My life has been pretty good. Been dating someone for a little while. Have hobbies that I participate in and friends I see on a routine basis. Marriage will come when the time is right
Quite pleasant after I gave up trying to date seriously. Too many flakes, too many girls looking for free meals, too many girls ghosting without a single word after (what felt like) great dates. Fuck it.
At least you know what you’re getting with chicks who are just looking for fuckbuddies.
Sucks when I’m consistently reminded of my friends who are happily married with families, but considering that’s somewhat rare, I’m doing alright. Could be a lot better, but I’m generally very happy and use my freedom to the fullest
Absolutely incredible. I (40m) nearly proposed to my girlfriend… but we decided to break up instead. I had a delusional view of marriage, I wanted a ‘partner’… but I have realised that this is rare. The concept of ‘for better for worse’ and ‘for richer for poorer’ is idealistic. I’ll stay unmarried and sane thank you.
50/50. I Enjoy being single and not having to cater to someone. But then I also feel a bit sadden sometimes that I don’t have anyone that romantically loves me. Then again I’m only 30 and in this day of age, it’s still considered young. But who knows
It’s peaceful. And as I’ve heard from professionals: “it’s better to be single and want to be married, than married and wanting to be single.”
Freedom to have the best of both worlds, my peace and independence, and also intimacy with the lovely women I choose to connect with who are also independent and peaceful.
Dating seems miserable for all involved right now, and a happy, longterm, successful marriage is rare. No reason to settle and lock down.
At times I realize I’ve got it good and can go live life how I see fit. At times, I feel lost not having any sense of purpose outside of myself.
To go a few levels deep… I have a really strong vision for myself as a family man. – That version of me is a whole different person from who I am currently as a single man. Simply, it’s living two totally different (and in some ways, opposite) lives.
Recognizing it’s just a choice at this point to live aspects of both is what’s helpful at the moment.
Good, I’m 38, still dating, and I do whatever I want whenever I want without having to take someone else into consideration.
When I was younger I had a few associates who had been married, had a kid, and divorced before they were 22 and I think that scared me into being very selective.
Truthfully, amazing. I’ve built a great life for myself. I live very comfortably within my means, I have great friends, fun hobbies, I travel often, and I can enjoy as many spontaneous adventures as I want
I was married and got divorced years ago. I really loved being married, didn’t love my wife though, lol. As I have gotten older, the less I like being single. It’s good to come home to someone, it’s good to have an “activity partner”, it’s good to have someone to talk to and connect to. I am dating someone in a pretty serious relationship, so I am fine.
I have some friends who are committed to the single life, and they seem so miserable and lonely. They either hit on everything moving or they are so withdrawn from the very idea of a relationship that they are socially inept and almost hermits.
Really good. Finally have a good paging job and the worry of pinching everything all the time has subsided. I dont date anyone but habe luck with women. Mid 30s are nice atm! Ive had my.ups and downs and thats how I know this is the up times.
Shoutout to all those struggling mentally, physically, spiritually. Lifes hard.
My life is fine. It’s quiet and easy going. No complaints.
The interesting part has been observing my friend’s marriages and watching things evolve over time. A few of them have been for the better; guys settling down and focusing on a family rather then being the loud irresponsible animals that I knew them as. That has been good to see.
Others have been fairly mundane. They get married, buy a house, have a kid and that is it. These are also the friends that drop off the face of the earth or stop inviting their single friend (me) to events because it is more focused on the kids. That is fine for me. Their kids are young and annoying.
And then there are the people who have done a complete 180 and become someone else. After having a kid, all of a sudden things we couldn’t care less coming up start taking a front row in their life and our conversations. Things like religion, censorship, and politics. These people have all turned to the conservative side, and can be hard to talk to when all they are worried about are their family’s own best interest and the current political landscape.
It led me to the conclusion that regardless of how any of them turned out, they become fairly selfish. The type of selfishness that makes them dangerous in certain situations. People that would fuck you over to save their own ass or their own family.
To some degree, I understand it, and the same time, I need to be aware of it. They would (and in some cases have) left me high and dry to serve their own family interests. It means I can’t really depend on anyone for help. And while it is disappointing, It sets me apart from them in a very unique way.
I’m cheating with answering on this one, I was married.
