I was just thinking about how people treat you depending of your physical appearance.
Did people (family and friends, but also co-workers and strangers) started treating you differently? If yes, how?
Men who have experienced body changes (losing or gaining weight, getting stronger or weaker) in a relative short time, how did that affect the way people treated you?
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I was recovering from a surgery and lost 12kg in 2 months, without working out. Lost a huge amount of muscle and gained some fat somehow.
Strangers definitely treated me differently.
My family or significant other didn’t really do anything different, I did notice my significant other was initiating less which I can’t blame her.
But I got back to my groove fairly fast thanks to muscle memory.
What I noticed is that negative changes weren’t mentioned (except by the wife) but I’ve recently lost 8kg, not a huge amount but everyone seems to notice and has been so complimentary. It’s amazed me how many people actually notice me at my age. It’s motivating me to lose some more!
When overweight, in social settings I’d have this like Spidey-Sense of when girls saw me and would like, not wanna talk or whatever. For example at parties if a friend introduced me to a girl I could often preemptively tell by her vibe if she’d see me and immediately roll her eyes or something, or outright ignore me.
After losing weight this Spidey Sense stayed for a bit, but was pretty much always wrong. I’d see a girl, think “this is the type that’ll be rude to me, I can tell” and they’d actually be nice and wanna talk. Barely anything changed about my confidence and personality, at least not consciously, I’d still be somewhat apprehensive, yet appearance alone got my foot in the door enough.
I lost weight. ~120-130 depending on my stage of the journey. I’ve got a couple transition photos on my profile.
The changes are immense. People treat you differently everywhere. Men show you more respect, deference, and value your input.
Women will flirt, smile, and pay more attention to you.
Daily interactions change. More neutral interactions become positive. Negative interactions you would have had become neutral. People in general, when you look much better such as going from Obese to normal weight become far more positive.
There’s almost nothing, that wouldn’t be improved by looking better I’ve come to realize.
I went bald and started shaving my head at 24. Before i had no problem getting girls. My best friend introduced me to his girlfriend and she would give me blowjob eyes. After, women treat me like an alien. I have gotten way more insults from people and lost my identity to become “the bald guy”
No difference for me. I’m tall and pretty decent looking. I gained 30Lbs of Muscle, but it’s not so visible cause I am rather tall, so I didn’t suddenly become significantly bigger.
I went from semi-invisible and doubtful about myself to very visible in a good way and loving my life. Getting in shape has been the greatest decision of my life.