I’ve seen so many men act like women are asexual beings who don’t get turned on by men’s looks. They complain that women are all gold diggers out to scam men and only pretend to enjoy sex in order to trick unsuspecting guys into marrying them. Or at the very least, are only attracted to personality and don’t care what a guy looks like.
I’m a woman who is actually attracted to my boyfriend and has a higher sex drive than him. I get excited when he takes off his shirt. I don’t always keep my eyes closed when kissing him because I like to look at his face. I imagine visuals in my mind when I’m trying to get off. Sure, personality is important to me, and I wouldn’t never leave him for aging. But looks are still a huge part of my sexuality.
I can’t help but think that the people with this sad mentality are either very sexually inexperienced and brainwashed by incel culture to believe that no woman would value them for who they are, have only dated women who don’t happen to be attracted to them, or they’re just trying to get a free pass to let themselves go in middle age and prey on teen girls.
There’s a common narrative that every young lady’s fantasy is to marry a rich older man. I’ve never heard a girl say that in my life. When me and my friends used to play with Barbies, we always had them dating young attractive Ken dolls. Not ugly old millionaires. That’s the classic plot point in so many movies. A young woman has to escape her arranged marriage to a financially secure ugly old man so she can run off with a hot guy her own age.
Where did this narrative come from and why do so many people take it for granted like it’s some kind of fact of life?
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These idiots and the idiots who think women will ONLY date hot guys should
compare noteshave a battle to the death. Two sets of dipshits enter, one set of dipshits leaves!Guys who think women don’t feel sexual attraction are guys who once bought into some “looksmaxing” grift, found it didn’t work, and concluded that women are the problem.
My opinion is that it’s easier for them to blame women than to work on changing themselves.
A huge asset to women’s subjugation is convincing them that “men are visual creatures” to force them into a never ending cycle of policing their looks, hyperfocusing on every aspect of their aesthetics to appeal to men. To convince someone that they will only be loved if they’re beautiful is a very powerful means of convincing them that beauty should be their only goal. In a way, it also creates a self-perpetuating feedback loop where the woman begins to objectify herself, allowing for her external objectification to become that much easier. It urges women to not seek academic/financial/spiritual/etc. power nor self-actualization. Since the sexes are considered dichotomous, for the man to be the visual creature, the woman cannot be. For a woman to be a visual creature, as well, would grant women too much autonomy in their sexuality, it would erase the notion that sex is something done to a woman, not something that a woman does. It also would put men in a position of having to do the work that goes into being “beautiful”, and the pain that comes along with it, and I don’t think most are equipped to handle that.
I absolutely revel in telling men I find them unattractive and that’s why I won’t date them. I love telling men that I have very specific aesthetic preferences: specific hair color, hair length, facial features, weight, etc. because it drives them insane that I won’t just settle for a “personality” like I’m supposed to.
Guys hear this crap and put their faith in it because it’s an excuse for why they have no luck with the ladies, so they don’t have to accept responsibility for their sh!tty personalities.
Yeah exactly they’re completely wrong about it, I’m a visual creature AND I want the money /s
Meanwhile, in/r/fauxmoi:
“famous men wearing slutty little glasses”
Because women keep rejecting him, even if he’s tall and works out.
It must be that women are shallow- not that he obviously hates women. And every single woman he meets knows it.
Everytime my husband strips to shower or change I go “Woooooooo!!! BRING SOME OF THAT MY WAY WHEN YOURE DONE!” And other such things. Also butt/junk grabs everytime one of us walks past the other. Also pther reasons I think he’d very much say I have a higher sex drive than him lol
>Where did this narrative come from and why do so many people take it for granted like it’s some kind of fact of life?
Ya ever heard the song “Diamonds are a girl’s best friend”? Or even watched the movie “Gentlemen prefer Blondes” -aka where the song originated?
If you didn’t -the movie kinda explains it perfectly: For decades, if not millenia, looks weren’t needed for men. Only their money, heroics etc. Women meanwhile, were tbf not purely chosen on looks at first (status of the family mattered more), but even then, their looks were praised as a big element of womanhood & worth. “Women are oversexualized and men are undersexualized” -as the phrase goes.
After status became less rigid, women became a bit more freed…but only so much. In fact. Looks still decided a fuckton. Want that secretary job? Better look pretty for the boss. Want to have better financial independence? Get suitors that gift you jewlery that you can pawn just in case. So. In a sense. “Women are prettier than men”, also kinda got pushed by other women after a while. Not because women stopped wanting pretty men -but simply out of survival. As Marilyn Monroe’s iconic quote: “Don’t you know that a man being rich is like a girl being pretty? You wouldn’t marry a girl just because she’s pretty, but my goodness, doesn’t it help?” (i.e. “beauty” is traded for financial stability)
Nowadays, we like to believe these standards are gone. Y’know. Because women are allowed to go to college, take many jobs etc. But…let’s be real. Those standards never disappeared -they just changed.
Seriously. Let’s ignore the Incels for now -I’ve seen & had it pushed by a lot of women too. “Who cares if he’s pretty, as long he does the dishes” to put it in a nutshell. Women after women, who essentially brag about “not caring for looks”. Women after women, who tell you to “give him a chance anyway, maybe attraction develops over time”. Who cares if he’s pretty -after all, we all end up ugly. Who cares if he’s pretty -and if he is, he’s going to disappear like hotcakes. Who cares if he’s pretty -and if you still want one…then maybe see that you’re half a supermodel. Otherwise stop complaining and “stay in your league”.
Again. Don’t get me wrong: If you really do not care about looks -more power to you. But some people like it visual and shouldn’t be shamed. After all, “if a girl spends all of her time worrying about the attraction she doesn’t have, how is she going to have any time for being in love?”
I think on their minds there’s no continuum. Just gold diggers and women who want a 6ft 10 tall guy with a Pringles can for a dick. You’re either one, the other or both. Nothing in between, or entirely separate is possible. This maximizes incel self-loathing, which is of course the goal.