Being single again has been completely different than it was before marriage. I’m so much more comfortable being a single man. I don’t really chase sex, I have a new perspective on life and what I want from it and future potential partners.
I love my ex with all my heart we just weren’t meant to be together as a couple any more. I wish her nothing but the best in life.
For me, I’m doing everything I want in life with a newfound peace. I know what my life goals are, I’m making healthy progress towards them and I’ve started and rekindled hobbies to fill my time.
My next move is to get a dog and train it incredibly well so we can be best friends. I always loved dogs but it wasn’t something we could do together in marriage.
Very peaceful. I’m only a couple months out from a breakup, but after my last relationship, my standards for what I want in a partner or so high that I’m not hopeful I’ll meet someone to check those boxes off. But that’s ok. I’m enjoying my video games and anime time at the moment
Not too bad. Then again you’d get all kinds of answers from Dutch men (and probably other Western Europeans too) since marriage isn’t as common as it used to be so unmarried can vary from single person who lives alone to someone with a partner, children, etc.
In my case: single and living alone and that’s good. Although I’m not opposed to having a relationship, cohabitation is not something for me.
Life is going great! That wasn’t the story for me until I got sober 6 years ago. Now I’ve been dating awesome women(one at a time currently but tried poly), gotten back into my hobbies, built a woodshop, and am helping my family heal from generations of trauma and conflict.
The hardest part is finding time to connect all my dreams to reality and not put them off in order to go travel and adventure into the wilderness.
Mixed. Fantastic for the most part if the world wasnt falling apart so that’s cool. For the record marriage could only make life worse, so Im ecstatic about that part. I see my friends that are married and even the happiest among them make me glad I dont have nor want that life.
No kids, no ex wives. I’m 50. I spent the last 20 years in some serious darkness and have found my way out of it. During that time I dated toxic, emotionally unavailable millennials. And that is a direct result of who I was at the time.
Now I’ve come back to life, quit substances, changed my diet and am taking an aggressive role in bettering myself / cleaning my spiritual house. I put together my drum set and met a couple of guitarists that want to jam out. I also have some measure of peace and acceptance of where I am on this planet and my role in the 2nd half of my life.
I just started dating again. It’s rocky but the idea that I might be able to fall in love again has seeded. I don’t expect this one to work out but I am feeling confident that the more I work on myself the better my opportunities.
Pretty good. I have a large extended family, so loneliness has never really been an issue. I had a daughter at 23 with a woman I hooked up with a couple of times. The mom died in childbirth, so raising my daughter took like all my time until I was almost 40.
I’ve dated some, but all these years on my own has me pretty set in my ways, so I haven’t met anyone I’ve even wanted to live with yet.
I only work a few hours a week as a consultant now and watch my grandson twice a week. I’m pretty happy where I’m at.
I have a lovely girlfriend with whom I’ve been together for longer than most marriages last. Our only problems are health, finances, and distance related. Not much can be done about the first one, but I’m working on fixing the last two.
Depends. The quiet and sometime being alone is nice for 10%. If your like me (33M) and been a kissless V Card holder your entire life, it sucks more than you think, and it feels like your wasting your life that you could have spent with your life partner, especially when younger.
It has its perks but also for the most part wouldn’t mind giving up some of them for a happy, healthy relationship. Problem is I see way too many horrible relationships irl and online to be super enthusiastic about getting back in the dating scene right now. That being said I enjoy the freedom of doing whatever I want whenever I want without having to compromise on my schedule to do things I don’t really want to for someone else. But for the right one, and to get rid of the occasional loneliness yeah I’d give up the 24/7 freedom tbh
Its life. Ups and downs. Zero desire to get married, just further complicates already complex shit. Its not about the devotion part, its about the bs legal part.
It puts blackness in my soul and vitriol in my heart. Makes me want to lash out, irrationally. I search for anyone to blame, but myself. I have plenty.
Sometimes its cool to have a bunch of free-time as-well.
I mean it’s pretty bad but for non-love reasons. Just been going through a lot family wise, including the loss of a loved one recently, so I haven’t really had the luxury of thinking about my loneliness until like the last few days.
Every married man I know is now divorced and wishes they were never married to begin with.
I have no desire to be married, haven’t met anyone I want to spend the rest of my life with. Most women see themselves as a prize to be won rather than a partner in a relationship.
