After both of working 8 hours, and church/school functions.
You are exhausted, the real anti aphrodisiac is kids. 🤣
Married for over ten years. When I’m at work I’ll probably think about that once or twice. When we’re at home together, constantly.
Married for 16 years, I think about it maybe 6-10 a day. I think about it more often when I’m with her.
33 years. At least 10 times day!
Married 30 years. Still wanna bang every day 😊
More than ever. Like others have said, I think she’s sexier now than when we met. It’s been twelve years this year. I was actually thinking about it when I saw this post.
Multiple times a day. If only she’d let me that often.
Married for many years. I think about her sexually constantly.
At least 3 usually a but more.
I am in my 60s and think of sex with her all day long.
The answers are going to range from “never” to “constantly”, and everything in between. Which is why this is a dumb question and was deleted the first time.
Numerous. Unfortunately, we have had a deadbedroom for two decades as she takes SSRI and birth control. I really struggle with not being resentful about the lack of affection. I have found that several hard workouts a week help me feel better both in body and spirits.
Almost always. Especially now since you brought it up lol
See something that makes me think about sex: think about wife.
See wife: think about sex.
Edit: (Married 15, together 20)
Several times a day
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M74, married 52+. Once a day. It’s either date night or not. If not no more thoughts. If yes, I’ll just wait and see.
I mean once or twice. The real question is, how often do you act on it? The answer might surprise you.
If I think about sex at all, she is a part of it so….. once every twenty minutes?
If you find yourself not thinking about sex at all, you should have your testosterone checked.
Monday, Wednesday, and Friday: Between 5 and 50. Depends on how busy work is.
Tuesday and Thursday: 100+. She “works” from home on those days. She sexts me all day and teases me.
Weekends, non-stop unless she’s out of my view and my brain is occupied.
Edit: been married 20 years.
At least ten or fifteen. On average, 73.2958714
Thinking. A lot. Doing. Not so much
Probably every 15 min or so. Not sure how often in my sleep
On average, twenty?
We unconsciously think about it all the damn time
Been married for 25 years. I probably think about sex with my wife about every 7 minutes.
Every 3-4 if we had an exceptionally “fun” weekend.
A lot before and even more after. But they merge into one. So a lot. Married 23 years.
Each 5 minutes🫣
Pretty much every time I see her, which is a lot since I work from home
Everytime I look at her and maybe once every 5-10 mins when I am not looking at her.
I’m just gonna go with, a lot.
Yes….
Never
Together since ‘03.. She was smoking hot then and still is now. I think of sex with her multiple times a day.
Been with her for 25 years.
All the damn time.
Married over 22 years. I think about at least hourly, if not more.
When we are initially married – tri weekly
After ten years – try weekly
after 20 years – try weakly
Married for 20 years, and we are now both in our 40s. I think about it all the time, and it seems like our frequency is going up as well. When I was dealing with chronic pain that wasn’t properly diagnosed we were maybe 2-3 times a month, now we’re at 3-4 times a week, as long as it isn’t shark week
I honestly don’t think about it that much. We have a healthy sex life, so there is no need to doubt anything. The passion is still there, we are both busy people.
Only been officially together for 9 years, but have been screwing around for about 12-13 years. I think about it almost hourly.
This comment section gives me hope
OP I see you’ve asked this several times. I’m curious as to why the huge interest?
Bro ask your wife
She’s asexual so I never do. On the other hand my mistress ? I think about her multiple times throughout the day.
Quite often. Im about to be 43. We have been married 14 years, together 19. She makes my weenie tingle.
I’m 34 she’s 31. Been together 14 years.
It’s constant
She’s so fucking hot.
I can’t count it but I’d estimate it near 40, maybe 45% total synapses fired? I can’t speak for my subconscious but you can’t think about it so much consciously and it not affect the other side, right?
Not at all really
I’m a truly lucky. I can think of maybe 5 times my wife has turned me down in the past 6 years. In each instance it was obvious as to why., She was exhausted but even then she offered to try. This makes a HUGE difference in marriage. I know, because I was married before, and we divorced. 1st wife was very sexual until once she said “I Do” and then that was it. Maybe once a month. It SUCKED.
Sexual compatibility is such a huge thing. If your sex life has issues now, it rarely gets better.
Hard to put a number on it, but many, many times a day. Married 17 years together for 20.
Pretty much every time I see her.
Been together 12 years, married for 10. We just banged last night and I’m already ready for more.
Pretty much every time I see her.
Been married to my wife 7 years now (I know its not that long) with three kids under 5.
My wife still looks dang good and often wears short shorts around the house (I work from home) so pretty frequently throughout the day.
Its too bad having those three kids under 5 has tanked her libido.
We all talk about how much we should be having.
The amount you should be having is an amount that YOU and your PARTNER are happy with. Biggest thing with that is being transparent and honest though.
Ha, haha, hahahahahahah!
Married almost 10 years to the love of my life.
I think about it at least a dozen times a day.
u/fluffykittenears I’ll love you for the rest of your life.
Sex? Multiple times a day. With wife? Zero.
44 years. We have a full day a week scheduled. I think about that day, every day.
Every. Day. Every. Single. Damn. Day.
Every time I see her.
Every damn time….
But we’re in a slump so it’s been a while.
A long while…..
Often
Unfortunately after being married 11 years and wife working graveyard job 3-4 12 hr shifts a week as a RN. She’s too tired to have sex but I do think about sex a lot it’s been a long time 😆
Daily
Since we haven’t had it in several years, I stopped allowing myself to think about it to prevent me from getting depressed and discouraged with my life as a whole. So, no more than a couple times a week, probably more like a few times a month — and I quickly change my thought pattern when I do.
Married 15 years, together almost 19. Probably 3-8 times a day.
Like 12 to 14 times a day…so hardly ever, lol
Too often… its a distraction.