Fucking awesome, I’m more happier now than in any of my previous relationships. Built my life to a place where I don’t seek connection out of fear but instead only to enhance my life
Yeah it sucks to be honest, i have a decent career but its just empty. I have my brothers family but that’s not my own family. I have recently been distancing myself from them since i dont feel happy anymore.
Alot of my friends are marrying atm along with being engaged for a long time. I have realized love isnt for me, i have tried Facebook Dating, i have tried Tinder, i have tried local bars, i have tried meeting women at work. I have gone through so many talking stages that im just sick of it at the moment.
Life feels like im just existing for the most part. I have no purpose
It’s fine. I just bought a house, little difficult on a single income to be sure, but it’s small and in a few years once I get a few raises, the payments will be a lot less of a hardship. I have a lot of close friends that I hang out with on the regular so I’m not lonely. I travel when I can, go to shows, enjoy my hobbies, etc.
Lonely. I’m almost 30 and I’ve never even dated. Getting into a relationship for the sake of being in one isn’t something I’m after, but I’d like to be loved at least once offline before I die
honestly im having a blast lol. im in better shape now than i was in high school (34). i travel a lot, im comfortable and not in debt, whats there to complain about? lol.
Lonely. I have my friends that I chat with regularly, but after having a relationship where I had that person I could wake up to and fall asleep with or talking to, it’s really lonely. Like I’ve been single before, but going back to being basically invisible after having someone who saw you is really rough.
All that being said, she cheated on me so I don’t miss her. I miss what the relationship was and what we had in it.
Incredible. Having a GF I see 2-3 times a week is the sweet spot
I don’t want someone constantly there judging everything I do. If I want to spend the entire day naked, drunk & high watching war movies I have the freedom to do it
Living life day by day at the moment. Being married would indicate some sort of financial freedom. I’m working on that part slowly but surely, eventually.
Any pointers for upskilling myself to middle class wealth? Preferably at least 1 day to myself, while also keeping on top of bills.
Way better than almost being married. Im happy with my decision, and dont plan to ever put myself in a situation like that again. I understand people have happy, healthy marriages, but after the bullet I dodged, I just count my blessings. No thank you
56% of marriages end in divorce these days with 80+% of divorcees, remarrying within 5 years. Why is “Love” such a revolving door game nowadays?
My guess is, divorce aids countless businesses such as churches, reception halls, jewelry shops, dress/tuxedo rental shops, bakeries, caterers, photographers and even the travel industries (honeymoons).
If people stayed married, many companies would go out of business. Which brings me to believe that the only thing society cherishes, more than putting two people together, is simply breaking them apart.
Can we add in another 20% of those who won’t get divorced “because of the kids”, having to split their money and/or religious reasons. We now have Love, a technology that fails 75% of the time.
Well it’s getting better and better as time goes on. I’m thankful and feel blessed for many things in my life. Not perfect though and I have some things to work on still on myself
I just ate 3 pan-fried bratwurst (in a row) for dinner over a sink full of dishes I haven’t touched in days using wheat bread for buns. I might eat standing up, but based on the relationships I see in the world, I bet I’m a good bit happier than your average married guy.
It’s so and so
Like an eternal present with no clear macro direction and seeking out plenty of dopamine distractions to keep yourself from sitting alone with your thoughts that keep going and never really having that internal ‘peace’ only God can provide
Eh, ups and downs. A little lonely sometimes, but I’m pursuing something I’ve wanted to do for a long while. I have a good relationship with family and see my parents once a week. There’s enough saved up to not be homeless for a while figuring out this pursuit. Overall, not too bad. Kinda lonely, but it’s been like this for long enough that I think I’m pretty used to it. I really enjoy having the freedom. We’ll see how I feel in a while, when I have to get a for reals job again once this pursuit isn’t enough to live off of.
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It’s ass.
Haha. Good question.
Fucking amazing.
My life has been pretty good. Been dating someone for a little while. Have hobbies that I participate in and friends I see on a routine basis. Marriage will come when the time is right
Quite pleasant after I gave up trying to date seriously. Too many flakes, too many girls looking for free meals, too many girls ghosting without a single word after (what felt like) great dates. Fuck it.
At least you know what you’re getting with chicks who are just looking for fuckbuddies.
It’s fantastic. Having a partner, while not being legally (financially) tied to them, is the best of both worlds.
Sucks when I’m consistently reminded of my friends who are happily married with families, but considering that’s somewhat rare, I’m doing alright. Could be a lot better, but I’m generally very happy and use my freedom to the fullest
Good / can’t complain.
Could be worse.
Not having the high highs and low lows of my married friends. Somewhat life feels bland yet peaceful, it’s ok I guess?
I was not married, but had a child with my ex (a Latina woman). I’m Indian so imagine this. My culture sees me as the black sheep most likely lmao.
But I love my 6 year old son, and outside of fatherhood, life is pretty ass.
Rollercoastin’
Good/Bad
Quite good. Same partner for 18 years and mother of my child. Just didn’t bother with the ceremony nonsense 👌😝
Absolutely incredible. I (40m) nearly proposed to my girlfriend… but we decided to break up instead. I had a delusional view of marriage, I wanted a ‘partner’… but I have realised that this is rare. The concept of ‘for better for worse’ and ‘for richer for poorer’ is idealistic. I’ll stay unmarried and sane thank you.
Wonderful! It’s the same as being married, but we never have to worry about getting divorced.
Love it. I buy what I want when I want, I go out when I want, go drink with the boys. I got some money to spend. No fights.
I don’t live, I just survive.
Good, I guess. lol
50/50. I Enjoy being single and not having to cater to someone. But then I also feel a bit sadden sometimes that I don’t have anyone that romantically loves me. Then again I’m only 30 and in this day of age, it’s still considered young. But who knows
It’s peaceful. And as I’ve heard from professionals: “it’s better to be single and want to be married, than married and wanting to be single.”
Freedom to have the best of both worlds, my peace and independence, and also intimacy with the lovely women I choose to connect with who are also independent and peaceful.
Dating seems miserable for all involved right now, and a happy, longterm, successful marriage is rare. No reason to settle and lock down.
Complex
At times I realize I’ve got it good and can go live life how I see fit. At times, I feel lost not having any sense of purpose outside of myself.
To go a few levels deep… I have a really strong vision for myself as a family man. – That version of me is a whole different person from who I am currently as a single man. Simply, it’s living two totally different (and in some ways, opposite) lives.
Recognizing it’s just a choice at this point to live aspects of both is what’s helpful at the moment.
Pretty normal, given that marriage was never really a card in the deck for me :v
Never have been divorced either so that’s good
Freedom. It soothes the savage soul. Also, I never take orders and only do things that I feel like doing when I feel like doing it.
Married men: “i dOn’T tAkE oRdErS!”
Good, I’m 38, still dating, and I do whatever I want whenever I want without having to take someone else into consideration.
When I was younger I had a few associates who had been married, had a kid, and divorced before they were 22 and I think that scared me into being very selective.
Was engaged, but never got married. Currently single and it’s pretty nice. I have no complaints.
27 here. I love this life. Work, earn money, enjoy my hobbies and spend time with homies. No big responsibilities
There are times I’m lonely and wish I did have someone. But overall? Life fucking rocks.
Isolating. Financially stable though.
Truthfully, amazing. I’ve built a great life for myself. I live very comfortably within my means, I have great friends, fun hobbies, I travel often, and I can enjoy as many spontaneous adventures as I want
With kids? I am just here so I don’t get fined
I was married and got divorced years ago. I really loved being married, didn’t love my wife though, lol. As I have gotten older, the less I like being single. It’s good to come home to someone, it’s good to have an “activity partner”, it’s good to have someone to talk to and connect to. I am dating someone in a pretty serious relationship, so I am fine.
I have some friends who are committed to the single life, and they seem so miserable and lonely. They either hit on everything moving or they are so withdrawn from the very idea of a relationship that they are socially inept and almost hermits.
It is what it is. Always has been. Always will be.
Really good. Finally have a good paging job and the worry of pinching everything all the time has subsided. I dont date anyone but habe luck with women. Mid 30s are nice atm! Ive had my.ups and downs and thats how I know this is the up times.
Shoutout to all those struggling mentally, physically, spiritually. Lifes hard.
Could be better but could also be much worse
It has been interesting.
My life is fine. It’s quiet and easy going. No complaints.
The interesting part has been observing my friend’s marriages and watching things evolve over time. A few of them have been for the better; guys settling down and focusing on a family rather then being the loud irresponsible animals that I knew them as. That has been good to see.
Others have been fairly mundane. They get married, buy a house, have a kid and that is it. These are also the friends that drop off the face of the earth or stop inviting their single friend (me) to events because it is more focused on the kids. That is fine for me. Their kids are young and annoying.
And then there are the people who have done a complete 180 and become someone else. After having a kid, all of a sudden things we couldn’t care less coming up start taking a front row in their life and our conversations. Things like religion, censorship, and politics. These people have all turned to the conservative side, and can be hard to talk to when all they are worried about are their family’s own best interest and the current political landscape.
It led me to the conclusion that regardless of how any of them turned out, they become fairly selfish. The type of selfishness that makes them dangerous in certain situations. People that would fuck you over to save their own ass or their own family.
To some degree, I understand it, and the same time, I need to be aware of it. They would (and in some cases have) left me high and dry to serve their own family interests. It means I can’t really depend on anyone for help. And while it is disappointing, It sets me apart from them in a very unique way.
I’m cheating with answering on this one, I was married.
Being single again has been completely different than it was before marriage. I’m so much more comfortable being a single man. I don’t really chase sex, I have a new perspective on life and what I want from it and future potential partners.
I love my ex with all my heart we just weren’t meant to be together as a couple any more. I wish her nothing but the best in life.
For me, I’m doing everything I want in life with a newfound peace. I know what my life goals are, I’m making healthy progress towards them and I’ve started and rekindled hobbies to fill my time.
My next move is to get a dog and train it incredibly well so we can be best friends. I always loved dogs but it wasn’t something we could do together in marriage.
Solidly meh. Some companionship would be nice.
It’s been life, some good and some bad.
Homeless
It’s alright
Better now, but only because I’ve been making an effort to improve things for myself.
Being able to do activities solo is a huge strength once you overcome it
Hectic. Busy.
It’s awesome. I picked up a VCR and DVD last month and I got a growing collection of movies.
It’s good overall. I sometimes wish there was someone in my life, but I love the freedom I have on my own.
If I found/find the right person, my thoughts might change, but I’m happy if I don’t.
not yet, but soon and I’m seriously looking forward to it 🙂
Marriage usually brings kids afterwards and I def don’t want kids
Very peaceful. I’m only a couple months out from a breakup, but after my last relationship, my standards for what I want in a partner or so high that I’m not hopeful I’ll meet someone to check those boxes off. But that’s ok. I’m enjoying my video games and anime time at the moment
It’s OK, could be better. But it also could be much worse if I had to go through a messy divorce, or deal with custody/visitation rights.
I haven’t been divorced at least
Grass is always greener. You have individualistic consumerism to think for that, Edward Bernays almost exclusively.
Life’s amazing! It’s great to be free and autonomous, maybe it’s me but when I see married men they seem shackled to me.
It is what it’s is.
CHILL AF.
Not too bad. Then again you’d get all kinds of answers from Dutch men (and probably other Western Europeans too) since marriage isn’t as common as it used to be so unmarried can vary from single person who lives alone to someone with a partner, children, etc.
In my case: single and living alone and that’s good. Although I’m not opposed to having a relationship, cohabitation is not something for me.
It’s fine.
Amazing. Not saying being married is bad but just like being single, it has pros and cons.
When it comes to pros, I’m happy I have no one to be responsible for or to. I can wake up and consider me and only me. I enjoy that.
Life is going great! That wasn’t the story for me until I got sober 6 years ago. Now I’ve been dating awesome women(one at a time currently but tried poly), gotten back into my hobbies, built a woodshop, and am helping my family heal from generations of trauma and conflict.
The hardest part is finding time to connect all my dreams to reality and not put them off in order to go travel and adventure into the wilderness.
It’s alright lol
anyone saying marriage is better than being single is either lying or they just got EXTREMELY lucky lol
Better than it would be with a woman.
Empty and loveless.
यता छाम्दा भित्ताे,
उता छाम्दा रित्ताे।
रित्ताे मन,
रित्ताे बेड।
Mixed. Fantastic for the most part if the world wasnt falling apart so that’s cool. For the record marriage could only make life worse, so Im ecstatic about that part. I see my friends that are married and even the happiest among them make me glad I dont have nor want that life.
i hate my life but i dont think that’d change either way
Depressing. Wish it came with an off switch so I could check out already.
Fan-fucking-tastic. What about yours?
Meh, it’s average. I’m lonely. I tried to find things to keep me occupied. Dating is a wash.
Awesome.
No kids, no ex wives. I’m 50. I spent the last 20 years in some serious darkness and have found my way out of it. During that time I dated toxic, emotionally unavailable millennials. And that is a direct result of who I was at the time.
Now I’ve come back to life, quit substances, changed my diet and am taking an aggressive role in bettering myself / cleaning my spiritual house. I put together my drum set and met a couple of guitarists that want to jam out. I also have some measure of peace and acceptance of where I am on this planet and my role in the 2nd half of my life.
I just started dating again. It’s rocky but the idea that I might be able to fall in love again has seeded. I don’t expect this one to work out but I am feeling confident that the more I work on myself the better my opportunities.
Pretty good. I have a large extended family, so loneliness has never really been an issue. I had a daughter at 23 with a woman I hooked up with a couple of times. The mom died in childbirth, so raising my daughter took like all my time until I was almost 40.
I’ve dated some, but all these years on my own has me pretty set in my ways, so I haven’t met anyone I’ve even wanted to live with yet.
I only work a few hours a week as a consultant now and watch my grandson twice a week. I’m pretty happy where I’m at.
Not too bad. I get weekends with my nieces and nephews and sometimes my dog shits on the floor. Can’t really complain
I’ve been with the same gf for 17years, and our relationship remains as strong as it was when we first met.
You don’t need to get married to live a full, happy life.
Feels great! Get to do whatever I want without checking in with anyone.
I have a lovely girlfriend with whom I’ve been together for longer than most marriages last. Our only problems are health, finances, and distance related. Not much can be done about the first one, but I’m working on fixing the last two.
I’m thriving. No complaints here.
Sucks. Feels like the window to marriage is long gone now, and I guess I wasn’t good enough for any woman to stick with me in my 20’s.
Depends. The quiet and sometime being alone is nice for 10%. If your like me (33M) and been a kissless V Card holder your entire life, it sucks more than you think, and it feels like your wasting your life that you could have spent with your life partner, especially when younger.
Marriage won’t give you something more than a LTR.
It’s pretty shit, but I’ll live.
I’ll let you know in 2 months once my cheating STBX GF is out of the house, and I begin “Hoes & Blow 2.0”.
Alright, not terrible. Have freedom to do what I want.
It’s been just life I guess. Sometimes the loneliness got mad hands and other times not having to check in with some on and just be is invaluable.
Positives and negatives as with all things on this spinning rock.
It’s fantastic because I made it that way. Truly.
fantastique.
It has its perks but also for the most part wouldn’t mind giving up some of them for a happy, healthy relationship. Problem is I see way too many horrible relationships irl and online to be super enthusiastic about getting back in the dating scene right now. That being said I enjoy the freedom of doing whatever I want whenever I want without having to compromise on my schedule to do things I don’t really want to for someone else. But for the right one, and to get rid of the occasional loneliness yeah I’d give up the 24/7 freedom tbh
Just fine. I SWEAR.
Its life. Ups and downs. Zero desire to get married, just further complicates already complex shit. Its not about the devotion part, its about the bs legal part.
Forget married. I’m 26 and haven’t been in a relationship. Kinda sucks, but I’ll get there.
It puts blackness in my soul and vitriol in my heart. Makes me want to lash out, irrationally. I search for anyone to blame, but myself. I have plenty.
Sometimes its cool to have a bunch of free-time as-well.
Lonely. Quiet. feels a bit pointless, but what can you do.
I focus on the people in my life and try not to think of what i dont have.
Probably gonna head out early lmao 😂
peaceful and free
I don’t know what day it is?
I mean it’s pretty bad but for non-love reasons. Just been going through a lot family wise, including the loss of a loved one recently, so I haven’t really had the luxury of thinking about my loneliness until like the last few days.
I wish I had a gf
Every married man I know is now divorced and wishes they were never married to begin with.
I have no desire to be married, haven’t met anyone I want to spend the rest of my life with. Most women see themselves as a prize to be won rather than a partner in a relationship.
Currently in relationship purgatory, waiting for fate to decide
Fucking awesome, I’m more happier now than in any of my previous relationships. Built my life to a place where I don’t seek connection out of fear but instead only to enhance my life
Yeah it sucks to be honest, i have a decent career but its just empty. I have my brothers family but that’s not my own family. I have recently been distancing myself from them since i dont feel happy anymore.
Alot of my friends are marrying atm along with being engaged for a long time. I have realized love isnt for me, i have tried Facebook Dating, i have tried Tinder, i have tried local bars, i have tried meeting women at work. I have gone through so many talking stages that im just sick of it at the moment.
Life feels like im just existing for the most part. I have no purpose
It’s fine. I just bought a house, little difficult on a single income to be sure, but it’s small and in a few years once I get a few raises, the payments will be a lot less of a hardship. I have a lot of close friends that I hang out with on the regular so I’m not lonely. I travel when I can, go to shows, enjoy my hobbies, etc.
It’s great! Marriage shouldn’t be a goal it’s a privilege.
Lonely. I’m almost 30 and I’ve never even dated. Getting into a relationship for the sake of being in one isn’t something I’m after, but I’d like to be loved at least once offline before I die
honestly im having a blast lol. im in better shape now than i was in high school (34). i travel a lot, im comfortable and not in debt, whats there to complain about? lol.
Not bad, not bad at all
Lonely but we persist
It gets a bit boring and lonely at times, but I’d rather that then get married.
Single for 12 years, and plan on keeping it that way.
Lonely. I have my friends that I chat with regularly, but after having a relationship where I had that person I could wake up to and fall asleep with or talking to, it’s really lonely. Like I’ve been single before, but going back to being basically invisible after having someone who saw you is really rough.
All that being said, she cheated on me so I don’t miss her. I miss what the relationship was and what we had in it.
Incredible. Having a GF I see 2-3 times a week is the sweet spot
I don’t want someone constantly there judging everything I do. If I want to spend the entire day naked, drunk & high watching war movies I have the freedom to do it
Last day in hospital after being in for about 7 weeks
👍
Its expensive
AMAZING
Living life day by day at the moment. Being married would indicate some sort of financial freedom. I’m working on that part slowly but surely, eventually.
Any pointers for upskilling myself to middle class wealth? Preferably at least 1 day to myself, while also keeping on top of bills.
Way better than almost being married. Im happy with my decision, and dont plan to ever put myself in a situation like that again. I understand people have happy, healthy marriages, but after the bullet I dodged, I just count my blessings. No thank you
A bit lonely
56% of marriages end in divorce these days with 80+% of divorcees, remarrying within 5 years. Why is “Love” such a revolving door game nowadays?
My guess is, divorce aids countless businesses such as churches, reception halls, jewelry shops, dress/tuxedo rental shops, bakeries, caterers, photographers and even the travel industries (honeymoons).
If people stayed married, many companies would go out of business. Which brings me to believe that the only thing society cherishes, more than putting two people together, is simply breaking them apart.
Can we add in another 20% of those who won’t get divorced “because of the kids”, having to split their money and/or religious reasons. We now have Love, a technology that fails 75% of the time.
Well it’s getting better and better as time goes on. I’m thankful and feel blessed for many things in my life. Not perfect though and I have some things to work on still on myself
31M almost. It’s peaceful but not full. Life feels empty 😢
Awful
Dating 2 girls and hanging out at whore houses. Life is good.
Not regretting anything. I get to do whatever the fuck I want.
I just ate 3 pan-fried bratwurst (in a row) for dinner over a sink full of dishes I haven’t touched in days using wheat bread for buns. I might eat standing up, but based on the relationships I see in the world, I bet I’m a good bit happier than your average married guy.
Not too bad. Although im at that point where im wondering if I should.
It’s so and so
Like an eternal present with no clear macro direction and seeking out plenty of dopamine distractions to keep yourself from sitting alone with your thoughts that keep going and never really having that internal ‘peace’ only God can provide
Peaceful, fun, lonely
Still have all my stuff
Eh, ups and downs. A little lonely sometimes, but I’m pursuing something I’ve wanted to do for a long while. I have a good relationship with family and see my parents once a week. There’s enough saved up to not be homeless for a while figuring out this pursuit. Overall, not too bad. Kinda lonely, but it’s been like this for long enough that I think I’m pretty used to it. I really enjoy having the freedom. We’ll see how I feel in a while, when I have to get a for reals job again once this pursuit isn’t enough to live off of.
Pretty amazing to be honest.